The first thing you need to know about any relationship is there is no one that should tell you what to do and what not to do. This is your relationship, with this person; you have chosen to spend time with! It does not make a difference if you live together or not, it is the choice you have made with him! It will all fall into place when you both have opened up to one another! The things you need to consider are that any relationship takes time, work and effort from both of you. There is always the first few steps you take that all seem to be so wonderful, and they are to the too of you. Then after things calm down and you both are use to things and comfortable with one another, you may find yourself either wondering how you got so lucky, or how you were so wrong. No matter you will have grown and learned from your relationship you have together. The one thing you must do if you want this to work out for both of you is to communicate with one another about everything. Keep an open mind he has friends that are intimate with him on a different level then the two of you are intimate together. You have friends that you are intimate with on the same level as he is intimate with his friends. You will share your life as equals. If you want this to work for both of you then you both have to be honest, trust, respect, and walk hand in hand. If you doubt things do not assume! The best thing to do is to talk about everything if you can not do that with one another then you will not get anywhere with one another. One of you will be left with a scar on your heart and tear in your eyes and the other will be trying to pick up the pieces and move on in life.
Yes, I have had a long distance relationship, and I am now living the dream I once had!
I have a beautiful wife, and a wonderful family with a new baby girl that is 7 months old:)
Good Luck and just don鈥檛 worry about it!!
bbgunn :)This is for anyone who is or has been in a LONG-DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP. Advice PLEASE?
Make sure you get to know him try have a taster before the final move. It can work but its so much harder! try take it slow and make sure you have your own life.Hobbies, uni, work etc
Don't assume anything.
He may assume you'll do something and you may assume he'll do something. Just talk over who'll do what. If you're not ok with how the work/chores are split up, talk about it. If you and his level of cleanliness dont' match up, discuss it first. Expectations and needs. Privacy. Etc. Talk talk talk.
I had a long distance relationship for 4 years, before moving to his state. We got married a year later. (No longer married, as we were young, and in the end it didn't work out. We wanted different things in life)
My advice:
Don't give up things where you are now. Keep your apartment and job where you are now for at least a week. I know you can't hold the job very long, but hold the apartment for a month as possible. Stay with him for at least a month before you let it go.
Someone who is perfect in letters, on the phone, or in email, might be different in person. Maybe you sleep with the lights off, and he keeps them on. Maybe he smokes and you don't, and you'll discover you can't live with it. Maybe one of you is a slob, and the other a neat freak. Maybe he smokes pot or drinks and you don't agree with it, or there are religious differences, or you'll hate his family, or...Maybe, worst case scenario, he lied about something, and you won't find out til you get there. God forbid, maybe he's abusive. I know you're thinking, ';we can work through all that';, but you'll find out that sometimes things you thought were fixable really aren't once you live with them. You need the option to go back home if it doesn't work out.
Good luck
I did it once and it ended quickly. Not to say it will happen to you, but remember, this is VERY different from being far away from each other. You two will have to get used to being in each others space, using each others things, etc. Communications going to have to be huge here. Make sure all rules and guidelines are established and you two are on the same page before moving in. Also, remember before moving...you are leaving behind your home and friends and basically starting over. If it doesn't work out, you are on your own.
well,first have yall been seenin eachother? then if yall move n it will b okay because yallgonna wanna b wit eachother,but jus dnt b together all da time cuz u might get tired of him.but if you really love him u wuld give it a shot.me n mines didnt end quickly,its all bout da trust,respect,honesty
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