Long distance relationship advice please?

SO, I've never thought this about anyone, but the guy I've been dating for a little over a month could quite possibly be my soul mate. We are absolutely perfect for eachother...We have EVERYTHING in common and the funny thing is is that 2 people have told me he reminds them of my dad. Problem is, hes 2 hours a way, we both have full time jobs and we both graduate in a few weeks.





Well, everything has seemed to be perfect for us or so i think...but, i have kind of sensed something a little fishy. He told me about a week and a half ago not to worry that he would be there when i graduate and has talked ab us being together for a long time...but, i feel i must have done something.





i dont know what it was, maybe i was psycho twds him bc i have been a little stressed out taking 19 hrs but he has a very kind heart. only thing is is that he doesnt call me like i think he should. it just seems something is up...like last night i was suppose to get a call from him and he never called...i mean, am i over analyzing this?





ive had abussive relationships in the past and have a hard time trusting people...i shut my phone off at 10 last night so i could get my priorities straight--school. im just scared to death bc i want us to work out so bad and every little thing that goes wrong i dont know what to do so i go into hiding and act like nothings up...ugh..ur thoughts?Long distance relationship advice please?
You both are graduating and working full time. You are taking an overload of classes, approaching graduation and you still feel one or two missed calls is a big deal? That sounds like your baggage speaking. Just schedule a date in any mutual spare time. Text thinking of you messages (please limit to once a day if you don't want to be known as a clingy psycho chick,) and enjoy your busy life. He's busy too.





BTW: 2 hours drive is not a long distance relationship.Long distance relationship advice please?
Well i have had a lot of long distance relationships I think you just need to worry about school and work right now and spend as much time as possiable with him.It sounds like you do love him just be


careful. When you do spend time with him let him know you love him


and let him know your worried mabey you guys can work things out together.
Hes probably not quite sure how he feels after only a month. Maybe hes backing off a bit because of the distance thing or maybe he doesn't feel quite as strongly as you do. After all, a month is not a very long time to be dating someone before you can label them your ';soulmate';.
I am massively curious. You said ';i have kind of sensed something a little fishy'; and ';but, i feel i must have done something';. Really? what did you sense? and what is it you felt you did?





Come on, sweetie. Give us some detail.
Yes, you are over analyzing. Give him a break. Perhaps he was tired or something came up. Why do you expect him to call when you think he should? Doesn't he have a voice or mind of his own? Can't he call when he wants to?
Guys are just a little insensitive or girls are just a little over sensitive..You were waiting for his call while he probably thought you were busy and would call him when you're free..Not much you can do..Tel him to call when he says he's gonna call..and stop worrying so much!
Love distance relationships are hard. I think you should work on praying for another relationships.
If it don't come easy let it go.
u worry for no reasons...all is well n wil b fine between u n ur guy.....good luck....
Try and calm down, first of all. Second of all, I've learned that 1 - you need to talk to him, and 2- the more time you go without talking to him.. the more time you have to go NUTS. Your mind is scrambling and you're thinking a million things. Think about whats important to you.. and how this relationship has been making you feel. Maybe he forgot, fell asleep, got caught up in school - you guys are both really busy right now. Perhaps you have trust issues, and if he does make a little slip up.. it will be a big dramatic thing to you. You have to communicate with him. Communication is key.. its everything. Let him know how you feel.. maybe he doesn't notice he's been slipping. maybe he has to try harder..maybe this maybe that.. the list goes on and on.. just talk to him.
Thats one think you cant trust is a long distance relationship....You probably dont even hang out as much what u know what he does and what does he know what you do... think about it... ur 2 hours away from him u can be doing anything u want all day would he know specially if he doesnt call you.....





maybe he's playing hard to get....


u should maybe just date him but dont talke anything too far untill u get to know him a lil more ofthen...


i got an idea do u listen to WAR OF THE ROSES well make one of ur friends call him and protend they are some red roses ppl and they giving out free roses and ask him who would he like to send em to lol and see if he has u in mind....
Hmm...





Don't worry, I'm in the same situation, but I've gotten over it. And yes, it really is a trust issue. Both of you are in love, and you need to ask yourself are you guys so much in a love not to go behind each other's back and lose that love?





Love is love. And it is not crazy to commit oneself to another over the distance. My love and I are 2500 miles apart, but we remain on the phone, and I can trust him with all my heart. Ironically, I'm talking with him and I practically do that everyday.





It's a matter of trust like you said, and it helps if you talk to him about stuff like that. I sure did and was relieved after some tears and all, but it was for the best in the end.





But despite all of that, good luck. ^_^



Human relationship is very complicated especially in the modern society. Everyone is very perplexed in dealing with this dilemma .


Yes, in the world, there are a lot of long distance relationship problems. But bear in mind, every breaking up may be just because of a small trivia. Here is my advices.





In summarizing the whole passage, you have pointed out two points.(maybe i miss some!) First, you do not know you should call him or not. Second, you are afraid of breaking up with him since u had suffered a hard time trusting people.





If i were u, i would call him as soon as possible. He is not others, he is your bf. You have a power to tell him that you need him, you love him, you miss him. He is the person you like most. Trust me, he indeed wanna miss u every time and everywhere , only if he loves you in heart, i supposed .





Before i give the solution on next concern, i really commiserate your situation. Having a hard time on trusting is very unhappy and upset.


i had a trauma before as like u. So, i totally understand the difficulties that u face now. However, i have already surmounted it. Yes, it is very hard for u to trust everyone , but u need to overcome it .


You need to step forward to open your mind to accept your friends' views. Trust me , you can , at least i can. If you do not mind, it is my pleasure to be one of your friend.





Generally speaking, i hope the mentioned above can help you ...Good luck, you can do it .... i hope you can maintain a good relationsip with him...
I think that women think a million times more than men about this type of thing. What women run through their mind over and over again doesn't even cross men's minds.





I also think that women often mirror relationships that were very formative to them in their young years in their dating years. That means that sometimes the people you date have similarities to your father or someone who was a father-figure. Conversely, if a father was absent or a poor parent, sometimes his daughter will learn a lesson from this and shy away from men who exhibit similar qualities. Unless you and your father had a really bad relationship, I would not be very concerned that the man has traits that your father has, too.





However, I would be concerned with how you're reacting. Stop right now and take a reality check. You think you were ';psycho'; to him? Yikes. Then you probably were. Go buy a nice card right now. Write a short (men don't want to read looooooonnnng drawn out messages) note to him. Something like ';I'm sorry I haven't treated you the way to deserve to be treated. I let the stress of school and the holidays get in the way. Now I see that I was wrong and I want you to know I miss you very much. I'm going to try my hardest to do better.'; Then send it to him ASAP.





From here on out, just look forward and be better. You may have been hurt in the past, but now you're letting the past be like an anchor holding you back. Sometimes you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.





Good luck.
Your over analyzing.





Its been a month you said? Chill out, get to know each other better.


My partner and I are much farther apart then you (I'm in Florida, my Partner is in Oklahoma) so we only get to see each other 1ce every 4 or 5 months.





We've been together 8 months.





Stop stressing. So he didnt call, BS. He was probably busy and wanted to call after 10, maybe he's mad he couldnt reach you?





If something is bothering you, talk about it. And stop stressing over the tiny things. Are the small things that go wrong worth losing the love of your life over?





relax. go have a beer. talk calmly. CHILL OUT =]
My advice is not to let past relationships affect the current one you are in. Just because people have treated you bad in the past doesnt mean every guy that comes along will do the same...Give him a chance....If he works and goes to school or leads a busy life then maybe something came up and he couldnt call...dont jump the gun cause that will just make him run....





Long distance relationships are hard but the key is to have good communication....you guys need to sit and talk about where you stand....are you exclusive? has that been made clear?





talk...that is the key to making a relationship work....