Long Distance Relationship Advice?

My boyfriend and I are currently in a long distance relationship. We have been going out for a year and a half, and are young (18 %26amp; 19) but have been through a lot. (My mom in the hospital during the holidays, me going away to college, and going through depression and anxiety) and have been there for each other through it all. Recently however, he went to college and is about 5 hours away from me. We talk everyday mainly through text messages, but sometimes it feels like we aren't even in a relationship.





Lately, we have both kind of lost the ';feelings'; of being in love. However, when i think about breaking up with him or him being with other people i get really upset, when we are together we do still get those happy feelings, and when i am around him i am typically just happy and comfortable. Is this normal that those feelings go away?





I am a very anxious person, so i worry a lot about this. I've talked to a lot of people and read a lot of things that assure me this is all normal, and that after a while those feelings do disappear and it turns into ';mature love';, where you are commited to each other, and love is a desicion to be with that person through it all, not just about those feelings. Anyone who has been in a long distance relationship or even in a long, committed relationship, do you agree? Is it normal to lose those feelings after a while, yet still be in love? Long Distance Relationship Advice?
whew. okay here goes. I've been in a long distance relationship for 5 years now. We met at 16 in which during that time i lost my grandmother whom i was very close to. I also suffered from anxiety of being close to people. We worked through it and we were great.





Then after 9 months he had to return home. He lives in Germany and i'm in California. I hit depression when he had to leave, i thought about how i was losing my support system, my best friend. I wanted to break up before he hurt me. But he convinced me to give it a try and to not give up becuase of the distance.





so we worked at it. I hated being so far away from him. Every week i would cry because our communication relied on emails, nothing like the face to face communication we used to have. I started to think of how much easier it would be to date others, i thought a lot about breakinig up, but like you i could not imagine my life without him.





As time went on i got over my crying and realized how much he was trying to make it work so i stopped mopping, and i found ways to make it better. We got webcams so we could see on another online, that was great. We got Skype online so that we could talk online, could hear his voice now, that was better. I started to tell him about my day more, i kept him informed about everything, no matter how stupid i though it was to say. I told him random stories or asked him random questions just to make the conversation interesting. And after 5 years we are still going strong, we get into a few ruts sometimes but we are happy.





so yes, over time the feeling will diminish. But it all has to do with you, and your BF. If you both really want it to work it can. communication is key, so think about more than just texting. I think i've written too much on here. Email me if you have more questions, i hope i helped:).