I like her but she's in a Long Distance relationship, advice?

We are both in our first year of college, in different programs. We're both 18, We've been hanging out alot lately, drinking and going to parties with friends and such. after the first/second week hanging out with her she added me on facebook and it says shes got a bf. before we started hanging out, her facebook status says stuff like ';i miss my boyfriend'; and stuff. It hasnt since. The strange thing is, she's never mentioned, neither have her friends that she has a BF.


I know that long distance relationships dont work/wont work through the 3 years of college.. I feel bad and i don't want to put her in a situation she has to deal with daily temptations.. I can tell shes really into me. If i make a move, and shes not interested in that way, theres a chance ill lose this friendship.


Should I just mask my feelings and remain friends until this relationship dissolves? Any advice or people that have had the same kind of problem?I like her but she's in a Long Distance relationship, advice?
I would give it a bit more time and keep checking that facebook page to see if the boyfriend surfaces or if there are comments.


I would still be as friendly as possible and yet not make ';the move'; quite yet. Also, the old fashioned ';grape vine'; as they call it isn't a bad idea. Ask one of her friends if she still has the boyfriend and indicate you have an interest but don't want to make a move if she is ';taken';. If I know girls (and I sure do) it will get back to her that you are interested, guys do the same thing too, I think. : ) So, if you hear back that she isn't ';into you that way'; then you just stay friends and find someone else, but you could get the green light and that would be cool.


Hope it works out.I like her but she's in a Long Distance relationship, advice?
Just so you know, I'm the mom of an 18 and 20 year old. Did my share of drinking in my day, so am no angel. But, as a parental figure, do want to point out that I find it sad that you guys are at college, only 18 and drinking so much. Hope you find time to get to know her sober and like her.

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You shouldn't make a move on a girl who has a boyfriend.. Think about how you would feel if your girlfriend was away from you and some guy was making his move on her.. not cool. It's true that they probably won't last, so you should just stick it out. Maybe let her know you are interested, if she doesn't already know, but leave it up to her from there. Don't be the guy on the side- if she cheats on him, she'll cheat on you.
Hmmm....tough one. But anytime someone's taken....that person's off limits even if it's a long distance thing. (put yourself in the her bf's shoes, and see if you like it). So my advice is to remain friends with her. Once she breaks up, still wait because you don't want to be a rebound. Wait a little...then POUNCE!
Make a move.





(Slowly..)








The relationship won't last.. so why not speed it up so you can catch her when things fall apart with the other guy?

















Just take it slow. She'll give you signals. Eventually she'll realize that it's probably best for her. ;)





























Go get 'er tiger. hahaha.
I would let her make the 1st ';move';. She is the one in the relationship. Plus, how would you feel if you were her BF and some guy was trying to make time with your girl....its a bad feeling. Just let it run its course, be a good friend to her.
dont be naive. just ask her about her boyfriend. she'll either lie, tell the truth or evade the question. ask more than once in the next coming months. or just wait it out until she tells you herself.


you have a friendship. enjoy.
Don't feel bad and dont wait until the relationship dissolves. College is all about hooking up with as many people as you can, and she knows that.
ii tihnk you should make your Friendship allot stronger


let her come to you when ever you need her


hey you might end up meeting her oneday



i reckon just go for it, but not like full-on!! if she likes you to then why not!! its college most relationships wont last especially not long distance ones!


have fun!
I would say make a move.
if you hide that can damage you for life because this can be your wife who knows?But just Ask a friend to ask her for you or do the old make up a s.n trick you just make a s.n tell a friend to go on it and ask her things for you like Do you like him?You think you both should go out and she wouldnt know your up to it its just a curious friend who thinks you both should get togther.Just make a friend add her and talk to her.Friends is the key thats why thier your friends


And most probably she might go out with you to get over that old bf of hers And after that if you dont mess up thats a chance of a life time