In a new long distance relationship and need advice?

I've been with my boyfriend 9 months and he just left for military school 2000 miles away for 6 months. It's a really laid back school, training for new job, has weekends off and gets to live off the base with the guys from back home. We're both early 30s. So he has probably as much free time now as he did before. We were never really phone people, I'd much rather make plans over the phone, talk in person. But since he left a week ago we talk and text even less than before, and no good morning texts. I know he's got free time and if I call him he's usually just hangin out or running errands, he sounds all happy and content. Is he just focused on his job down there or is it out of sight out of mind? I'm not a phone person either but with the distance I think I need it more and I don't want to be doing all of the texting calling. A few texts a day just isn't enough for me knowing he can do more. Am I being needy? Should I tell him this or will it make me seem clingy and scare him off?In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
Mornings are the worst when it comes to ';free time';. He probably has drills that need to be done before even getting to class. He's also probably very concentrated on schooling. He just wants to get it right and move on. Expecting lots of texts and phone calls from him when you already admitted that neither of you are phone people is a little silly. Why not try other forms of communication, such as letter writing? That being said, men aren't big on letter writing, texting and phone calls in general, so I just wouldn't expect too much. Relationships should be 50/50 though. If he's not willing to put in some effort to keep the relationship going, then perhaps its time to move on. Just remember that this separation is temporary. He'll be home eventually.In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
This is from experience.


He is concentrating on his job. Yes, he misses you. Believe me, he does. But when guys get around guys, you know how it is. They have to feel like they are just as strong as the other men on base. When other guys have no ladies at home waiting on a call and your man is calling you, they find it rude. So no worries hunni! As long as you get SOMETHING your good to go.=]
'; I just need to know the other person is as commited as I am';





You NEED to know?





What happened to trust? If you agreed that you'd stay together for 6 months... then you accept ';whatever'; until he tells you (or you tell him) that you've found some one else.








He doesn't NEED to text you every morning....or do cartwheels everytime you call....
There is no reason to worry about anything. Why worry? It doesn't do anyone any good at all. He probably is just concentrating on his work and such. You need to work on your ';TRUST'; issues.
give it time he just left last week. let him come to you. he may not realize what he is doing being in a new environment and all. but seeing as how you won't get to see each other as much as before you will have to communicate in other ways...letters, phone, IM, webcam, Myspace, any form of communication. just make sure you do your part, and let him know you are there for him. he is prob just adjusting. as you are thinking of him, i'm sure he's thinking of you. give it time, and hope this all helps.