so I just met this amazing guy and we have really great chemistry together, but I just found out by one of his friend's that he's in a long distance relationship. So I have kinda been avoiding him so that I don't flirt and what not. I don't want to ruin his relationship that he's had for a year, but I really like him. Any advice? Oh and is it true that long distance relationships don't work out? thanx again.I really like this guy, but he's in a long distance relationship. I need some advice! help!?
I think it's very mature and respectful of you to back off knowing that he's in a relationship. :) With that said, I wouldn't try anything because he's still with his girlfriend. Be respectful of their relationship. You can still be friends, but you'd have to keep your distance and know your limits.
And no, long distance relationships definitely do work. They are just different and require an extra degree of trust, communication, and work, among other things.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I have known this man for 7 yrs now he lives in another country.
he claimed to love me and wanted to marry me%26gt; but like two weeks ago he just quit writing me after we had a chat session%26gt; after i told him i would not help him with geting a visa to the usa and i would not ask my family to help with this.
then he wrote to me again and somehow he had found a post where i had asked a question on yahoo. if anyone knew him%26gt; and he seen it and sent it to me.he then told me that was not his real name%26gt; he said think god you didnt know my real name.
i have tryed contacting him to just see if he would answer back
and he hasnt so for%26gt; i feel he has made a fool out of me after seven yrs%26gt; he has done this before and showed back up. and dum me let him by with it.i feel angery and hurt but%26gt; i feel like geting even with him%26gt; any advice would do on this please help?Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
Many men from poor developing countries are anxious to get away from the poverty back home.
Consequently, they get online and find a girl that's anxious to find a man. They pretend to fall in love and say sweet stuff to her.
She grins from ear to ear. Never has anyone treated her with such amazing kindness!
Then they promise to marry her. And treat her like a woman deserves to be treated . . . like a queen.
She's ecstatic!
Once they have won her confidence, they begin to make demands.
One of the demands they will make is that she should get them a visa to the U.S. or the country of her residence so they can get married.
Once she does that and they get to the U.S., they disappear.
You're lucky to have decided not participate in the marriage fraud attempt by this guy.
Should you hurt him?
Sounds like a good idea on the outside. But in the long run, you will be hurting yourself because you will end up spending valuable time on scheming his demise.
That won't make you eternally happy.
Read more about marriage fraud at . . .Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I am sorry to say it but long distance relationship usually dont work i know 1st hand. its tough but you have to let go.
Long distant relationships never work out. You never know what or who they are doing. Find someone local.
After seven years, you don't know his real name? x_X
I've heard of another incident where a woman left a man simply 'cause he wouldn't help her get a visa into the USA. =/
Getting even at him, won't do anything helpful. You might as well ask him if there's anything you can do to help him besides getting the visa. You must have a good reason to not help this man, right? Even if he said he wanted to marry you.
I'd leave it alone, and find someone new. LDR's are hard enough without there being ill-will on either side, especially if they have continued for 7 years.
Sounds like he was using you for a visa.
Find someone who wants you for you.coupons moon drops
he claimed to love me and wanted to marry me%26gt; but like two weeks ago he just quit writing me after we had a chat session%26gt; after i told him i would not help him with geting a visa to the usa and i would not ask my family to help with this.
then he wrote to me again and somehow he had found a post where i had asked a question on yahoo. if anyone knew him%26gt; and he seen it and sent it to me.he then told me that was not his real name%26gt; he said think god you didnt know my real name.
i have tryed contacting him to just see if he would answer back
and he hasnt so for%26gt; i feel he has made a fool out of me after seven yrs%26gt; he has done this before and showed back up. and dum me let him by with it.i feel angery and hurt but%26gt; i feel like geting even with him%26gt; any advice would do on this please help?Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
Many men from poor developing countries are anxious to get away from the poverty back home.
Consequently, they get online and find a girl that's anxious to find a man. They pretend to fall in love and say sweet stuff to her.
She grins from ear to ear. Never has anyone treated her with such amazing kindness!
Then they promise to marry her. And treat her like a woman deserves to be treated . . . like a queen.
She's ecstatic!
Once they have won her confidence, they begin to make demands.
One of the demands they will make is that she should get them a visa to the U.S. or the country of her residence so they can get married.
Once she does that and they get to the U.S., they disappear.
You're lucky to have decided not participate in the marriage fraud attempt by this guy.
Should you hurt him?
Sounds like a good idea on the outside. But in the long run, you will be hurting yourself because you will end up spending valuable time on scheming his demise.
That won't make you eternally happy.
Read more about marriage fraud at . . .Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I am sorry to say it but long distance relationship usually dont work i know 1st hand. its tough but you have to let go.
Long distant relationships never work out. You never know what or who they are doing. Find someone local.
After seven years, you don't know his real name? x_X
I've heard of another incident where a woman left a man simply 'cause he wouldn't help her get a visa into the USA. =/
Getting even at him, won't do anything helpful. You might as well ask him if there's anything you can do to help him besides getting the visa. You must have a good reason to not help this man, right? Even if he said he wanted to marry you.
I'd leave it alone, and find someone new. LDR's are hard enough without there being ill-will on either side, especially if they have continued for 7 years.
Sounds like he was using you for a visa.
Find someone who wants you for you.
Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
i did it with a girl in china, but i can afford it. if you can trust each other and be faithfull and make arrangments to meet on occasion then of course it can work. both should get skype cams. phone calls would not cost you at all as well as emailing each other often. i married my china doll and is the best thing i ever did.Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
Distance really shouldn't be used as a measure of the likelihood of a relationship working or failing, because it isn't.
I suggest you talk as often as possible, try for at least every second day, and have good topics to discuss. You should discuss what happened in your days, etc. but you should also discuss other issues. Get a topic to discuss, e.g. a tv program you both enjoy, or a book you've both read. You should also aim to discuss more important issues, like your fears, desires and future plans. If you're in a normal relationship, this kind of discussion will come normal. If you're long distance, you have to focus to make it work.
The better your communication, the more you will trust each other, and the easier it will be for you to commit to each other. Communication, commitment and trust are the three pillars of a long distance relationship. Work on those 3 and you'll be fine.
You should still try and see each other as often as possible. I'm not going to give you a time limit like ';every four weeks';, etc. Figure out what you can afford to do and plan your life around it. Friends of mine only managed to see each other every 3 months for over a year, and it worked out fine for them. We personally tried for every 4-6 weeks (usually only for a weekend).Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
its nothing harm in long distance relationship, as long as you both are having good and proper understanding for eachother. Trust, love %26amp; carings are the main key features for this type of relations....
Its nothing harm at all........ You should carry on with this if u are involve with someone. Good luck %26amp; God bless you.
It's not impossible, but not advisable.
Long distant relations do not have physical contact and that is the downfall for most who try to challenge it.
its so boring am tellin you..no kisses,no hugs just empty memories of how happy you used to be.........
Distance really shouldn't be used as a measure of the likelihood of a relationship working or failing, because it isn't.
I suggest you talk as often as possible, try for at least every second day, and have good topics to discuss. You should discuss what happened in your days, etc. but you should also discuss other issues. Get a topic to discuss, e.g. a tv program you both enjoy, or a book you've both read. You should also aim to discuss more important issues, like your fears, desires and future plans. If you're in a normal relationship, this kind of discussion will come normal. If you're long distance, you have to focus to make it work.
The better your communication, the more you will trust each other, and the easier it will be for you to commit to each other. Communication, commitment and trust are the three pillars of a long distance relationship. Work on those 3 and you'll be fine.
You should still try and see each other as often as possible. I'm not going to give you a time limit like ';every four weeks';, etc. Figure out what you can afford to do and plan your life around it. Friends of mine only managed to see each other every 3 months for over a year, and it worked out fine for them. We personally tried for every 4-6 weeks (usually only for a weekend).Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
its nothing harm in long distance relationship, as long as you both are having good and proper understanding for eachother. Trust, love %26amp; carings are the main key features for this type of relations....
Its nothing harm at all........ You should carry on with this if u are involve with someone. Good luck %26amp; God bless you.
It's not impossible, but not advisable.
Long distant relations do not have physical contact and that is the downfall for most who try to challenge it.
its so boring am tellin you..no kisses,no hugs just empty memories of how happy you used to be.........
Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
my best friend introduced me to one of her closest cousins a few months ago. since then, he and i have clicked. we talk about life, love, relationships, anything to make the conversation going. he even wrote a love song for me, which is a first timer for him because he has never wrote a love song for anyone, even his exes. it was mostly based on breakups. even my best friend told me he's telling the truth because they talked about it a few times. i received a msg from him, asying that he wants to ask me an important question that he hopes would make both of us happy. some i asked have said he may ask me out, but the thing is, he lives about 300 miles from me, though we live in the same state. i want to go for it, but i'm scared of the outcome, knowing that i have fallen for him already. any advice? i can surely need it at this point.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
They can work, but they are really really hard. You both need to put 100% in it and fully realize that you need to trust each other. It is easy the first few months, but you wil lsee everyone around you with there partners and everything will remind you of him. It is going to make you bitter, mad, and jealous. The times you have together will be sweet, but going your seperate ways will be twice as hard.
If you love him and he loves you, then go for it. make it work for you.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
on;y way it can work is if you both have the resources to travel back and forth to see each other. without the ability to do that,your visits tend to be rare and that does not make for a good relationship. in order to have a healthy relationship you need to know each other in person
If you are younger than 16 I would just keep this guy as a conversational friend and not try to persue any other kind of relationship. Long distance is hard enough on people with jobs and driver's licenses - and even then they usually don't work out. If you and this guy really have a connection, just stay in touch and wait - you never know what conditions may change. Tying yourself down to someone who is far away can severely mess up your social life, and may cause you to miss out on things you will regret missing later on.
鈾?I think that if you both want it to work then it can. I was in a long distance relationship with my fiace before I moved a state away to be with her. It was hard, especially when I was upset or something happened in my family... but we got through it. She visited me as often as she possibly could and we burned up our cell phone %26amp; txt messaging bills, etc. You both have to sit down %26amp; decide which risks you are both willing to take... it can work but only if ya'll want it to. Good Luck!
honestly hun, follow your heart,
it does not matter what is right or what is wrong ok all you remember is
what would happen if you never followed your heart would you regret it!!!! i think you would
well i think it depends on how many times you see or talk to each other. well in my opinion don't do it.
Ok -- I'll be honest, my boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for 5 monthes now, and we live 35minutes away from one another - even then it's hard to see each other w| school, and work.. We've managed right now, but sometimes we go all wk without seeing one another. Sooo....going 300 miles would be a lot!
GOOD LUCK!~
yea
give it a shot and if it doesnt work ........
well at least you'll know.
It only works if the time apart is for a short while. If there is not a serious discussion relatively soon as to who will move (either you to him, or him to you), then let it go. Others will tell you different, and I am sure there are some rare stories of prolonged seperations where everything ends up ';magical'; in the end - But that is very rare.
Also, it depends on your age, both chronologically and your true mental age. If you are real young -let it go. Either way, it will all work out in the end -one way or another. Good luck.
They can definately work out as long as both of you put everything into it. I was in a long distance relationship for a long time and she ended up moving in with me and now we are engaged set to be married next year. There just needs to be 100% from both of you and everything will work out fine. And, move closer to each other soon, Don't make it long distance forever.
first know if both of you are in the right age and fully understand what love is, for the outcome still rely on both of your understanding's, neither do i'am in your kind a situation, what we do is we always keep in touch through what ever gadgets we have and trust... though its hard, we always come up to a way where we can set a schedule for us to meet in a place, doesn't matter weather i go to a country where she was or the place where i am...
honestly NO i dont think so because you neva know what that person is doing and being honest with u
my cousin has been dating a guy 2yrs long distance. She is in new york and he is in maryland. Things are great she says u get 2 know each other on a different level, and u get more creative. U never knoww till u try.
yes they can work. My sister has been in college in Kentucky for 4 years, while her fiance has been here in missouri. And they are going to get married when she graduates this summer. Its stressful, but you can do it. It takes ALOT of hard work, trust, commitment, patience, and a million other things. It wont be easy, but if you love this guy, and think your meant for eachother, then go for it! Everything happens for a reason, and whether positive or negative things have a way of working themselves out for the better in the long run. Good luck!
They can work, but they are really really hard. You both need to put 100% in it and fully realize that you need to trust each other. It is easy the first few months, but you wil lsee everyone around you with there partners and everything will remind you of him. It is going to make you bitter, mad, and jealous. The times you have together will be sweet, but going your seperate ways will be twice as hard.
If you love him and he loves you, then go for it. make it work for you.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
on;y way it can work is if you both have the resources to travel back and forth to see each other. without the ability to do that,your visits tend to be rare and that does not make for a good relationship. in order to have a healthy relationship you need to know each other in person
If you are younger than 16 I would just keep this guy as a conversational friend and not try to persue any other kind of relationship. Long distance is hard enough on people with jobs and driver's licenses - and even then they usually don't work out. If you and this guy really have a connection, just stay in touch and wait - you never know what conditions may change. Tying yourself down to someone who is far away can severely mess up your social life, and may cause you to miss out on things you will regret missing later on.
鈾?I think that if you both want it to work then it can. I was in a long distance relationship with my fiace before I moved a state away to be with her. It was hard, especially when I was upset or something happened in my family... but we got through it. She visited me as often as she possibly could and we burned up our cell phone %26amp; txt messaging bills, etc. You both have to sit down %26amp; decide which risks you are both willing to take... it can work but only if ya'll want it to. Good Luck!
honestly hun, follow your heart,
it does not matter what is right or what is wrong ok all you remember is
what would happen if you never followed your heart would you regret it!!!! i think you would
well i think it depends on how many times you see or talk to each other. well in my opinion don't do it.
Ok -- I'll be honest, my boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for 5 monthes now, and we live 35minutes away from one another - even then it's hard to see each other w| school, and work.. We've managed right now, but sometimes we go all wk without seeing one another. Sooo....going 300 miles would be a lot!
GOOD LUCK!~
yea
give it a shot and if it doesnt work ........
well at least you'll know.
It only works if the time apart is for a short while. If there is not a serious discussion relatively soon as to who will move (either you to him, or him to you), then let it go. Others will tell you different, and I am sure there are some rare stories of prolonged seperations where everything ends up ';magical'; in the end - But that is very rare.
Also, it depends on your age, both chronologically and your true mental age. If you are real young -let it go. Either way, it will all work out in the end -one way or another. Good luck.
They can definately work out as long as both of you put everything into it. I was in a long distance relationship for a long time and she ended up moving in with me and now we are engaged set to be married next year. There just needs to be 100% from both of you and everything will work out fine. And, move closer to each other soon, Don't make it long distance forever.
first know if both of you are in the right age and fully understand what love is, for the outcome still rely on both of your understanding's, neither do i'am in your kind a situation, what we do is we always keep in touch through what ever gadgets we have and trust... though its hard, we always come up to a way where we can set a schedule for us to meet in a place, doesn't matter weather i go to a country where she was or the place where i am...
honestly NO i dont think so because you neva know what that person is doing and being honest with u
my cousin has been dating a guy 2yrs long distance. She is in new york and he is in maryland. Things are great she says u get 2 know each other on a different level, and u get more creative. U never knoww till u try.
yes they can work. My sister has been in college in Kentucky for 4 years, while her fiance has been here in missouri. And they are going to get married when she graduates this summer. Its stressful, but you can do it. It takes ALOT of hard work, trust, commitment, patience, and a million other things. It wont be easy, but if you love this guy, and think your meant for eachother, then go for it! Everything happens for a reason, and whether positive or negative things have a way of working themselves out for the better in the long run. Good luck!
What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
He said he'll write later , should I wait or send him an email if he hasn't write?
He's pretty busy, just came back from a business trip and he send me an email asking how I was, so I shortly replied and then he commented but said he was sorry for writing that short email but he was very busy and that'll write later.
well that was almost a week ago. Should I wait or write to him in a couple of days more?What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
ggive him a couple of days to write back
i know it kills me too to know about my love but i wait for him to write me.
that way he knows that he has his space.you don't wanna be too clingy and (no offense) writing him too much seems clingy.
if he doesnt write back in like 4 days then write him just casually don't bring up the old email or demand to know why he didn't write you.
just write something like
hey baby.what's up
something casual
hope i helped
%26lt;3Cesar's baby%26lt;3What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
Best of luck with your relationship! I hope it all goes really well for you! Iwould wait for him to mail. I agree with the person above, you don't want to sound too clingy, maybe you should give it a couple more days. But, he shouldn't really make excuses about being too busy because he should always find time for loved ones, even if it is at 4am...
Wait a while and in the mean time make yourself busy so that time goes quicker.. Patience is very hard, but I think that you should think it through why he's making you wait.. What kind of person he is finding excuses.. All the best! x
almost a week ago??girl, i am sure he has a couple minutes to check his e-mail and write you back no matter how busy he is..you should write him today not a couple of days its been almost a week there is nothing wrong with writing him now.
Long distance relationships never work. Besides its something more going on if he loved and cared about you he would call you before he goes to sleep. You're the last thing on his mind. Sorry but its true. You should end it now it will save you the heart break.
If he's really busy, give it another week. I agree though; long-distance relationships won't work, unless you're older and mature enough to wait. Go on with your life until you hear back from him.
Sump'm fishy goin' on, girl... I think he's found other ';pursuits.'; I'd say goodbye and find someone closer...
He's pretty busy, just came back from a business trip and he send me an email asking how I was, so I shortly replied and then he commented but said he was sorry for writing that short email but he was very busy and that'll write later.
well that was almost a week ago. Should I wait or write to him in a couple of days more?What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
ggive him a couple of days to write back
i know it kills me too to know about my love but i wait for him to write me.
that way he knows that he has his space.you don't wanna be too clingy and (no offense) writing him too much seems clingy.
if he doesnt write back in like 4 days then write him just casually don't bring up the old email or demand to know why he didn't write you.
just write something like
hey baby.what's up
something casual
hope i helped
%26lt;3Cesar's baby%26lt;3What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
Best of luck with your relationship! I hope it all goes really well for you! Iwould wait for him to mail. I agree with the person above, you don't want to sound too clingy, maybe you should give it a couple more days. But, he shouldn't really make excuses about being too busy because he should always find time for loved ones, even if it is at 4am...
Wait a while and in the mean time make yourself busy so that time goes quicker.. Patience is very hard, but I think that you should think it through why he's making you wait.. What kind of person he is finding excuses.. All the best! x
almost a week ago??girl, i am sure he has a couple minutes to check his e-mail and write you back no matter how busy he is..you should write him today not a couple of days its been almost a week there is nothing wrong with writing him now.
Long distance relationships never work. Besides its something more going on if he loved and cared about you he would call you before he goes to sleep. You're the last thing on his mind. Sorry but its true. You should end it now it will save you the heart break.
If he's really busy, give it another week. I agree though; long-distance relationships won't work, unless you're older and mature enough to wait. Go on with your life until you hear back from him.
Sump'm fishy goin' on, girl... I think he's found other ';pursuits.'; I'd say goodbye and find someone closer...
Thank you for your advice about my long distance relationship.?
I would like to thank people who supported me on my long distance relationship. I have become more confident and trusting. I no longer want to become insecure or overprotective. I no longer want to say things I don't mean, when I can't control my emotions. I no longer want to be needy. I am confident, secure, supportive, controlled emotionally, and understanding. I will not assume things and accuse the people I love for random negativity that don't exist. Thank you all I have been finally cure from myself.Thank you for your advice about my long distance relationship.?
You are so welcome. Thats what we are here for!!!
You are so welcome. Thats what we are here for!!!
I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship...preferable guy advice but girls are welcome too?
Me and my boyfriend are both 18. He moved far away at the end of my senior yr but we decided to stay together. He's my first boyfriend, he's all I know. When he's here everything is fine..as long as we don't talk about our problems I can see it all over his face that he does not EVER wanna talk about our problems. But when he leaves, and we argue and brings them up just to hurt my feelings. (I'm not assuming he actually told me he was trying to hurt my feelings) He has now resorted to almost never calling me, he never tells me anything, and we barely text. I told him I think about him all the time and he said he doesn't think about me at all b/c it hurts too much. When it all comes down to it, he tells me he loves me and doesn't want to break up. Our problems bother him (the other night he said he doesn't know me anymore and I don't know him) but he won't talk about them. Sometimes I think it's me. I even feel stupid right now for asking advice on the internet, but sometimes an outside opinion can help right? Can someone help me understand what I'm supposed to do?I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship...preferable guy advice but girls are welcome too?
A lot of men use avoidance, it is a natural defense mechanism. But by not talking about your problems, it seems like you two are only putting a band aide on the problem, which easily comes off when he goes away. He probably doesn't want to spend the little bit of time he has with you in person fighting... after all, I am sure you both anticipate seeing one another after being apart so why ruin the moment? however... even though you are happy, the problems are going to keep coming back up if you don't find a way to resolve them. I can't tell you how to resolve your relationship problems, nor do I know what they are.
Another issue it sounds like you are having is that you are over-analyzing the relationship and it's feelings so much that you are clouding who you are and the person your boyfriend came to love. I know that it's tough when you love someone.... you are paranoid that anything you do or say could ruin it... you love someone so much you are terrified to lose them. It sounds like you could use a break from carrying all of the weight of the relationship's problems. Talk about this with him... let him know that you feel like you worry about the relationship too much and apologize for creating a lot of drama. I realize that it's a two way street and he probably has made mistakes as well... but it takes a strong person to stand up and admit their own faults and it usually results in opening a door for the other person to confess their own doings.... I am not guaranteeing that you will get an apology in return, but at least he would see that you are making efforts to get back to being more relaxed and carefree about the relationship. Men love consistency and calmness in a relationship just as much as women do. If a relationship is going to work out long term, it is going to take a lot of love, forgiveness and an open heart and mind. When he talks, try not to cloud your ears with emotions and really listen and take in the information THEN process it. It's so hard to do but practicing being a good listener and patient communicator will make you a better partner and you will find it easier to get to the root of your problems together.
Next time the old problems come up, try and approach it in a new way instead of the usual arguing or hurting one each others feelings. Tell him that you would like to understand where he is coming from and help to sooth the pains that he has with the problems rather than pointing fingers at one another anymore. Be super calm and loving when you approach him and try not to re-hash things too much. Show him a positive attitude towards things getting better because a relationship that lacks optimism is often times going to get stuck in ruts... Take a step back from this and take some time for yourself. Take up some new hobbies, yoga, sports, swimming, anything relaxing you can share with some friends. Taking time for yourself will help your stress levels and assist in your calmness about the relationship as well as give you new stuff to talk about with him. Men are attracted to women that are outgoing, social and have stuff going on in their lives.... get a new makeover to help boost your self confidence and shoot him some pretty pics of yourself. You could hold up a sign in the pic that says ';can't wait until you come home!!!'; on top of having a new sexy look.... that will really get his attention back on you rather than stuck in ';I don't know you anymore'; land.....
When you try to control your relationship too much, it can get out of control and you can lose your sense of self. Try to relax and collect some new, positive thoughts about recovering with your beau and getting back to the love you two have shared all along. :) good luck sweety...... things should start to look up when he gets home... long distance relationships are straining!!!I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship...preferable guy advice but girls are welcome too?
Well your boyfriend is moody.
I reckon your better off without him.. you need someone that will treat you much better than that.
It seems like your a pile of shite to him.
Hi. My first long term relationship was similar, except we were a bit older and he had to move away for 2 years. And I think I reacted much as your bf, because we only got to see each other one weekend every month or two, and I felt this big pressure for it to be perfect. If had cramps, tough - I had to be on my A Game! If I was bothered by work crap, tough...why waste our together time whining? So I couldn't be natural.
And I think what's happening is natural. You guys never broke up and neither of you wants to....but you're in a Catch 22 because you're still teenagers and can't take the relationship to the next level. And that runs a big risk because you're not learning about adult relationships and the 24/7 grind they can cause - in fact, you're not learning at all about them.
I know how hard this is, but I honestly think the two of you need to risk your feelings and explore other relationships. In some cases, one of the people moves to where the other is, but sadly you're both way too young to take a step of that magnitude, even if it was possible.
A lot of men use avoidance, it is a natural defense mechanism. But by not talking about your problems, it seems like you two are only putting a band aide on the problem, which easily comes off when he goes away. He probably doesn't want to spend the little bit of time he has with you in person fighting... after all, I am sure you both anticipate seeing one another after being apart so why ruin the moment? however... even though you are happy, the problems are going to keep coming back up if you don't find a way to resolve them. I can't tell you how to resolve your relationship problems, nor do I know what they are.
Another issue it sounds like you are having is that you are over-analyzing the relationship and it's feelings so much that you are clouding who you are and the person your boyfriend came to love. I know that it's tough when you love someone.... you are paranoid that anything you do or say could ruin it... you love someone so much you are terrified to lose them. It sounds like you could use a break from carrying all of the weight of the relationship's problems. Talk about this with him... let him know that you feel like you worry about the relationship too much and apologize for creating a lot of drama. I realize that it's a two way street and he probably has made mistakes as well... but it takes a strong person to stand up and admit their own faults and it usually results in opening a door for the other person to confess their own doings.... I am not guaranteeing that you will get an apology in return, but at least he would see that you are making efforts to get back to being more relaxed and carefree about the relationship. Men love consistency and calmness in a relationship just as much as women do. If a relationship is going to work out long term, it is going to take a lot of love, forgiveness and an open heart and mind. When he talks, try not to cloud your ears with emotions and really listen and take in the information THEN process it. It's so hard to do but practicing being a good listener and patient communicator will make you a better partner and you will find it easier to get to the root of your problems together.
Next time the old problems come up, try and approach it in a new way instead of the usual arguing or hurting one each others feelings. Tell him that you would like to understand where he is coming from and help to sooth the pains that he has with the problems rather than pointing fingers at one another anymore. Be super calm and loving when you approach him and try not to re-hash things too much. Show him a positive attitude towards things getting better because a relationship that lacks optimism is often times going to get stuck in ruts... Take a step back from this and take some time for yourself. Take up some new hobbies, yoga, sports, swimming, anything relaxing you can share with some friends. Taking time for yourself will help your stress levels and assist in your calmness about the relationship as well as give you new stuff to talk about with him. Men are attracted to women that are outgoing, social and have stuff going on in their lives.... get a new makeover to help boost your self confidence and shoot him some pretty pics of yourself. You could hold up a sign in the pic that says ';can't wait until you come home!!!'; on top of having a new sexy look.... that will really get his attention back on you rather than stuck in ';I don't know you anymore'; land.....
When you try to control your relationship too much, it can get out of control and you can lose your sense of self. Try to relax and collect some new, positive thoughts about recovering with your beau and getting back to the love you two have shared all along. :) good luck sweety...... things should start to look up when he gets home... long distance relationships are straining!!!I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship...preferable guy advice but girls are welcome too?
Well your boyfriend is moody.
I reckon your better off without him.. you need someone that will treat you much better than that.
It seems like your a pile of shite to him.
Hi. My first long term relationship was similar, except we were a bit older and he had to move away for 2 years. And I think I reacted much as your bf, because we only got to see each other one weekend every month or two, and I felt this big pressure for it to be perfect. If had cramps, tough - I had to be on my A Game! If I was bothered by work crap, tough...why waste our together time whining? So I couldn't be natural.
And I think what's happening is natural. You guys never broke up and neither of you wants to....but you're in a Catch 22 because you're still teenagers and can't take the relationship to the next level. And that runs a big risk because you're not learning about adult relationships and the 24/7 grind they can cause - in fact, you're not learning at all about them.
I know how hard this is, but I honestly think the two of you need to risk your feelings and explore other relationships. In some cases, one of the people moves to where the other is, but sadly you're both way too young to take a step of that magnitude, even if it was possible.
I'm in a long distance relationship. I need advice whether this is going steady or downhill?
I met an amazing guy. He has all the qualities I like in a man and then some. He's independant, funny, caring, and patient. We live in different states and intend to meet up in August, but I'm afraid. I trust him., but for the past two months, I feel like he hasn't been making the efforts to find time to talk with me. Is it nomral that i feel I need to to talk with him at least a minute every other day? Or am i demanding too much? We exchange texts every once in a while, and I know he's busy as am I... but it's like the last time we talked was two days ago for a minute. Just exchanging I love you to each other, and good night. That's been the same conversation for the past two months. Am I being needy for wanting a little more every once in a while??I haven't said anything about it yet, but on his myspace, I see him telling a girl that he was going to be out of town for a couple days and not too miss him too much. I have fears that I'm just being led on.I'm in a long distance relationship. I need advice whether this is going steady or downhill?
I am sorry... but if any guy wants to make the effort to get to know you and maintain a relationship he will go the distance. He knows where you are, he has your number he could call you anytime he wants, but it sounds as though he is not. Well, maybe he would say it costs too much on long distance bills, OK, well doesn't everyone in the world have email? He could find other ways to keep getting to know you, and to keep you feeling secure in this relationship.
I am not saying that you cannot make these same efforts, you can. But we do live in a man's world, and most men are aggressive toward going after what they want. And us women, should not have to chase a guy down just to have a conversation on the phone.
I think you need to do some soul searching, and detach yourself from him a little bit. This does not mean walk away, but you are preparing yourself for things not working out. This will help it not hurt as much.
My best advice to you is to keep your eyes OPEN, and listen to that intuition that is on the inside. They say, ';If you have any hesitation about things, this is your answer.'; People hesitate for a reason, which proves that intuition WORKS!
Good Luck! Thanks for reading!I'm in a long distance relationship. I need advice whether this is going steady or downhill?
i would let him now how i feel. it's been two months and all u got was a minute every other day? that's crazy! And as far as the myspace, i would question that b/c there are somethings u dont do when ur in a relationship regardless of the distance..relationships are hard work, being away from each other makes it even harder. we want to trust our men but GOD gave us intuition for a reason.....
You have to be aware that distance do make ppl get paranoid, especially for girls like you and me who tend to be quite needy and overthinking. The first few months of dating wether distance or not are always the best as you're constantly talking to each other, seeing each other, on the phone, saying goodnight/good morning and all that but thing is that we do have things to do in life that we been quite slacking on since the beginning of the relationship. So logically you start to refocus on them and try to get the right balance. I'd say that it isn't very nice to not contact you in 2 days but if he really moved on something else he really didn't even have to text you back and such. About the myspace girl he might be joking like you may be talking to a guy mate and said yeah don't miss me too much when am gone etc.
I'll say to give him some more time as he sort things out, men aren't like us who can totally manage different thiings at the same time lol he might be having some probs with family or work but don't feel like bugging you with it. So for now give it a bit of time and then you can confront him about it, tell him your fears and hopefully he'll be honest. If he skips the convo then maybe when you guys will get confronted to bigger problems in the future, he's just the kind to vanish on bad times...
Sorry to put it right on ur face, but he's playing you. He probably has a bird or two up his sleeve. Two months is a long time to not be able to find time for each other, especially in the long-distance world.
I was in a long-distance relationship, and if the guy wants you, it's very apparent, and the couple does everything in their means to keep in touch.
Please remove the cloud in front of ur eyes, and don't let false emotions rule you.
Good luck!
i had a long distance relationship with my now husband for almost a year and a half. it is difficult to work on a relationship long distance and the only thing you have on a very regular basis is communication. Without that, a relationship can go down the hill pretty quickly. My husband has always told me that if a guy cares, he will find a few minutes to talk every day (or two).
his my space comment seems inappropriate and you might want to ask him what is going on. Generally your gut feeling is right - if he avoids the question or is being vague, he is probably leading you on.coupons moon drops
I am sorry... but if any guy wants to make the effort to get to know you and maintain a relationship he will go the distance. He knows where you are, he has your number he could call you anytime he wants, but it sounds as though he is not. Well, maybe he would say it costs too much on long distance bills, OK, well doesn't everyone in the world have email? He could find other ways to keep getting to know you, and to keep you feeling secure in this relationship.
I am not saying that you cannot make these same efforts, you can. But we do live in a man's world, and most men are aggressive toward going after what they want. And us women, should not have to chase a guy down just to have a conversation on the phone.
I think you need to do some soul searching, and detach yourself from him a little bit. This does not mean walk away, but you are preparing yourself for things not working out. This will help it not hurt as much.
My best advice to you is to keep your eyes OPEN, and listen to that intuition that is on the inside. They say, ';If you have any hesitation about things, this is your answer.'; People hesitate for a reason, which proves that intuition WORKS!
Good Luck! Thanks for reading!I'm in a long distance relationship. I need advice whether this is going steady or downhill?
i would let him now how i feel. it's been two months and all u got was a minute every other day? that's crazy! And as far as the myspace, i would question that b/c there are somethings u dont do when ur in a relationship regardless of the distance..relationships are hard work, being away from each other makes it even harder. we want to trust our men but GOD gave us intuition for a reason.....
You have to be aware that distance do make ppl get paranoid, especially for girls like you and me who tend to be quite needy and overthinking. The first few months of dating wether distance or not are always the best as you're constantly talking to each other, seeing each other, on the phone, saying goodnight/good morning and all that but thing is that we do have things to do in life that we been quite slacking on since the beginning of the relationship. So logically you start to refocus on them and try to get the right balance. I'd say that it isn't very nice to not contact you in 2 days but if he really moved on something else he really didn't even have to text you back and such. About the myspace girl he might be joking like you may be talking to a guy mate and said yeah don't miss me too much when am gone etc.
I'll say to give him some more time as he sort things out, men aren't like us who can totally manage different thiings at the same time lol he might be having some probs with family or work but don't feel like bugging you with it. So for now give it a bit of time and then you can confront him about it, tell him your fears and hopefully he'll be honest. If he skips the convo then maybe when you guys will get confronted to bigger problems in the future, he's just the kind to vanish on bad times...
Sorry to put it right on ur face, but he's playing you. He probably has a bird or two up his sleeve. Two months is a long time to not be able to find time for each other, especially in the long-distance world.
I was in a long-distance relationship, and if the guy wants you, it's very apparent, and the couple does everything in their means to keep in touch.
Please remove the cloud in front of ur eyes, and don't let false emotions rule you.
Good luck!
i had a long distance relationship with my now husband for almost a year and a half. it is difficult to work on a relationship long distance and the only thing you have on a very regular basis is communication. Without that, a relationship can go down the hill pretty quickly. My husband has always told me that if a guy cares, he will find a few minutes to talk every day (or two).
his my space comment seems inappropriate and you might want to ask him what is going on. Generally your gut feeling is right - if he avoids the question or is being vague, he is probably leading you on.
In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
I've been with my boyfriend 9 months and he just left for military school 2000 miles away for 6 months. It's a really laid back school, training for new job, has weekends off and gets to live off the base with the guys from back home. We're both early 30s. So he has probably as much free time now as he did before. We were never really phone people, I'd much rather make plans over the phone, talk in person. But since he left a week ago we talk and text even less than before, and no good morning texts. I know he's got free time and if I call him he's usually just hangin out or running errands, he sounds all happy and content. Is he just focused on his job down there or is it out of sight out of mind? I'm not a phone person either but with the distance I think I need it more and I don't want to be doing all of the texting calling. A few texts a day just isn't enough for me knowing he can do more. Am I being needy? Should I tell him this or will it make me seem clingy and scare him off?In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
Mornings are the worst when it comes to ';free time';. He probably has drills that need to be done before even getting to class. He's also probably very concentrated on schooling. He just wants to get it right and move on. Expecting lots of texts and phone calls from him when you already admitted that neither of you are phone people is a little silly. Why not try other forms of communication, such as letter writing? That being said, men aren't big on letter writing, texting and phone calls in general, so I just wouldn't expect too much. Relationships should be 50/50 though. If he's not willing to put in some effort to keep the relationship going, then perhaps its time to move on. Just remember that this separation is temporary. He'll be home eventually.In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
This is from experience.
He is concentrating on his job. Yes, he misses you. Believe me, he does. But when guys get around guys, you know how it is. They have to feel like they are just as strong as the other men on base. When other guys have no ladies at home waiting on a call and your man is calling you, they find it rude. So no worries hunni! As long as you get SOMETHING your good to go.=]
'; I just need to know the other person is as commited as I am';
You NEED to know?
What happened to trust? If you agreed that you'd stay together for 6 months... then you accept ';whatever'; until he tells you (or you tell him) that you've found some one else.
He doesn't NEED to text you every morning....or do cartwheels everytime you call....
There is no reason to worry about anything. Why worry? It doesn't do anyone any good at all. He probably is just concentrating on his work and such. You need to work on your ';TRUST'; issues.
give it time he just left last week. let him come to you. he may not realize what he is doing being in a new environment and all. but seeing as how you won't get to see each other as much as before you will have to communicate in other ways...letters, phone, IM, webcam, Myspace, any form of communication. just make sure you do your part, and let him know you are there for him. he is prob just adjusting. as you are thinking of him, i'm sure he's thinking of you. give it time, and hope this all helps.
Mornings are the worst when it comes to ';free time';. He probably has drills that need to be done before even getting to class. He's also probably very concentrated on schooling. He just wants to get it right and move on. Expecting lots of texts and phone calls from him when you already admitted that neither of you are phone people is a little silly. Why not try other forms of communication, such as letter writing? That being said, men aren't big on letter writing, texting and phone calls in general, so I just wouldn't expect too much. Relationships should be 50/50 though. If he's not willing to put in some effort to keep the relationship going, then perhaps its time to move on. Just remember that this separation is temporary. He'll be home eventually.In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
This is from experience.
He is concentrating on his job. Yes, he misses you. Believe me, he does. But when guys get around guys, you know how it is. They have to feel like they are just as strong as the other men on base. When other guys have no ladies at home waiting on a call and your man is calling you, they find it rude. So no worries hunni! As long as you get SOMETHING your good to go.=]
'; I just need to know the other person is as commited as I am';
You NEED to know?
What happened to trust? If you agreed that you'd stay together for 6 months... then you accept ';whatever'; until he tells you (or you tell him) that you've found some one else.
He doesn't NEED to text you every morning....or do cartwheels everytime you call....
There is no reason to worry about anything. Why worry? It doesn't do anyone any good at all. He probably is just concentrating on his work and such. You need to work on your ';TRUST'; issues.
give it time he just left last week. let him come to you. he may not realize what he is doing being in a new environment and all. but seeing as how you won't get to see each other as much as before you will have to communicate in other ways...letters, phone, IM, webcam, Myspace, any form of communication. just make sure you do your part, and let him know you are there for him. he is prob just adjusting. as you are thinking of him, i'm sure he's thinking of you. give it time, and hope this all helps.
I live in UK and im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who lives in Australia advice.?
My girlfriend and I love each other so much and we really want to meet each other but we live on other sides of the world ): we send pictures and text each other alot but she doesnt have a webcam and i do, and i always go on it for her, but she cant go on it ): I really want to be with her in real life but i cant, and i really wish i could, how can i feel closer to her/I live in UK and im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who lives in Australia advice.?
Look Alex what if she really isn't the girl in the pics that she sends you the only way to be sure is to meet her either in person or get her a webcam. I mean can't she afford to buy one, they are not that expensive.
Anyway do you really think it will work out? You should get a girl who lives in the same country with you, don't you want to be able to kiss and hug her, go to the movies and have dinner, this situation is hopeless unless your both mega ritch and can fly to see each other when you feel like it I'm sure most people can only probably afford to do so once and if you do visit it will be even harder to leave when you know you have to save up another year or 2 to go visit again. I know I would not carry a relationship with someone so far away.
I don't know. Whatever you decide you have to think about your futire. Good luck.I live in UK and im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who lives in Australia advice.?
The simple answer is, you can't.
Long distance relationships seldom work, but that's no means to say that yours won't, if you want to be together enough then sooner or later you'll make it work.
Yes you have to go ahead and visit after a while
Did u ever meet her in real life before? If not then it could be a 40 year old man your talking to
buy her a webcam and mail it.
go visit
get your *** on a plain in go see her. buy her a webcam
buy her a webcam....save up some money and fly over to her and see her
Look Alex what if she really isn't the girl in the pics that she sends you the only way to be sure is to meet her either in person or get her a webcam. I mean can't she afford to buy one, they are not that expensive.
Anyway do you really think it will work out? You should get a girl who lives in the same country with you, don't you want to be able to kiss and hug her, go to the movies and have dinner, this situation is hopeless unless your both mega ritch and can fly to see each other when you feel like it I'm sure most people can only probably afford to do so once and if you do visit it will be even harder to leave when you know you have to save up another year or 2 to go visit again. I know I would not carry a relationship with someone so far away.
I don't know. Whatever you decide you have to think about your futire. Good luck.I live in UK and im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who lives in Australia advice.?
The simple answer is, you can't.
Long distance relationships seldom work, but that's no means to say that yours won't, if you want to be together enough then sooner or later you'll make it work.
Yes you have to go ahead and visit after a while
Did u ever meet her in real life before? If not then it could be a 40 year old man your talking to
buy her a webcam and mail it.
go visit
get your *** on a plain in go see her. buy her a webcam
buy her a webcam....save up some money and fly over to her and see her
What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
Here are 4 articles that address different aspects of a long distance relationship. They offer great ideas :)
Keep Romance Alive in Long Distance Relationship
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Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Make the Most Out of Your Weekend Visits
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End the Fighting in Your Long Distance Relationship!
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Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Know If You're Ready to Move in Together
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Hope They Help!
Best of Luck! :)What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
Complete honesty.... and both of you have to ';phone people'; LOL. Lots of effort needs to be put into staying in touch! There needs to be lots of trust as well!!What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
be in contact as often as you can via im, text, phone or email. they are difficult at best, but can be done if both parties are willing to make the extra effort to keep the relationship going.
get laid. then have a long relationshitp
LDR is hard work. It takes two people to make it work. I鈥檓 not saying its impossible but its pretty rare. I鈥檝e tried LDR in the past 鈥?it just didn鈥檛 worked out too well for me. I just lost interest in the end and the guy ended up meeting some great girl.
keep in touch and dont get over protective unless u have credible evidence
Frequent telephone calls. I've done it. The reunions are great!
Keep in contact with each other!!!!!!!! A lot of long distance relationships don't last because they get bored with just talking on the phone and they move on to better things. If you get bored, keep at it! Talk several times a day and stay faithful and true! Arrange meetings as often as possible!
phone sex, email calls and texts, pictures and just being as close as u can with being far away!!
get laid
Keep Romance Alive in Long Distance Relationship
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Make the Most Out of Your Weekend Visits
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
End the Fighting in Your Long Distance Relationship!
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Know If You're Ready to Move in Together
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Hope They Help!
Best of Luck! :)What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
Complete honesty.... and both of you have to ';phone people'; LOL. Lots of effort needs to be put into staying in touch! There needs to be lots of trust as well!!What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
be in contact as often as you can via im, text, phone or email. they are difficult at best, but can be done if both parties are willing to make the extra effort to keep the relationship going.
get laid. then have a long relationshitp
LDR is hard work. It takes two people to make it work. I鈥檓 not saying its impossible but its pretty rare. I鈥檝e tried LDR in the past 鈥?it just didn鈥檛 worked out too well for me. I just lost interest in the end and the guy ended up meeting some great girl.
keep in touch and dont get over protective unless u have credible evidence
Frequent telephone calls. I've done it. The reunions are great!
Keep in contact with each other!!!!!!!! A lot of long distance relationships don't last because they get bored with just talking on the phone and they move on to better things. If you get bored, keep at it! Talk several times a day and stay faithful and true! Arrange meetings as often as possible!
phone sex, email calls and texts, pictures and just being as close as u can with being far away!!
get laid
Help! Advice for my long-distance relationship, please...?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months. We're fairly serious... since we were close for so long before dating, we've said ';I love you'; for the past few months. Anyway, I'm going to college this fall, and he's a sr in high school. We've decided to try long-distance, but we're already having issues. The past three weeks we haven't talked more than 15 minutes a day on the phone. He's either been sick, busy, or falls asleep. I couldn't be mad when he was sick, but I think I'm justified with the others. I feel like we're drifting apart. I've tried being nice and ignoring it, or confronting him about it -specifically telling him that it bothers me how little we talk anymore. I think things are only going to get worse when I go to college this fall, and that maybe he's not as committed to this as I am. What should I do? I truly love this boy and do not want to lose him, but things are not looking good. Should I give him an ulitimatum of some kind, or is that always a bad idea?Help! Advice for my long-distance relationship, please...?
I am a girl from Romania who lives in Italy. I think you should forget him and find someone near you. The boys are all the same. In Romania, Theo say that the eyes you don't see are easy to forget. Maybe he has the same problem.Well. . .I think you need someone who should hold you in his arms when you are sick, not someone who doesn't even answer the phone when he is sick. All the best from ItalyHelp! Advice for my long-distance relationship, please...?
No ultimatum with boys. Bad idea. Communication, straight up is the key. Let him tell you how he feels too. Don't fight or get worked up or upset about it in front of him, but do let him know that you want things to work, even when you go away. Make sure he knows that you're willing to work things out, but a relationship takes two people and if he's not willing to make the last summer you guys have together before school starts great, then tell him you don't see how it can work. Not an ultimatum, but a fair discussion.
I know how you feel my bf lives outside of London and i live in the US. To be honest communicate is key you really just need to talk to him find out what he is thinking and feeling before you leave, and tell him how you are feeling. Don't give him an ultimatum that's just going to make you both upset. It may just be he is just scared about losing you. But really there is no need to worry about it until you talk to him.
ok well i dont want to pretend i am anywhere near your age! but my experience is actions speak louder than words! he mighht be trying to break up with u or he might be trying to give you your freedom while off at college.....but reality is he is being a dork....which is totally age appropriate.....the question you have to ask yourself is: is this ok with you? if not....state it (which i think you basically have) and if his behaviour doesnt change then you get your answer...and its time to move forward and look forward to college and the whole experience of it all! dont overthink it....andd i woudlnt do the ultimatum thing...jsut say these are my expecptions...if its not working for you..then let me go.....
I am a girl from Romania who lives in Italy. I think you should forget him and find someone near you. The boys are all the same. In Romania, Theo say that the eyes you don't see are easy to forget. Maybe he has the same problem.Well. . .I think you need someone who should hold you in his arms when you are sick, not someone who doesn't even answer the phone when he is sick. All the best from ItalyHelp! Advice for my long-distance relationship, please...?
No ultimatum with boys. Bad idea. Communication, straight up is the key. Let him tell you how he feels too. Don't fight or get worked up or upset about it in front of him, but do let him know that you want things to work, even when you go away. Make sure he knows that you're willing to work things out, but a relationship takes two people and if he's not willing to make the last summer you guys have together before school starts great, then tell him you don't see how it can work. Not an ultimatum, but a fair discussion.
I know how you feel my bf lives outside of London and i live in the US. To be honest communicate is key you really just need to talk to him find out what he is thinking and feeling before you leave, and tell him how you are feeling. Don't give him an ultimatum that's just going to make you both upset. It may just be he is just scared about losing you. But really there is no need to worry about it until you talk to him.
ok well i dont want to pretend i am anywhere near your age! but my experience is actions speak louder than words! he mighht be trying to break up with u or he might be trying to give you your freedom while off at college.....but reality is he is being a dork....which is totally age appropriate.....the question you have to ask yourself is: is this ok with you? if not....state it (which i think you basically have) and if his behaviour doesnt change then you get your answer...and its time to move forward and look forward to college and the whole experience of it all! dont overthink it....andd i woudlnt do the ultimatum thing...jsut say these are my expecptions...if its not working for you..then let me go.....
Relationship advice for long distance?
im in a long distance relationship, and i wondering how to make it work. We met on the internet and we live 5 hour apart. We are still in college. I want to see her but time dont allow it sometimes. We talk on the phone alot and seem to like eachother. There are some problems. 1. we live with our parent and we dont know how to tell them about us, you might ask why we bother but we both had relationship problems in the past and we have lots in common and we both want to make this work. 2. I'm not much of a phone conversationist, and i run out of stuff to say when we talk. I guess im asking for advice for my problems i have.Relationship advice for long distance?
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You should post your question here:
http://relationshipadviceandconfessions.鈥?/a>
You can email your questions to a relationship expert and they will reply with an answer. You can also post relationship confessions. It's cool and they really helped me with a problem I had tonight. Long distance relationships CAN and DO work. I survived one! You can too!
Any advice on a long distance relationship..?
well where been together for 4 months already and yet we've meet only 3 times on a month. any advice on what should i go. emotionaly %26amp; physicaly...thanksAny advice on a long distance relationship..?
It really depends on how deeply do you felt and how much confidence you have in this relationship....
I had a long distance relationship less than a yr ago....started out with daily 2 to 5 hrs chat on the phone....and then emails during his work hrs / my work hrs.....flight is 16 hrs apart....time difference is 8hrs.....
We met once in my country (1 week) and once in his country (10days).....we thought it would work out....we had sex too....but in the end, both of us give up 'cos neither of us is able to relocate and leave our famiy and friends behind....Any advice on a long distance relationship..?
if you both are ok with if and are happy then go with the flow but i can tell you from experience that not all long distant relationships last very long. so with that i wish you a lot ok luck
if both of u r really truly in love, distance is not an issue.
i say long distance relationships never work, i'd dump em move on to a more closer one
If you dont plan on ever getting together permanently in the future, I'd keep things platonic and don't get your hopes up.
Long distance relationship is very hard. Physically and emotionally. Real answer is you. Can you handle not being with this person? Are you emotionally on standby when you are not with this person? Answer these two questions honestly and you will have the answer. Good Luck..
how can anyone tell you what you should do emotionally? wow...only you can know that...stupid is as stupid does
Long distance is the hardest! You have to really keep at the relationship, talk a lot (e-mail, texting, phone ext.). Physically its even harder (I'm sure you already know)! Maybe try seeing each other more often (if you can). In the end you have to think is it worth it? If it is, you'll find away to make it work.coupons moon drops
It really depends on how deeply do you felt and how much confidence you have in this relationship....
I had a long distance relationship less than a yr ago....started out with daily 2 to 5 hrs chat on the phone....and then emails during his work hrs / my work hrs.....flight is 16 hrs apart....time difference is 8hrs.....
We met once in my country (1 week) and once in his country (10days).....we thought it would work out....we had sex too....but in the end, both of us give up 'cos neither of us is able to relocate and leave our famiy and friends behind....Any advice on a long distance relationship..?
if you both are ok with if and are happy then go with the flow but i can tell you from experience that not all long distant relationships last very long. so with that i wish you a lot ok luck
if both of u r really truly in love, distance is not an issue.
i say long distance relationships never work, i'd dump em move on to a more closer one
If you dont plan on ever getting together permanently in the future, I'd keep things platonic and don't get your hopes up.
Long distance relationship is very hard. Physically and emotionally. Real answer is you. Can you handle not being with this person? Are you emotionally on standby when you are not with this person? Answer these two questions honestly and you will have the answer. Good Luck..
how can anyone tell you what you should do emotionally? wow...only you can know that...stupid is as stupid does
Long distance is the hardest! You have to really keep at the relationship, talk a lot (e-mail, texting, phone ext.). Physically its even harder (I'm sure you already know)! Maybe try seeing each other more often (if you can). In the end you have to think is it worth it? If it is, you'll find away to make it work.
I really like this guy, but he's in a long distance relationship. I need some advice! help!?
so I just met this amazing guy and we have really great chemistry together, but I just found out by one of his friend's that he's in a long distance relationship. So I have kinda been avoiding him so that I don't flirt and what not. I don't want to ruin his relationship that he's had for a year, but I really like him. Any advice? Oh and is it true that long distance relationships don't work out? thanx again.I really like this guy, but he's in a long distance relationship. I need some advice! help!?
I think it's very mature and respectful of you to back off knowing that he's in a relationship. :) With that said, I wouldn't try anything because he's still with his girlfriend. Be respectful of their relationship. You can still be friends, but you'd have to keep your distance and know your limits.
And no, long distance relationships definitely do work. They are just different and require an extra degree of trust, communication, and work, among other things.
I think it's very mature and respectful of you to back off knowing that he's in a relationship. :) With that said, I wouldn't try anything because he's still with his girlfriend. Be respectful of their relationship. You can still be friends, but you'd have to keep your distance and know your limits.
And no, long distance relationships definitely do work. They are just different and require an extra degree of trust, communication, and work, among other things.
Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I have known this man for 7 yrs now he lives in another country.
he claimed to love me and wanted to marry me%26gt; but like two weeks ago he just quit writing me after we had a chat session%26gt; after i told him i would not help him with geting a visa to the usa and i would not ask my family to help with this.
then he wrote to me again and somehow he had found a post where i had asked a question on yahoo. if anyone knew him%26gt; and he seen it and sent it to me.he then told me that was not his real name%26gt; he said think god you didnt know my real name.
i have tryed contacting him to just see if he would answer back
and he hasnt so for%26gt; i feel he has made a fool out of me after seven yrs%26gt; he has done this before and showed back up. and dum me let him by with it.i feel angery and hurt but%26gt; i feel like geting even with him%26gt; any advice would do on this please help?Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
Many men from poor developing countries are anxious to get away from the poverty back home.
Consequently, they get online and find a girl that's anxious to find a man. They pretend to fall in love and say sweet stuff to her.
She grins from ear to ear. Never has anyone treated her with such amazing kindness!
Then they promise to marry her. And treat her like a woman deserves to be treated . . . like a queen.
She's ecstatic!
Once they have won her confidence, they begin to make demands.
One of the demands they will make is that she should get them a visa to the U.S. or the country of her residence so they can get married.
Once she does that and they get to the U.S., they disappear.
You're lucky to have decided not participate in the marriage fraud attempt by this guy.
Should you hurt him?
Sounds like a good idea on the outside. But in the long run, you will be hurting yourself because you will end up spending valuable time on scheming his demise.
That won't make you eternally happy.
Read more about marriage fraud at . . .Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I am sorry to say it but long distance relationship usually dont work i know 1st hand. its tough but you have to let go.
Long distant relationships never work out. You never know what or who they are doing. Find someone local.
After seven years, you don't know his real name? x_X
I've heard of another incident where a woman left a man simply 'cause he wouldn't help her get a visa into the USA. =/
Getting even at him, won't do anything helpful. You might as well ask him if there's anything you can do to help him besides getting the visa. You must have a good reason to not help this man, right? Even if he said he wanted to marry you.
I'd leave it alone, and find someone new. LDR's are hard enough without there being ill-will on either side, especially if they have continued for 7 years.
Sounds like he was using you for a visa.
Find someone who wants you for you.
he claimed to love me and wanted to marry me%26gt; but like two weeks ago he just quit writing me after we had a chat session%26gt; after i told him i would not help him with geting a visa to the usa and i would not ask my family to help with this.
then he wrote to me again and somehow he had found a post where i had asked a question on yahoo. if anyone knew him%26gt; and he seen it and sent it to me.he then told me that was not his real name%26gt; he said think god you didnt know my real name.
i have tryed contacting him to just see if he would answer back
and he hasnt so for%26gt; i feel he has made a fool out of me after seven yrs%26gt; he has done this before and showed back up. and dum me let him by with it.i feel angery and hurt but%26gt; i feel like geting even with him%26gt; any advice would do on this please help?Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
Many men from poor developing countries are anxious to get away from the poverty back home.
Consequently, they get online and find a girl that's anxious to find a man. They pretend to fall in love and say sweet stuff to her.
She grins from ear to ear. Never has anyone treated her with such amazing kindness!
Then they promise to marry her. And treat her like a woman deserves to be treated . . . like a queen.
She's ecstatic!
Once they have won her confidence, they begin to make demands.
One of the demands they will make is that she should get them a visa to the U.S. or the country of her residence so they can get married.
Once she does that and they get to the U.S., they disappear.
You're lucky to have decided not participate in the marriage fraud attempt by this guy.
Should you hurt him?
Sounds like a good idea on the outside. But in the long run, you will be hurting yourself because you will end up spending valuable time on scheming his demise.
That won't make you eternally happy.
Read more about marriage fraud at . . .Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I am sorry to say it but long distance relationship usually dont work i know 1st hand. its tough but you have to let go.
Long distant relationships never work out. You never know what or who they are doing. Find someone local.
After seven years, you don't know his real name? x_X
I've heard of another incident where a woman left a man simply 'cause he wouldn't help her get a visa into the USA. =/
Getting even at him, won't do anything helpful. You might as well ask him if there's anything you can do to help him besides getting the visa. You must have a good reason to not help this man, right? Even if he said he wanted to marry you.
I'd leave it alone, and find someone new. LDR's are hard enough without there being ill-will on either side, especially if they have continued for 7 years.
Sounds like he was using you for a visa.
Find someone who wants you for you.
Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
i did it with a girl in china, but i can afford it. if you can trust each other and be faithfull and make arrangments to meet on occasion then of course it can work. both should get skype cams. phone calls would not cost you at all as well as emailing each other often. i married my china doll and is the best thing i ever did.Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
Distance really shouldn't be used as a measure of the likelihood of a relationship working or failing, because it isn't.
I suggest you talk as often as possible, try for at least every second day, and have good topics to discuss. You should discuss what happened in your days, etc. but you should also discuss other issues. Get a topic to discuss, e.g. a tv program you both enjoy, or a book you've both read. You should also aim to discuss more important issues, like your fears, desires and future plans. If you're in a normal relationship, this kind of discussion will come normal. If you're long distance, you have to focus to make it work.
The better your communication, the more you will trust each other, and the easier it will be for you to commit to each other. Communication, commitment and trust are the three pillars of a long distance relationship. Work on those 3 and you'll be fine.
You should still try and see each other as often as possible. I'm not going to give you a time limit like ';every four weeks';, etc. Figure out what you can afford to do and plan your life around it. Friends of mine only managed to see each other every 3 months for over a year, and it worked out fine for them. We personally tried for every 4-6 weeks (usually only for a weekend).Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
its nothing harm in long distance relationship, as long as you both are having good and proper understanding for eachother. Trust, love %26amp; carings are the main key features for this type of relations....
Its nothing harm at all........ You should carry on with this if u are involve with someone. Good luck %26amp; God bless you.
It's not impossible, but not advisable.
Long distant relations do not have physical contact and that is the downfall for most who try to challenge it.
its so boring am tellin you..no kisses,no hugs just empty memories of how happy you used to be.........
Distance really shouldn't be used as a measure of the likelihood of a relationship working or failing, because it isn't.
I suggest you talk as often as possible, try for at least every second day, and have good topics to discuss. You should discuss what happened in your days, etc. but you should also discuss other issues. Get a topic to discuss, e.g. a tv program you both enjoy, or a book you've both read. You should also aim to discuss more important issues, like your fears, desires and future plans. If you're in a normal relationship, this kind of discussion will come normal. If you're long distance, you have to focus to make it work.
The better your communication, the more you will trust each other, and the easier it will be for you to commit to each other. Communication, commitment and trust are the three pillars of a long distance relationship. Work on those 3 and you'll be fine.
You should still try and see each other as often as possible. I'm not going to give you a time limit like ';every four weeks';, etc. Figure out what you can afford to do and plan your life around it. Friends of mine only managed to see each other every 3 months for over a year, and it worked out fine for them. We personally tried for every 4-6 weeks (usually only for a weekend).Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
its nothing harm in long distance relationship, as long as you both are having good and proper understanding for eachother. Trust, love %26amp; carings are the main key features for this type of relations....
Its nothing harm at all........ You should carry on with this if u are involve with someone. Good luck %26amp; God bless you.
It's not impossible, but not advisable.
Long distant relations do not have physical contact and that is the downfall for most who try to challenge it.
its so boring am tellin you..no kisses,no hugs just empty memories of how happy you used to be.........
Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
my best friend introduced me to one of her closest cousins a few months ago. since then, he and i have clicked. we talk about life, love, relationships, anything to make the conversation going. he even wrote a love song for me, which is a first timer for him because he has never wrote a love song for anyone, even his exes. it was mostly based on breakups. even my best friend told me he's telling the truth because they talked about it a few times. i received a msg from him, asying that he wants to ask me an important question that he hopes would make both of us happy. some i asked have said he may ask me out, but the thing is, he lives about 300 miles from me, though we live in the same state. i want to go for it, but i'm scared of the outcome, knowing that i have fallen for him already. any advice? i can surely need it at this point.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
They can work, but they are really really hard. You both need to put 100% in it and fully realize that you need to trust each other. It is easy the first few months, but you wil lsee everyone around you with there partners and everything will remind you of him. It is going to make you bitter, mad, and jealous. The times you have together will be sweet, but going your seperate ways will be twice as hard.
If you love him and he loves you, then go for it. make it work for you.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
on;y way it can work is if you both have the resources to travel back and forth to see each other. without the ability to do that,your visits tend to be rare and that does not make for a good relationship. in order to have a healthy relationship you need to know each other in person
If you are younger than 16 I would just keep this guy as a conversational friend and not try to persue any other kind of relationship. Long distance is hard enough on people with jobs and driver's licenses - and even then they usually don't work out. If you and this guy really have a connection, just stay in touch and wait - you never know what conditions may change. Tying yourself down to someone who is far away can severely mess up your social life, and may cause you to miss out on things you will regret missing later on.
鈾?I think that if you both want it to work then it can. I was in a long distance relationship with my fiace before I moved a state away to be with her. It was hard, especially when I was upset or something happened in my family... but we got through it. She visited me as often as she possibly could and we burned up our cell phone %26amp; txt messaging bills, etc. You both have to sit down %26amp; decide which risks you are both willing to take... it can work but only if ya'll want it to. Good Luck!
honestly hun, follow your heart,
it does not matter what is right or what is wrong ok all you remember is
what would happen if you never followed your heart would you regret it!!!! i think you would
well i think it depends on how many times you see or talk to each other. well in my opinion don't do it.
Ok -- I'll be honest, my boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for 5 monthes now, and we live 35minutes away from one another - even then it's hard to see each other w| school, and work.. We've managed right now, but sometimes we go all wk without seeing one another. Sooo....going 300 miles would be a lot!
GOOD LUCK!~
yea
give it a shot and if it doesnt work ........
well at least you'll know.
It only works if the time apart is for a short while. If there is not a serious discussion relatively soon as to who will move (either you to him, or him to you), then let it go. Others will tell you different, and I am sure there are some rare stories of prolonged seperations where everything ends up ';magical'; in the end - But that is very rare.
Also, it depends on your age, both chronologically and your true mental age. If you are real young -let it go. Either way, it will all work out in the end -one way or another. Good luck.
They can definately work out as long as both of you put everything into it. I was in a long distance relationship for a long time and she ended up moving in with me and now we are engaged set to be married next year. There just needs to be 100% from both of you and everything will work out fine. And, move closer to each other soon, Don't make it long distance forever.
first know if both of you are in the right age and fully understand what love is, for the outcome still rely on both of your understanding's, neither do i'am in your kind a situation, what we do is we always keep in touch through what ever gadgets we have and trust... though its hard, we always come up to a way where we can set a schedule for us to meet in a place, doesn't matter weather i go to a country where she was or the place where i am...
honestly NO i dont think so because you neva know what that person is doing and being honest with u
my cousin has been dating a guy 2yrs long distance. She is in new york and he is in maryland. Things are great she says u get 2 know each other on a different level, and u get more creative. U never knoww till u try.
yes they can work. My sister has been in college in Kentucky for 4 years, while her fiance has been here in missouri. And they are going to get married when she graduates this summer. Its stressful, but you can do it. It takes ALOT of hard work, trust, commitment, patience, and a million other things. It wont be easy, but if you love this guy, and think your meant for eachother, then go for it! Everything happens for a reason, and whether positive or negative things have a way of working themselves out for the better in the long run. Good luck!
They can work, but they are really really hard. You both need to put 100% in it and fully realize that you need to trust each other. It is easy the first few months, but you wil lsee everyone around you with there partners and everything will remind you of him. It is going to make you bitter, mad, and jealous. The times you have together will be sweet, but going your seperate ways will be twice as hard.
If you love him and he loves you, then go for it. make it work for you.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
on;y way it can work is if you both have the resources to travel back and forth to see each other. without the ability to do that,your visits tend to be rare and that does not make for a good relationship. in order to have a healthy relationship you need to know each other in person
If you are younger than 16 I would just keep this guy as a conversational friend and not try to persue any other kind of relationship. Long distance is hard enough on people with jobs and driver's licenses - and even then they usually don't work out. If you and this guy really have a connection, just stay in touch and wait - you never know what conditions may change. Tying yourself down to someone who is far away can severely mess up your social life, and may cause you to miss out on things you will regret missing later on.
鈾?I think that if you both want it to work then it can. I was in a long distance relationship with my fiace before I moved a state away to be with her. It was hard, especially when I was upset or something happened in my family... but we got through it. She visited me as often as she possibly could and we burned up our cell phone %26amp; txt messaging bills, etc. You both have to sit down %26amp; decide which risks you are both willing to take... it can work but only if ya'll want it to. Good Luck!
honestly hun, follow your heart,
it does not matter what is right or what is wrong ok all you remember is
what would happen if you never followed your heart would you regret it!!!! i think you would
well i think it depends on how many times you see or talk to each other. well in my opinion don't do it.
Ok -- I'll be honest, my boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for 5 monthes now, and we live 35minutes away from one another - even then it's hard to see each other w| school, and work.. We've managed right now, but sometimes we go all wk without seeing one another. Sooo....going 300 miles would be a lot!
GOOD LUCK!~
yea
give it a shot and if it doesnt work ........
well at least you'll know.
It only works if the time apart is for a short while. If there is not a serious discussion relatively soon as to who will move (either you to him, or him to you), then let it go. Others will tell you different, and I am sure there are some rare stories of prolonged seperations where everything ends up ';magical'; in the end - But that is very rare.
Also, it depends on your age, both chronologically and your true mental age. If you are real young -let it go. Either way, it will all work out in the end -one way or another. Good luck.
They can definately work out as long as both of you put everything into it. I was in a long distance relationship for a long time and she ended up moving in with me and now we are engaged set to be married next year. There just needs to be 100% from both of you and everything will work out fine. And, move closer to each other soon, Don't make it long distance forever.
first know if both of you are in the right age and fully understand what love is, for the outcome still rely on both of your understanding's, neither do i'am in your kind a situation, what we do is we always keep in touch through what ever gadgets we have and trust... though its hard, we always come up to a way where we can set a schedule for us to meet in a place, doesn't matter weather i go to a country where she was or the place where i am...
honestly NO i dont think so because you neva know what that person is doing and being honest with u
my cousin has been dating a guy 2yrs long distance. She is in new york and he is in maryland. Things are great she says u get 2 know each other on a different level, and u get more creative. U never knoww till u try.
yes they can work. My sister has been in college in Kentucky for 4 years, while her fiance has been here in missouri. And they are going to get married when she graduates this summer. Its stressful, but you can do it. It takes ALOT of hard work, trust, commitment, patience, and a million other things. It wont be easy, but if you love this guy, and think your meant for eachother, then go for it! Everything happens for a reason, and whether positive or negative things have a way of working themselves out for the better in the long run. Good luck!
What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
He said he'll write later , should I wait or send him an email if he hasn't write?
He's pretty busy, just came back from a business trip and he send me an email asking how I was, so I shortly replied and then he commented but said he was sorry for writing that short email but he was very busy and that'll write later.
well that was almost a week ago. Should I wait or write to him in a couple of days more?What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
ggive him a couple of days to write back
i know it kills me too to know about my love but i wait for him to write me.
that way he knows that he has his space.you don't wanna be too clingy and (no offense) writing him too much seems clingy.
if he doesnt write back in like 4 days then write him just casually don't bring up the old email or demand to know why he didn't write you.
just write something like
hey baby.what's up
something casual
hope i helped
%26lt;3Cesar's baby%26lt;3What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
Best of luck with your relationship! I hope it all goes really well for you! Iwould wait for him to mail. I agree with the person above, you don't want to sound too clingy, maybe you should give it a couple more days. But, he shouldn't really make excuses about being too busy because he should always find time for loved ones, even if it is at 4am...
Wait a while and in the mean time make yourself busy so that time goes quicker.. Patience is very hard, but I think that you should think it through why he's making you wait.. What kind of person he is finding excuses.. All the best! x
almost a week ago??girl, i am sure he has a couple minutes to check his e-mail and write you back no matter how busy he is..you should write him today not a couple of days its been almost a week there is nothing wrong with writing him now.
Long distance relationships never work. Besides its something more going on if he loved and cared about you he would call you before he goes to sleep. You're the last thing on his mind. Sorry but its true. You should end it now it will save you the heart break.
If he's really busy, give it another week. I agree though; long-distance relationships won't work, unless you're older and mature enough to wait. Go on with your life until you hear back from him.
Sump'm fishy goin' on, girl... I think he's found other ';pursuits.'; I'd say goodbye and find someone closer...
He's pretty busy, just came back from a business trip and he send me an email asking how I was, so I shortly replied and then he commented but said he was sorry for writing that short email but he was very busy and that'll write later.
well that was almost a week ago. Should I wait or write to him in a couple of days more?What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
ggive him a couple of days to write back
i know it kills me too to know about my love but i wait for him to write me.
that way he knows that he has his space.you don't wanna be too clingy and (no offense) writing him too much seems clingy.
if he doesnt write back in like 4 days then write him just casually don't bring up the old email or demand to know why he didn't write you.
just write something like
hey baby.what's up
something casual
hope i helped
%26lt;3Cesar's baby%26lt;3What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
Best of luck with your relationship! I hope it all goes really well for you! Iwould wait for him to mail. I agree with the person above, you don't want to sound too clingy, maybe you should give it a couple more days. But, he shouldn't really make excuses about being too busy because he should always find time for loved ones, even if it is at 4am...
Wait a while and in the mean time make yourself busy so that time goes quicker.. Patience is very hard, but I think that you should think it through why he's making you wait.. What kind of person he is finding excuses.. All the best! x
almost a week ago??girl, i am sure he has a couple minutes to check his e-mail and write you back no matter how busy he is..you should write him today not a couple of days its been almost a week there is nothing wrong with writing him now.
Long distance relationships never work. Besides its something more going on if he loved and cared about you he would call you before he goes to sleep. You're the last thing on his mind. Sorry but its true. You should end it now it will save you the heart break.
If he's really busy, give it another week. I agree though; long-distance relationships won't work, unless you're older and mature enough to wait. Go on with your life until you hear back from him.
Sump'm fishy goin' on, girl... I think he's found other ';pursuits.'; I'd say goodbye and find someone closer...
Anyone have advice on making a long distance relationship work?
Me and my boyfriend broke-up two weeks a go because the stress of our long distance relationship was getting to us. neather of us want to break up, i think we just need to find a way to help manage our relationship.Anyone have advice on making a long distance relationship work?
communication is the biggest thing that you need to make it work.Anyone have advice on making a long distance relationship work?
I'm in a pretty much ldr too--COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE! as much as you can. Enjoy the time when you are together, don't get me started on trust and just try to stay sane. I get to missin my man sooo much but we talke everyday and that cheers me up.
Leave it as it is - long distance relationships seldom work.
My boyfriend and I made it through a long distance relationship no problem. You need to know you have to be willing to sacrifice your free time for him. Instead of going out with friends, all I wanted to do when I came home was talk to him. We both sacrificed for each other alot! And we both have faith in each other. No we weren't perfect, its not like we never fought. But we must have done something right, cause three years later we're living together and planning our wedding. It works if you both want it to.
ALSO. Cute little tips to put a smile on his face, start doing rituals. Like Id email my honey lots and at the bottom of our message we'd type one memory, one inside joke, or something we couldnt wait to do when we saw the other person!
Or Id send him dorky little cards out of the blue. Some were romantic, others were funny. Just to let him know that even at the drugstore i was thinking bout him.
Andddd on music.yahoo.com you can email videos to people. If we heard a great song that reminded us of one another, id send it to him.
Little things count!
The only thing that can make a long distance relationship work is one word TRUST!!!!!!!!
the only way that long distance works, is if one of you is will to move at certain point in time, if its open ended, it never works, if you cant say in 6months, 12 months, whatever, I will move there, it has no real chance.
I am in a long distance relationship right now and its totally working. Me and my boi have been together for 5 months now and you just have to know if you can totally trust each other. Talk whenever you can for as long as you can, see each other as often as you can...if its meant to be it will work out =)
I m in a long distance relationship..........and it's working..........but it depends what u want from the relationship............I want just someone with whom I can talk..........I can chat ........I can b friendly with...................but if u want to have sex or want to get married.............u will have to come closer to make it feasible
If you two are gonna be apart for awhile, say more than a year, then forget about it. You both are gonna start new lives and date other people.coupons moon drops
communication is the biggest thing that you need to make it work.Anyone have advice on making a long distance relationship work?
I'm in a pretty much ldr too--COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE! as much as you can. Enjoy the time when you are together, don't get me started on trust and just try to stay sane. I get to missin my man sooo much but we talke everyday and that cheers me up.
Leave it as it is - long distance relationships seldom work.
My boyfriend and I made it through a long distance relationship no problem. You need to know you have to be willing to sacrifice your free time for him. Instead of going out with friends, all I wanted to do when I came home was talk to him. We both sacrificed for each other alot! And we both have faith in each other. No we weren't perfect, its not like we never fought. But we must have done something right, cause three years later we're living together and planning our wedding. It works if you both want it to.
ALSO. Cute little tips to put a smile on his face, start doing rituals. Like Id email my honey lots and at the bottom of our message we'd type one memory, one inside joke, or something we couldnt wait to do when we saw the other person!
Or Id send him dorky little cards out of the blue. Some were romantic, others were funny. Just to let him know that even at the drugstore i was thinking bout him.
Andddd on music.yahoo.com you can email videos to people. If we heard a great song that reminded us of one another, id send it to him.
Little things count!
The only thing that can make a long distance relationship work is one word TRUST!!!!!!!!
the only way that long distance works, is if one of you is will to move at certain point in time, if its open ended, it never works, if you cant say in 6months, 12 months, whatever, I will move there, it has no real chance.
I am in a long distance relationship right now and its totally working. Me and my boi have been together for 5 months now and you just have to know if you can totally trust each other. Talk whenever you can for as long as you can, see each other as often as you can...if its meant to be it will work out =)
I m in a long distance relationship..........and it's working..........but it depends what u want from the relationship............I want just someone with whom I can talk..........I can chat ........I can b friendly with...................but if u want to have sex or want to get married.............u will have to come closer to make it feasible
If you two are gonna be apart for awhile, say more than a year, then forget about it. You both are gonna start new lives and date other people.
I really need advice .. long distance/online relationship problems?
i met this guy over facebook a few months ago, since then we've chatted online, on the phone, we sent each other little presents through mail. i really like him, and he tells me he really likes me too, he's told me he loves me even, and yet .. out of the hundreds of friends he has on his page about 3 of them aren't girls, lol. i realize no one likes a jealous partner in a relationship, i'm trying not to be, its just that always, in the back of my mind i'm like ';how many other girls does he say 'i love you' to?';, etc. it makes me feel bad that i'm not closer to him (he lives in a whole other country !!) and that some of these other girls are. does anyone have any advice on what i should do? maybe tell him how i feel or do something that gets his attention (like pics .. ?) or maybe just get over him and find someone more local? we have said how much we want to meet each other, but lately things have been hectic for the both of us, so we don't have a set date.I really need advice .. long distance/online relationship problems?
firstly, has he made his love for you clear in front of everyone else? Does he do this on facebook? E.g. send you love notes or update his relationship status to 'in a relationship?' If he does this that means he is declaring to all the other women on his friends list that he only wants you.
You are right to feel the way you are. You are only wanting to know 'where to from here?' If you guys do not mutually make the commitment to meet up in the future then there is no reason for this relationship to exist, since that's what you are wanting.
Tell him that your biggest wish is to meet up and that you are serious about it and see what he does. If he puts it off, he never will and then you can move on. If he does then cool!
Good luck :)
EDIT: If he doesn't announce things between you in front of other girls, then he has something to hide. When a guy is truly in love, he will shout it to the world. I say just ignore him from now on. He' s 28 and acting like an immature teenager. You need and deserve much better!!I really need advice .. long distance/online relationship problems?
Usually people from other countries forming relationships with people in the US means they want a greencard in the country. I don't know your situation, but my suggestion is to forget about him. It's too risky and he probably just wants to move to the US.
Ok. Wow... Do not, do not, date people over Facebook. You have no idea who this person really is. It's 2009, and the world is a messed up place. Quit talking to him, and stop it at that. I really suggest you should find someone local. Im sure theres someone local you like!
I hope this helps -cheers!
Talking on line as friends is ok,but you sure cannot expect to have a romance on line.You need to concentrate on someone you can hold and they will hold you.
This guys sounds suspicious. I say you talk with him calmly about how you feel...if he gives you anymore reasons to doubt him, go out and find somebody else. You're worth the most devoting and loving man in the world and you know that.
ok.
and what proof do you have that he is really a teenage boy.
see this why kids shouldnt have the internet.
you need to call it off and not do that anymore.
well if u really love him then try to set a date ask him to meet u n if u really can't then try to get over him ntry to forget him as early as possible
Get over him because long distance relationships are too much trouble. They give you too much limits.
Earth to Kate, Earth to Kate...
Time to return to reality.
Staight up, delete him from your page. Might be a petifile!!
firstly, has he made his love for you clear in front of everyone else? Does he do this on facebook? E.g. send you love notes or update his relationship status to 'in a relationship?' If he does this that means he is declaring to all the other women on his friends list that he only wants you.
You are right to feel the way you are. You are only wanting to know 'where to from here?' If you guys do not mutually make the commitment to meet up in the future then there is no reason for this relationship to exist, since that's what you are wanting.
Tell him that your biggest wish is to meet up and that you are serious about it and see what he does. If he puts it off, he never will and then you can move on. If he does then cool!
Good luck :)
EDIT: If he doesn't announce things between you in front of other girls, then he has something to hide. When a guy is truly in love, he will shout it to the world. I say just ignore him from now on. He' s 28 and acting like an immature teenager. You need and deserve much better!!I really need advice .. long distance/online relationship problems?
Usually people from other countries forming relationships with people in the US means they want a greencard in the country. I don't know your situation, but my suggestion is to forget about him. It's too risky and he probably just wants to move to the US.
Ok. Wow... Do not, do not, date people over Facebook. You have no idea who this person really is. It's 2009, and the world is a messed up place. Quit talking to him, and stop it at that. I really suggest you should find someone local. Im sure theres someone local you like!
I hope this helps -cheers!
Talking on line as friends is ok,but you sure cannot expect to have a romance on line.You need to concentrate on someone you can hold and they will hold you.
This guys sounds suspicious. I say you talk with him calmly about how you feel...if he gives you anymore reasons to doubt him, go out and find somebody else. You're worth the most devoting and loving man in the world and you know that.
ok.
and what proof do you have that he is really a teenage boy.
see this why kids shouldnt have the internet.
you need to call it off and not do that anymore.
well if u really love him then try to set a date ask him to meet u n if u really can't then try to get over him ntry to forget him as early as possible
Get over him because long distance relationships are too much trouble. They give you too much limits.
Earth to Kate, Earth to Kate...
Time to return to reality.
Staight up, delete him from your page. Might be a petifile!!
Need advice on a long distance relationship?
Hi,
In 2005 I met this girl online, we used to talk online and on the phone all the time and on November 1st last year I admited that I loved her and she also said she loved me and we have been going on since, we are both 16 and I want to go see her but we live so far apart, I live in UK and she is in US, I can get enough money to go see her but I need advice on how I can avoid it going stale as with most long distance relationships, where you run out of things to talk about, also I want to know if there is anything else I should be thinking about...Need advice on a long distance relationship?
Well i dont understand why u would want to have a long distance relationship with someone you never met, but i also am dating a gal in america and im here in the uk, i met her on holiday a year ago and i went to see her again this winter, if you really love each other then things will work out in the end . . . concentrate on college and uni first tho, she will still be there when u have done education its very hard to go back to school once u left.Need advice on a long distance relationship?
if you both love each other you wont run out of things to talk about but love is a very strong word for 2 16 year olds...watch where your heading her parents may not like the idea of a random kid there daughter met online whos coming to visit
Well It is good you like to commit to a relationship, but not that early do not worry about being that serious. You may think your mature right now, but it takes a long time to become financially stable enough for a real commitment, because you have so many milestones you have to get over first. A good friendship even long distant ones may never go stale. If there is a lull in the conversation find something interesting to talk about. Ask questions be interested in the details and let her write her heart out girls like to be listened to. Just be sincere it will work later on even if this relationship may not last you may have one that does because of it. But you have years to think about it.
Sweetie, you are 16, there are a lot of more important things you should be thinking about, school, college. online loves are just ways to waste time
Dude...you're 16...save your money. You can't be in love with someone you never met. I know you don't want to believe me, but trust me...its not worth it.
Do you e_mail??
wow but i dont what advice to give but if i was in your position i would found some in the us
In 2005 I met this girl online, we used to talk online and on the phone all the time and on November 1st last year I admited that I loved her and she also said she loved me and we have been going on since, we are both 16 and I want to go see her but we live so far apart, I live in UK and she is in US, I can get enough money to go see her but I need advice on how I can avoid it going stale as with most long distance relationships, where you run out of things to talk about, also I want to know if there is anything else I should be thinking about...Need advice on a long distance relationship?
Well i dont understand why u would want to have a long distance relationship with someone you never met, but i also am dating a gal in america and im here in the uk, i met her on holiday a year ago and i went to see her again this winter, if you really love each other then things will work out in the end . . . concentrate on college and uni first tho, she will still be there when u have done education its very hard to go back to school once u left.Need advice on a long distance relationship?
if you both love each other you wont run out of things to talk about but love is a very strong word for 2 16 year olds...watch where your heading her parents may not like the idea of a random kid there daughter met online whos coming to visit
Well It is good you like to commit to a relationship, but not that early do not worry about being that serious. You may think your mature right now, but it takes a long time to become financially stable enough for a real commitment, because you have so many milestones you have to get over first. A good friendship even long distant ones may never go stale. If there is a lull in the conversation find something interesting to talk about. Ask questions be interested in the details and let her write her heart out girls like to be listened to. Just be sincere it will work later on even if this relationship may not last you may have one that does because of it. But you have years to think about it.
Sweetie, you are 16, there are a lot of more important things you should be thinking about, school, college. online loves are just ways to waste time
Dude...you're 16...save your money. You can't be in love with someone you never met. I know you don't want to believe me, but trust me...its not worth it.
Do you e_mail??
wow but i dont what advice to give but if i was in your position i would found some in the us
Long distance relationship????I need ADVICE!!!?
OK, so when I moved I left all my friends behind, I still see them and I even met a new guy when I went to visit. As time went by I realize I really liked this guy, but I dont want to tell him because we live 3 hours apart and I dont think the relationship would work. HELP!! Tell me what you think I should do!Long distance relationship????I need ADVICE!!!?
hey it can work, just gotta have trust, i mean im in a long distance relationship and the girl is practically on the other side of the u.s.a.
hey it can work, just gotta have trust, i mean im in a long distance relationship and the girl is practically on the other side of the u.s.a.
Long-Distance Relationship... I need advice.?
I'm sixteen years old %26amp; I'm dating a guy that lives in North Carolina (I live in Pennsylvania). I like him a lot %26amp; he's made it very clear that he feels that same way. But it's really hard that the only way we can talk in on the phone. I can never really know what he's doing down there and i trust him and all but i'll never really know. he's coming up for my birthday in a month, but it's hard that i can only see him once in a long time. and when he leaves im going to miss him even more then i already do right now and he feels the same way...
is it worth it for both of us to be hurting like this?Long-Distance Relationship... I need advice.?
Do you consider phone calls dating? He sounds like good friendship material. Im sure you're able to at least find a guy in the same state.
Long distance relationships don't work unless one of you is willing to move or travel often.Long-Distance Relationship... I need advice.?
I had friends who were together but lived so far away from each other. One was in Canada and the other in Asia. They were together for over 6 years and finally got married after college. It all just really depends on what kind of people you are.
it's worth it if you know he's being truthful. talk to him about it. i bet he'll understand that long-distance stuff is hard. but if it's meant to be; it'll happen. but i'd advise you to just let it go if it's hard. chances are, your wasting time on someone who doesn't care much.
id break it off before you get fed up with it. i would. i cant go not seeing the person you know. and do it before he makes the trip for your birthday, unless you want to see what he gets you for your birthday, then drop him like a bad habit.
That's tough to answer because only you know the pain of not being close to someone important in your life. How long will it be before you CAN be close? Will you go to the same college? How many times a year can you see each other? Three? Four? There are things that go on in a young person's life that normally go with dating, crushes, proms, birthday parties etc. etc. and it would be a shame if you miss a significant portion of those things because he's so far away. Social development is very important for young folks. Were you my daughter, I must say it would hurt me to realize the pain you feel and I'd ask you to think about some of these questions. Must you be exclusive to each other? Difficult questions aren't they?
Long distance relationship is very hard. but if you trust him everything will be fine. I know a lot of ppl who are in long distant relationships and they are doing just fine. The best way is not to think negative.
Let me tell you. Long distance relationships DO work but they are hard. I live in Ontario and my boyfriend of 6 years lives in Georgia. I fly down and visit whenever I can, but coming back home is the most painful thing I have to do. I am planning on moving in about 2 years and we are engaged to be engaged. I met him when I was 14 and started dating him when I was 17. I am 23 now.
ok well in my little spot on the earth i have tried the long-distance thing and it dont work, he might be down there do things with other girls and he might not. but most of time he would be...........plus u are 16 goin on 17 why are u worried about being in love i know it happens and all but u should have ur heaqd in the books more then talking to a guy in another state. If it was me i would have said look i love u an all but this long-distance is killing me and i know its doing the same to u so im going to have to end it............. Plus u know if it is ment to be it will be and no one in the world can change that for u.
sorry to break it to you, sweetie, but i would cut it. he is probably checking out other girls, so i say dump him before he ditches you. if you chose not to, i'd say plan a trip together and maybe you guys can just hang out. the best thing would be for you to be just ';friends';
16years old and dating a guy in NC
Please, give it up. Find a guy your age and in your area. I know PA isn't the greatest place to find someone, but you can.
You're young. Move on! I wasted several years of my college life in a long distance relationship and I was miserable. The phone bill was 1000 bucks a month. Not worth it.
I've been there. And believe me if he wants to cheat on you; he'll do it wherever he is. Trust is the only thing that you'll have going in a long distance relationship. You decide if this is what you want in your life. Ask yourself is it worth it. I mean a long distance relationship is very hard to deal with. Temptations is all over the place for both of you. For me it was worth it. And we made every moment count when he would come to town. We had the best times together.
Long distance relationships do work out--sometimes. (My wife and I had a Chicago-Mexico relationship for 2 years before we got married, and we've been married for 21 years.) However, it takes a lot of work--emails, phone calls, letters, visits.
Given your age, I doubt it'll work. (I was 28 when I met my wife.) The visits will not be frequent enough, and there is a very high probability that one or both of you will meet someone else before you can think about marriage. You're bound to develop different interests as you will have many different experiences.
What's wrong with just being friends?
How old he was ? You are too young for long distance relationship the reason you never meet him face to face . Its called affection BC you guess talk all the time over there phone so i suggest you think before you go crazy about him .
Love from a distance like my aunt used to say it's for butt holes. Becareful..do not trust him 100%, it's easier for someone to cheat on you when they don't even live in the same zip code. Best of luck. BTW take your time you are only 16!! Date more and have fun.
i you think you really love him and that there somthin special in that relationship then you should probbly stay together.
not to be ugly or mean you never met him and you prob never will long distance things like that never work out your young go out out and enjoy yourself dont waste your time on wondering what if ,and what if he aint what you thought he was then u just wasted lots of time
is it worth it for both of us to be hurting like this?Long-Distance Relationship... I need advice.?
Do you consider phone calls dating? He sounds like good friendship material. Im sure you're able to at least find a guy in the same state.
Long distance relationships don't work unless one of you is willing to move or travel often.Long-Distance Relationship... I need advice.?
I had friends who were together but lived so far away from each other. One was in Canada and the other in Asia. They were together for over 6 years and finally got married after college. It all just really depends on what kind of people you are.
it's worth it if you know he's being truthful. talk to him about it. i bet he'll understand that long-distance stuff is hard. but if it's meant to be; it'll happen. but i'd advise you to just let it go if it's hard. chances are, your wasting time on someone who doesn't care much.
id break it off before you get fed up with it. i would. i cant go not seeing the person you know. and do it before he makes the trip for your birthday, unless you want to see what he gets you for your birthday, then drop him like a bad habit.
That's tough to answer because only you know the pain of not being close to someone important in your life. How long will it be before you CAN be close? Will you go to the same college? How many times a year can you see each other? Three? Four? There are things that go on in a young person's life that normally go with dating, crushes, proms, birthday parties etc. etc. and it would be a shame if you miss a significant portion of those things because he's so far away. Social development is very important for young folks. Were you my daughter, I must say it would hurt me to realize the pain you feel and I'd ask you to think about some of these questions. Must you be exclusive to each other? Difficult questions aren't they?
Long distance relationship is very hard. but if you trust him everything will be fine. I know a lot of ppl who are in long distant relationships and they are doing just fine. The best way is not to think negative.
Let me tell you. Long distance relationships DO work but they are hard. I live in Ontario and my boyfriend of 6 years lives in Georgia. I fly down and visit whenever I can, but coming back home is the most painful thing I have to do. I am planning on moving in about 2 years and we are engaged to be engaged. I met him when I was 14 and started dating him when I was 17. I am 23 now.
ok well in my little spot on the earth i have tried the long-distance thing and it dont work, he might be down there do things with other girls and he might not. but most of time he would be...........plus u are 16 goin on 17 why are u worried about being in love i know it happens and all but u should have ur heaqd in the books more then talking to a guy in another state. If it was me i would have said look i love u an all but this long-distance is killing me and i know its doing the same to u so im going to have to end it............. Plus u know if it is ment to be it will be and no one in the world can change that for u.
sorry to break it to you, sweetie, but i would cut it. he is probably checking out other girls, so i say dump him before he ditches you. if you chose not to, i'd say plan a trip together and maybe you guys can just hang out. the best thing would be for you to be just ';friends';
16years old and dating a guy in NC
Please, give it up. Find a guy your age and in your area. I know PA isn't the greatest place to find someone, but you can.
You're young. Move on! I wasted several years of my college life in a long distance relationship and I was miserable. The phone bill was 1000 bucks a month. Not worth it.
I've been there. And believe me if he wants to cheat on you; he'll do it wherever he is. Trust is the only thing that you'll have going in a long distance relationship. You decide if this is what you want in your life. Ask yourself is it worth it. I mean a long distance relationship is very hard to deal with. Temptations is all over the place for both of you. For me it was worth it. And we made every moment count when he would come to town. We had the best times together.
Long distance relationships do work out--sometimes. (My wife and I had a Chicago-Mexico relationship for 2 years before we got married, and we've been married for 21 years.) However, it takes a lot of work--emails, phone calls, letters, visits.
Given your age, I doubt it'll work. (I was 28 when I met my wife.) The visits will not be frequent enough, and there is a very high probability that one or both of you will meet someone else before you can think about marriage. You're bound to develop different interests as you will have many different experiences.
What's wrong with just being friends?
How old he was ? You are too young for long distance relationship the reason you never meet him face to face . Its called affection BC you guess talk all the time over there phone so i suggest you think before you go crazy about him .
Love from a distance like my aunt used to say it's for butt holes. Becareful..do not trust him 100%, it's easier for someone to cheat on you when they don't even live in the same zip code. Best of luck. BTW take your time you are only 16!! Date more and have fun.
i you think you really love him and that there somthin special in that relationship then you should probbly stay together.
not to be ugly or mean you never met him and you prob never will long distance things like that never work out your young go out out and enjoy yourself dont waste your time on wondering what if ,and what if he aint what you thought he was then u just wasted lots of time
Are you in a long distance relationship and if so do you have any advice?
i've been in one other LDR, making this my second, and although i'm not having problems now i'd like advice from others who are used to this. things are difficult right now because my boyfriend lost his internet and i don't have a phone to call him, so for now contact is hard. this economy is really making things difficult without jobs. otherwise we cam and call a lot. anyways, just some advice would be nice. (: thank you.Are you in a long distance relationship and if so do you have any advice?
hey wats up?
My only advice is that LDR dont work because the distance is the problem. Also, it takes alot of trust to trust somebody and in essence someone who really isnt close to you.Are you in a long distance relationship and if so do you have any advice?
I know what you mean. My advice for having the same problem is see if you can use someones cell phone or write to one and the other. My ex and i use to do this when he got his phone and computer took away from him. In one of your letters why don't you plan to meet online one day. tell him to go to his local library at a time you two agree on and also a datecoupons moon drops
hey wats up?
My only advice is that LDR dont work because the distance is the problem. Also, it takes alot of trust to trust somebody and in essence someone who really isnt close to you.Are you in a long distance relationship and if so do you have any advice?
I know what you mean. My advice for having the same problem is see if you can use someones cell phone or write to one and the other. My ex and i use to do this when he got his phone and computer took away from him. In one of your letters why don't you plan to meet online one day. tell him to go to his local library at a time you two agree on and also a date
In need of some advice, Online/Long distance Relationship?
Okay well the past few years I've been playing this online game. I met this girl on that game in January 2008 or thereabouts. I wasn't looking for love by any means but I just sorta fell into it. Well anyways she lives ~7000 km away from me.
I could go on pages I think background would help in the answers I get but I'm going to cut it down cause no one like reading a block of text.
I've told her I loved her but she is afraid to move on in fair of being hurt again as she had a long distance relationship before that didn't end up all so well. I don't know what to do.
She doesn't say no but she doesn't say yes either. I'm lost in the mist. I don't know whether to make arrangements to learn a new language, to pursue plans.
TBH I'm fine with the way things are right now as I can still talk to her via texting but it hurts to not have an answer and it may sound selfish but I don't know if I'm wasting my time talking to her.
I don't know if I should hold on or let go. And if I let go what will become of me? A rejected love hurts and it is defiantly not easy to fall out of love on your own.
She is 19 and I am 17, I think it is best to wait it out till I pack on some years and till she gets over her past relationship. But I wonder if she will ever try one again. She said she'd prefer not to try again[long dist relationship] and I don't like to make her do things she doesn't want to but this time I don't know if I can handle a no so I've told her more eloquently to ';stop living in the past';. Answer was'; I dunno try again just to be hurt again?';
And can someone tell me what ';=P'; means every time I tell her that I love her?
So my question is what should I say/do? And are there any recommendations on how to make this work. Or should I struggle to just let it go.
Apologies if this was a long read. Thank you for taking the time to read it and any responses are appreciated.
Whether they are experienced or not or whether I should take the advice or not I'll use my own discretion.
So Advice Please!In need of some advice, Online/Long distance Relationship?
=p means shes sticking her tongue out.
LDR are not my thing and so of the 90 percent of peoples in this world either.Just go out with someone that lives like 10 miles from you.In need of some advice, Online/Long distance Relationship?
sound like shes not interested in u but doesnt want to say it. shes tryna let u down gently.
let go of her, itll hurt, but itd hurt more if u held on
Let me tell you, i've been in the exact same position you are in. I was 17 at the time and just graduated high school. I was bored and fooling around at 2am in an international chat room. After getting annoyed with the pervs who want you to watch them masturbate, i was about to just sign off. I started talking to this guy in Europe and now, here we are almost 3 years later. Still haven't seen each other and still have no easy way of saving money to do so.
The ONLY thing you can do is be 100% committed. If she's not willing to be, there's not much you can do about it. Telling her to stop living in the past is a good way to start (although a bit blunt if she's really been hurt); however, she needs to start thinking that for herself. There's a number of things that are probably going through her head right now.
1: Age difference. I'm 19; i KNOW that 2 years has made a difference though i've always been more mature than many people around me. Being 2 years older than the guy (this young) is rarely a good thing because of lack of maturity. Because of this (and other reasons) she may be questioning whether you are serious or not. She might be trying to figure out if you are even ready for something like this. Long distance relationships are harder the further you are apart. In my case, it's on two different continents with an ocean in the way.
2: How likely it is that you'll see each other. I'll be the first to tell you that saving up the money to fund trips to see each other is not easy. If she doesn't believe you're actually working towards seeing her in person, you need to convince her of that.
3: Her past relationships. That's always going to effect future relationships. Give her a reason to trust you and it may get easier for her. It's very easy to cheat and hide things when you can't see each other at all. She may not be convinced that you will be 100% honest with her. I can assure you it's not easy; constant struggle sometimes.
4. The possibility of where you go from there after you've seen each other. Are you going to move to be with her? Is she going to have to do that?
Now that =P she gives when you tell her you love her may mean that she isn't taking you seriously. If you do love her, you need to sit down and talk to her more. Explain to her that you mean it and make her give you a straight answer as to whether or not she loves you. If she doesn't, don't pressure her about it; just let her know all you want is an honest answer out of her. Ask her if she even sees that as a possibility.
So if you're still in high school, don't get super serious about it until you've graduated at least. You need to see where you are going with your life before you try to do a long distance relationship. Too many unprepared people try those and it rarely works. Like one person said, take care of certain things. Get your license if you don't have it already. See what you need to do to get your passport (if she lives in another country and you'd need one to go see her). Get a job if you don't have one already; if you do, start saving money instead of just throwing it away on stuff. If you're going to college, get all of that straightened out and once you're in it, THEN start taking this seriously.
that ';=P'; might mean that she likes it.. but not enough to say it back. saying ';thanks'; to that ';i love you'; is just hurtful to you.
and you shouldn't do anything about this relationship anymore. You don't want to make her to not want a relationship anymore.
I say let it go and if she feels the need to come back to you in the future, then it'll happen. But right now, let her go. it's the best way to approach this situation. if you don't have a job, get one so you can save money to go be with her when you finish high school. adult thinking would help. get your drivers licence if you haevn't gotten it yet so you can drive to go see her.
I could go on pages I think background would help in the answers I get but I'm going to cut it down cause no one like reading a block of text.
I've told her I loved her but she is afraid to move on in fair of being hurt again as she had a long distance relationship before that didn't end up all so well. I don't know what to do.
She doesn't say no but she doesn't say yes either. I'm lost in the mist. I don't know whether to make arrangements to learn a new language, to pursue plans.
TBH I'm fine with the way things are right now as I can still talk to her via texting but it hurts to not have an answer and it may sound selfish but I don't know if I'm wasting my time talking to her.
I don't know if I should hold on or let go. And if I let go what will become of me? A rejected love hurts and it is defiantly not easy to fall out of love on your own.
She is 19 and I am 17, I think it is best to wait it out till I pack on some years and till she gets over her past relationship. But I wonder if she will ever try one again. She said she'd prefer not to try again[long dist relationship] and I don't like to make her do things she doesn't want to but this time I don't know if I can handle a no so I've told her more eloquently to ';stop living in the past';. Answer was'; I dunno try again just to be hurt again?';
And can someone tell me what ';=P'; means every time I tell her that I love her?
So my question is what should I say/do? And are there any recommendations on how to make this work. Or should I struggle to just let it go.
Apologies if this was a long read. Thank you for taking the time to read it and any responses are appreciated.
Whether they are experienced or not or whether I should take the advice or not I'll use my own discretion.
So Advice Please!In need of some advice, Online/Long distance Relationship?
=p means shes sticking her tongue out.
LDR are not my thing and so of the 90 percent of peoples in this world either.Just go out with someone that lives like 10 miles from you.In need of some advice, Online/Long distance Relationship?
sound like shes not interested in u but doesnt want to say it. shes tryna let u down gently.
let go of her, itll hurt, but itd hurt more if u held on
Let me tell you, i've been in the exact same position you are in. I was 17 at the time and just graduated high school. I was bored and fooling around at 2am in an international chat room. After getting annoyed with the pervs who want you to watch them masturbate, i was about to just sign off. I started talking to this guy in Europe and now, here we are almost 3 years later. Still haven't seen each other and still have no easy way of saving money to do so.
The ONLY thing you can do is be 100% committed. If she's not willing to be, there's not much you can do about it. Telling her to stop living in the past is a good way to start (although a bit blunt if she's really been hurt); however, she needs to start thinking that for herself. There's a number of things that are probably going through her head right now.
1: Age difference. I'm 19; i KNOW that 2 years has made a difference though i've always been more mature than many people around me. Being 2 years older than the guy (this young) is rarely a good thing because of lack of maturity. Because of this (and other reasons) she may be questioning whether you are serious or not. She might be trying to figure out if you are even ready for something like this. Long distance relationships are harder the further you are apart. In my case, it's on two different continents with an ocean in the way.
2: How likely it is that you'll see each other. I'll be the first to tell you that saving up the money to fund trips to see each other is not easy. If she doesn't believe you're actually working towards seeing her in person, you need to convince her of that.
3: Her past relationships. That's always going to effect future relationships. Give her a reason to trust you and it may get easier for her. It's very easy to cheat and hide things when you can't see each other at all. She may not be convinced that you will be 100% honest with her. I can assure you it's not easy; constant struggle sometimes.
4. The possibility of where you go from there after you've seen each other. Are you going to move to be with her? Is she going to have to do that?
Now that =P she gives when you tell her you love her may mean that she isn't taking you seriously. If you do love her, you need to sit down and talk to her more. Explain to her that you mean it and make her give you a straight answer as to whether or not she loves you. If she doesn't, don't pressure her about it; just let her know all you want is an honest answer out of her. Ask her if she even sees that as a possibility.
So if you're still in high school, don't get super serious about it until you've graduated at least. You need to see where you are going with your life before you try to do a long distance relationship. Too many unprepared people try those and it rarely works. Like one person said, take care of certain things. Get your license if you don't have it already. See what you need to do to get your passport (if she lives in another country and you'd need one to go see her). Get a job if you don't have one already; if you do, start saving money instead of just throwing it away on stuff. If you're going to college, get all of that straightened out and once you're in it, THEN start taking this seriously.
that ';=P'; might mean that she likes it.. but not enough to say it back. saying ';thanks'; to that ';i love you'; is just hurtful to you.
and you shouldn't do anything about this relationship anymore. You don't want to make her to not want a relationship anymore.
I say let it go and if she feels the need to come back to you in the future, then it'll happen. But right now, let her go. it's the best way to approach this situation. if you don't have a job, get one so you can save money to go be with her when you finish high school. adult thinking would help. get your drivers licence if you haevn't gotten it yet so you can drive to go see her.
I need some advice about long-distance relationship?
Ok well i know this sounds funny guys but i just want an advice and its very hard for me. Well i was playing xbox live, rite? Its like a community but except you just play games with other people around the world. Anyways i connected to some girl. We pretty much talked a little, and it was going pretty well. All of a sudden she gave me her myspace, and then she messaged me her phone #. We've been talking for almost 3 months, and it was going well. We would have funn talking to together, and we would say goodnight. She would tell me things like, ';okayy then:) bye love you'; and stuff like that. Ahhhh good times:). Just to let you guys know we are not dating or anything, but we are like just good friends. Anyway, she even told me that we should hang out, and i promised her. She told me that we hope we are still talking then. Eventually(i think it was june 12 to be precise), i found out that she already has a boyfriend, or as you can call him, ';i am taken,, by the love of my life';. I understand that she has a boyfriend, but can we still keep in touch and see what happens in the future? When will she text me first, or IM me in myspace chat, or anything? I just need A LOT of advice about long-distance relationships.I need some advice about long-distance relationship?
Long distance relationships can work. My husband and I had a long distance relationship for 4 years. The important thing is to keep the lines of communication open. We wouldn't see each other for several months at a time, but every time we reunited it was wonderful. Now, we've been married for 2 years and try our best not to be separated from each other for more than 48 hours.
You're both very young and heart throbs change constantly. If you really like her, I suggest keeping contact with her and being her friend. There is a definite possibility of her becoming single and no rule against girls having male friends. Also keep in mind that you shouldn't keep your heart set on this one girl. You can still flirt and date other girls. Since there is no dating relationship yet, be sure to keep your options open.
Either way, long distance relationships can work. They can be difficult, but if it's love, it's worth it. I wish you the best of luck and remember the worst that can happen is you end up with a good friend.I need some advice about long-distance relationship?
just be real with her i think that maybe you should just stay friends for now but yeahh see if that works out
dude you need to get a life, ';just to let you know'; hahahahahahahahhhahahha
I am really sorry but long distance relationships NEVER work out. they really dont. Im sorry but it is better to save yourself the heartache and just stay friends
Long distance never works
dont listen to ppl who say long distance relationships dont work cas thats not true! it matters on the ppl see me and my bf have been going out for 6 months and i live in minnesota and he lives in wisconson i have family in wisconson and i go there once a month basicly. but you really have to like eachother and you have to be able to handle the hurt of being away from them. so its up to you both on what you do but no matter once dont listen to the ppl that say long distance dose not work.
hope i helped.
Long distance relationships can work. My husband and I had a long distance relationship for 4 years. The important thing is to keep the lines of communication open. We wouldn't see each other for several months at a time, but every time we reunited it was wonderful. Now, we've been married for 2 years and try our best not to be separated from each other for more than 48 hours.
You're both very young and heart throbs change constantly. If you really like her, I suggest keeping contact with her and being her friend. There is a definite possibility of her becoming single and no rule against girls having male friends. Also keep in mind that you shouldn't keep your heart set on this one girl. You can still flirt and date other girls. Since there is no dating relationship yet, be sure to keep your options open.
Either way, long distance relationships can work. They can be difficult, but if it's love, it's worth it. I wish you the best of luck and remember the worst that can happen is you end up with a good friend.I need some advice about long-distance relationship?
just be real with her i think that maybe you should just stay friends for now but yeahh see if that works out
dude you need to get a life, ';just to let you know'; hahahahahahahahhhahahha
I am really sorry but long distance relationships NEVER work out. they really dont. Im sorry but it is better to save yourself the heartache and just stay friends
Long distance never works
dont listen to ppl who say long distance relationships dont work cas thats not true! it matters on the ppl see me and my bf have been going out for 6 months and i live in minnesota and he lives in wisconson i have family in wisconson and i go there once a month basicly. but you really have to like eachother and you have to be able to handle the hurt of being away from them. so its up to you both on what you do but no matter once dont listen to the ppl that say long distance dose not work.
hope i helped.
Advice on trusting each other in a long distance relationship?
we say we trust each other but its hard to.Advice on trusting each other in a long distance relationship?
I am in a long distance relationship and I completely understand.
Just think that every second you're thinking of her she's thinking of you:)
Everything you feel for her she feels for you:)
If you're scared when she goes out with friends, she's probably scared when you go out to.
No matter what, you love each other:)
If she was cheating on you then there's no point of her even going out with you,
She loves you:)
Trust her:)
Just try to understand, that's all:)Advice on trusting each other in a long distance relationship?
that is evident in a long distance relationship
you need to trust yourself in that you like them enough to trust them
if that makes sense?
if you couldnt trust them, they would probably end the whole thing anyway,
just remember how much you like them, and how much they like you, and the trust between you will build up naturally :)
I assume you are worried about her cheating on you and if she does pull her a ';long distance'; by her pubes. You may also be concerned that you might find someone else..... Cheating is disgusting but you can do things that do not count as cheating.
1. If you cuddle with someone else you are cheating.
2. If you have sex with a woman but do not remember her name in, you are not cheating.
3. Blow jobs don't count as cheating, they are like hand shakes.
4.If you don't call the person you slept with it doesn't count.
5. If the girl has the same name as your girl friend it does not count or if she has a a name with one letter that is the same as your girl friend's then it is fine.
6. If you tell the girl that you respect them and when you have finished with them then you have cheated.
7. If the person you are about to do something with is sad then you can have sex with them because happiness makes the world go round.
8. It is fine to squeeze fake breasts because they are not real.
9. If you use a condom, you are cheating because that shows you have respect for whoever you are riding.
10. If she is related to you then it is just a family reunion and since we are all descendants of Adam and Eve.
if you dont trust that person that is special to you, then she is not the one and why are you still dating...if she doesnt trust you, then whats the point in dating
If you have trouble with trust you still have baggage and shouldn't even think of a relationship.
It will always be hard to trust her, but you gotta if you want it to work, just keep a positive attitude.
if you don't trust each other, then maybe you shouldn't be together. Trust is the foundation of a good relationship.
I am in a long distance relationship and I completely understand.
Just think that every second you're thinking of her she's thinking of you:)
Everything you feel for her she feels for you:)
If you're scared when she goes out with friends, she's probably scared when you go out to.
No matter what, you love each other:)
If she was cheating on you then there's no point of her even going out with you,
She loves you:)
Trust her:)
Just try to understand, that's all:)Advice on trusting each other in a long distance relationship?
that is evident in a long distance relationship
you need to trust yourself in that you like them enough to trust them
if that makes sense?
if you couldnt trust them, they would probably end the whole thing anyway,
just remember how much you like them, and how much they like you, and the trust between you will build up naturally :)
I assume you are worried about her cheating on you and if she does pull her a ';long distance'; by her pubes. You may also be concerned that you might find someone else..... Cheating is disgusting but you can do things that do not count as cheating.
1. If you cuddle with someone else you are cheating.
2. If you have sex with a woman but do not remember her name in, you are not cheating.
3. Blow jobs don't count as cheating, they are like hand shakes.
4.If you don't call the person you slept with it doesn't count.
5. If the girl has the same name as your girl friend it does not count or if she has a a name with one letter that is the same as your girl friend's then it is fine.
6. If you tell the girl that you respect them and when you have finished with them then you have cheated.
7. If the person you are about to do something with is sad then you can have sex with them because happiness makes the world go round.
8. It is fine to squeeze fake breasts because they are not real.
9. If you use a condom, you are cheating because that shows you have respect for whoever you are riding.
10. If she is related to you then it is just a family reunion and since we are all descendants of Adam and Eve.
if you dont trust that person that is special to you, then she is not the one and why are you still dating...if she doesnt trust you, then whats the point in dating
If you have trouble with trust you still have baggage and shouldn't even think of a relationship.
It will always be hard to trust her, but you gotta if you want it to work, just keep a positive attitude.
if you don't trust each other, then maybe you shouldn't be together. Trust is the foundation of a good relationship.
I need advice on long distance relationship?
i had a boyfriend then started to see this other guy. i didnt cheat on my boyfriend but when i called it off with him me and this other guy realised that we really liked each other, like serioulsy. but he was going travelling for a year. so i held off telling him how strongly i felt coz it would have been too tough to deal with when he left. so i wrote him a letter explaining that he replied to telling me he felt exatly the same and had never loved anyone so much.
ok so hes on the other side of the world for an unknown amount of time, i do love him but how do we keep a relationship going that never really started in the first place, we were together as a couple for like 2 weeks if that. although we spent time together before. we both want it and want to be together when he gets back but how do you do it???I need advice on long distance relationship?
well im currently in a long distance relationship. we made it work we talk every night on the phone and are completely honest with each other about everything. once i kissed my ex and i felt so bad i had to tell him. believe me he wasnt happy but we got through it. we see each other every summer well he drives up and yeah we just get by. we have been together for 2 years and still live about 300 miles awayI need advice on long distance relationship?
Mostly you don't do it. You do not have any form of relationship at all apart from in your mind. As the guy was leaving the country he could safely say whatever he liked. 12 months or more apart when you have never been together (if that makes sense) is just unsustainable. He will meet lots of girls in his travels and i have never met a guy yet who was celibate when travelling.
ok so hes on the other side of the world for an unknown amount of time, i do love him but how do we keep a relationship going that never really started in the first place, we were together as a couple for like 2 weeks if that. although we spent time together before. we both want it and want to be together when he gets back but how do you do it???I need advice on long distance relationship?
well im currently in a long distance relationship. we made it work we talk every night on the phone and are completely honest with each other about everything. once i kissed my ex and i felt so bad i had to tell him. believe me he wasnt happy but we got through it. we see each other every summer well he drives up and yeah we just get by. we have been together for 2 years and still live about 300 miles awayI need advice on long distance relationship?
Mostly you don't do it. You do not have any form of relationship at all apart from in your mind. As the guy was leaving the country he could safely say whatever he liked. 12 months or more apart when you have never been together (if that makes sense) is just unsustainable. He will meet lots of girls in his travels and i have never met a guy yet who was celibate when travelling.
I need advice for long distance relationship plz.?
Im 16 ryt now. and i live here in Canada, Vancouver. About 1 year ago i met a guy named clyde..he's 17, he's so kind, lovable,carrying and most of all he respect all my decision even if it will hurt his feeling juz to make me happy. DaYz past dat he and his family have to move to Alberta, Calgary about 300 miles away from me.. datz y we became long distance..we texted everyday and sometimes if i have no load (cuz im not in plan) he'll sacrifice his time and energy to go to the mall and buy load for me. he's really a nice guy. There r dayz dat we talk online too. we fought many times and make up after dat cuz we really love each other. we even broke up twice and got back.
I really love him, and i know he loves me too. sometimes im talking 2 his sisters and dey said he really loves me.datz y im happy! He trusted me for everything im doing. but sometimes derz thing he can't...and i understand...he's an understanding person too. and sometimes jealousy guy..same as me..hehehe...wer still together ryt now and i dont know if dis is forever..or it will work. He said he's gonna come here dis comming summer. By the way my parents knows it..they juz told me its okey as long as i know wat im doing dey r juz der to support me from watz ryt to wrong. plz help me. I really love him and i dont want to lose him.I need advice for long distance relationship plz.?
Sounds to me you're not going to lose him.
Make sure you two have Trust, Loyalty, and Respect. Also be honest to each other.
P.S. I bet you know French. I can tell by your spelling.I need advice for long distance relationship plz.?
Keep communications going. Nothing works better than letters. Emails and phone calls are alright, but actually taking the time to write to someone shows how much someone is worth to you.
If you truly love someone, distance won't make a difference.
well if he really loves you he will stay with u but he must be feeling pretty lonely i would talk on the phone that is almost like meeting up and stay on CONTACT because if you don't you will lose it.
if you do make it work, make sure to call the history channel and tell them you are in the 1st successful long distance relationship
its very hard to make long distance work and u guys are really young....u can try it but i wouldnt suggest it...but do as ur heart tells u...any problems or mistakes and u will learn from them in the future
yeah they dont work
sorry i know this may hurt but end it now.
im sorry you really need to speak in english not jibberish for all of us to understand
learn to type i cant make out a word you just wrote
Having been in a long distance relationship this question hits pretty close to home for me.
I'll say this; me and my girlfriend couldn't do it. After about 2 months we decided to get a place together. Loving someone who is far away (New Jersey to Florida for me and my girlfriend) is no easy task. It requires a good balance of knowing how much time to give each other to talk and how much time to give to give to yourselves. If you can find that balance you'll probably be able to pull through this ok. Also, webcams will become your new best friend since they are the closest thing you'll have to being with your boyfriend in person.
Well, if it has been working well for all this time, it probably won't go wrong. Most long distant relationships don't work out, but, there is always that small % that do. Tell him that you don't won't to lose your relationship with him. Depending on your age, you could hang on to the thought that you could move to where he is living once you get old enough, or vica versa. Since you have kept in contact every day, you will probably stay in contact for a very long time yet.
Good luck
I really love him, and i know he loves me too. sometimes im talking 2 his sisters and dey said he really loves me.datz y im happy! He trusted me for everything im doing. but sometimes derz thing he can't...and i understand...he's an understanding person too. and sometimes jealousy guy..same as me..hehehe...wer still together ryt now and i dont know if dis is forever..or it will work. He said he's gonna come here dis comming summer. By the way my parents knows it..they juz told me its okey as long as i know wat im doing dey r juz der to support me from watz ryt to wrong. plz help me. I really love him and i dont want to lose him.I need advice for long distance relationship plz.?
Sounds to me you're not going to lose him.
Make sure you two have Trust, Loyalty, and Respect. Also be honest to each other.
P.S. I bet you know French. I can tell by your spelling.I need advice for long distance relationship plz.?
Keep communications going. Nothing works better than letters. Emails and phone calls are alright, but actually taking the time to write to someone shows how much someone is worth to you.
If you truly love someone, distance won't make a difference.
well if he really loves you he will stay with u but he must be feeling pretty lonely i would talk on the phone that is almost like meeting up and stay on CONTACT because if you don't you will lose it.
if you do make it work, make sure to call the history channel and tell them you are in the 1st successful long distance relationship
its very hard to make long distance work and u guys are really young....u can try it but i wouldnt suggest it...but do as ur heart tells u...any problems or mistakes and u will learn from them in the future
yeah they dont work
sorry i know this may hurt but end it now.
im sorry you really need to speak in english not jibberish for all of us to understand
learn to type i cant make out a word you just wrote
Having been in a long distance relationship this question hits pretty close to home for me.
I'll say this; me and my girlfriend couldn't do it. After about 2 months we decided to get a place together. Loving someone who is far away (New Jersey to Florida for me and my girlfriend) is no easy task. It requires a good balance of knowing how much time to give each other to talk and how much time to give to give to yourselves. If you can find that balance you'll probably be able to pull through this ok. Also, webcams will become your new best friend since they are the closest thing you'll have to being with your boyfriend in person.
Well, if it has been working well for all this time, it probably won't go wrong. Most long distant relationships don't work out, but, there is always that small % that do. Tell him that you don't won't to lose your relationship with him. Depending on your age, you could hang on to the thought that you could move to where he is living once you get old enough, or vica versa. Since you have kept in contact every day, you will probably stay in contact for a very long time yet.
Good luck
I need advice on long distance relationship please?
i really please need some advice on a long distance relationship please.
i have been talking to this guy on and off for a while now he says one minute he wants to be with me is in love with me the next pushes me away.and all that good stuff i met him right here on answers from what i been told by a mutual friend he also told her the same things he told me.he accused me of not trusting him and denied even having any kind of feelings for me with others.and when i confronted him on this he told me i should go and not bother wiht him.this is the second chance i have given him in less then a week.i feel he is telling me what i want to hear and for what i do not know.any advice please?? thank youI need advice on long distance relationship please?
find some one else.I need advice on long distance relationship please?
You need to dump this guy. And don't get back with him. He's just telling you what you want to hear. He told the same to your friend(and other girls) I bet.
Plus, how do you know he's who he says he is if you only know him online?
First of all, not all long distance relationships fail. I'm currently in one, and we are currently engaged.
To address your issues, he's only an internet fling. He obviously doesn't care to take things further, so cut him off completely. There are plenty other fish in the sea.
My advice is don't even try. It's going to fail, like all long distance relationships do.
Both of you are cheating on eachother already.
seriously hun if he told you to go on and not bother with him and denies having any feelings for you to friends then you should just let this relationship rest. The guy is obviously not worth your time.
He is not for real.
Forget him hon -- he is toying with U.coupons moon drops
i have been talking to this guy on and off for a while now he says one minute he wants to be with me is in love with me the next pushes me away.and all that good stuff i met him right here on answers from what i been told by a mutual friend he also told her the same things he told me.he accused me of not trusting him and denied even having any kind of feelings for me with others.and when i confronted him on this he told me i should go and not bother wiht him.this is the second chance i have given him in less then a week.i feel he is telling me what i want to hear and for what i do not know.any advice please?? thank youI need advice on long distance relationship please?
find some one else.I need advice on long distance relationship please?
You need to dump this guy. And don't get back with him. He's just telling you what you want to hear. He told the same to your friend(and other girls) I bet.
Plus, how do you know he's who he says he is if you only know him online?
First of all, not all long distance relationships fail. I'm currently in one, and we are currently engaged.
To address your issues, he's only an internet fling. He obviously doesn't care to take things further, so cut him off completely. There are plenty other fish in the sea.
My advice is don't even try. It's going to fail, like all long distance relationships do.
Both of you are cheating on eachother already.
seriously hun if he told you to go on and not bother with him and denies having any feelings for you to friends then you should just let this relationship rest. The guy is obviously not worth your time.
He is not for real.
Forget him hon -- he is toying with U.
Date ideas/advice? My long distance relationship is coming back in a few weeks and I have no idea what to do?
Last summer, I admitted my feelings to the boy I was interested in. He felt the same way, but he had to leave for Australia, so we never had a chance to be a real couple. We've kept in touch, and for the past month we've been talking for at least a few hours a day. I still want to be in a relationship with him, but haven't said it specifically. He's expressed that he does want to see me when he gets back, but I don't know what we should do. I don't want to pressure him into anything, so I don't want to do the classic movie ';date';. What should we do for our first meeting in a year? What should I expect relationship-wise?
Thanks!Date ideas/advice? My long distance relationship is coming back in a few weeks and I have no idea what to do?
take it slow and get to know each other all over againDate ideas/advice? My long distance relationship is coming back in a few weeks and I have no idea what to do?
-Amusement park
-Carnival
-Waterpark
-Fair
-Pick-your-own fruit farm
-Hiking
-Ride bikes around town
-Make custom t-shirts
-Bowling
-Go karts
Thanks!Date ideas/advice? My long distance relationship is coming back in a few weeks and I have no idea what to do?
take it slow and get to know each other all over againDate ideas/advice? My long distance relationship is coming back in a few weeks and I have no idea what to do?
-Amusement park
-Carnival
-Waterpark
-Fair
-Pick-your-own fruit farm
-Hiking
-Ride bikes around town
-Make custom t-shirts
-Bowling
-Go karts
I need advice about long distance relationship?
me and my bf have been together for one year and 7 months, he moved to LA on October from london where we live together, to work for one year. we decided to continue our relationship, but this past 3 weeks we've been arguing and disagreeing about certain things. i just want him to communicate with me more often and he doesn't seem to understand how i feel being here. and he's almost going out with his colluegues which i hate sometimes though i know he's not doing anything bad. what shall i do to make or relationship better? shall i just let him do what he wants, or in what way i can show better what i feel about our relationship. he keeps telling me that he missed me and he can't wait for me to come over on April, but i feel like there's something missing. please give me advice, i feel like giving up and almost break up with him last night... thanks....I need advice about long distance relationship?
brake up n kill urselfI need advice about long distance relationship?
Well this is how i feel you let him do what he want and you just do
you because he out having fun and you at home worrying about
his where abouts and what he's doing
I can understand why you feel less close to him you have gone from living together to being thousands of miles apart anyone that loves someone would feel the same and because you are upset you argue that's normal too. You love him i see that and you seem very sure he isn't cheating so try to worry less. I know it's hard but in the long run a year isn't forever and this is a huge test if you get through this you will get through anything. My boyfriend is in prison which is similar really although different i don't see him much and we sometimes argue its just frustration trust me
instead of feeling like breaking up with with yet u still ove him give urself a break, figure things and sort urself out.
well i'd go over and see him if i was yu or he shud phone yu everyday and just spk what yu feel i mean i live 89 miles away from my gf i live in wolverhampton and she lives in preston but we work out
so i dont realy no but good luck
=]=]
he may just find it too hard to talk to you. being apart from someone, and talking to them is the most difficult part. you hear them, and you catch up, and you wish you could do it in person...but you can't. everything about the person floods back and you miss them even more. that's one explanation. the other is that maybe he's just not feeling the chemistry as well as he did in person. tell him how you are feeling and ask him if he even wants to still date you. that's the best question to ask, to wake him up as to how what he's doing is making you feel. good luck!
maybe the fact yer apart is just getting extra frustrating now and thats why these arguments are happening - talk to him - tell him how frustrated you are and that you need him to be more understanding and sympathetic - its always harder on the one who stays behind - if after explaining this to him he continues to not contact you as much then maybe you do have a problem...
xx
i think you should go spend a week with him to connect again because to me it seems like y'all are losing communication and that and trust is the key to making any relationship work
If you can afford this -Fly to LA, suprise him and give the best sex ever. Get your hair done and get some sexy under wear :)
If not, take some hot pics of yourself and send him.
brake up n kill urselfI need advice about long distance relationship?
Well this is how i feel you let him do what he want and you just do
you because he out having fun and you at home worrying about
his where abouts and what he's doing
I can understand why you feel less close to him you have gone from living together to being thousands of miles apart anyone that loves someone would feel the same and because you are upset you argue that's normal too. You love him i see that and you seem very sure he isn't cheating so try to worry less. I know it's hard but in the long run a year isn't forever and this is a huge test if you get through this you will get through anything. My boyfriend is in prison which is similar really although different i don't see him much and we sometimes argue its just frustration trust me
instead of feeling like breaking up with with yet u still ove him give urself a break, figure things and sort urself out.
well i'd go over and see him if i was yu or he shud phone yu everyday and just spk what yu feel i mean i live 89 miles away from my gf i live in wolverhampton and she lives in preston but we work out
so i dont realy no but good luck
=]=]
he may just find it too hard to talk to you. being apart from someone, and talking to them is the most difficult part. you hear them, and you catch up, and you wish you could do it in person...but you can't. everything about the person floods back and you miss them even more. that's one explanation. the other is that maybe he's just not feeling the chemistry as well as he did in person. tell him how you are feeling and ask him if he even wants to still date you. that's the best question to ask, to wake him up as to how what he's doing is making you feel. good luck!
maybe the fact yer apart is just getting extra frustrating now and thats why these arguments are happening - talk to him - tell him how frustrated you are and that you need him to be more understanding and sympathetic - its always harder on the one who stays behind - if after explaining this to him he continues to not contact you as much then maybe you do have a problem...
xx
i think you should go spend a week with him to connect again because to me it seems like y'all are losing communication and that and trust is the key to making any relationship work
If you can afford this -Fly to LA, suprise him and give the best sex ever. Get your hair done and get some sexy under wear :)
If not, take some hot pics of yourself and send him.
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