He wants to do the long distance relationship and I'm kind of weary because of past failed LDRs who've cheated on me. I trust him completely, but I still have this fear that it will be another failed LDR for me. I know in my heart that I can remain faithful, but since this will be his first LDR, I'm afraid that he won't put as much effort and just give up at the end.
I feel like our relationship is taking steps backwards, instead of forward, but I understand that it's a career related move. It still hurts me that he could just up and leave without trying to get stationed somewhere where I can go with him. Do you think that I should still give the relationship a go or just keep in touch and just be friends and see if we still have feelings for each other after the three years?Advice on long distance relationship please!?
It sounds like he loves you....to not be able to be with you and still want to do a LDR, it doesn't sound like he would cheat. He sounds pretty sure of himself. Just think about what you said at the beginning, you've been together 2 years and just because past ones have failed....why throw someone like that into the past where guys didn't love you like he does? Just make sure he knows the effort he'll have to put in and how hard it is and I'm sure you both can do it. 3 years may seem like forever when you're apart, but it also gives you something to look forward to. It'll be something new, not a step backward. A chance to get to know each other in a way you wouldn't otherwise. No physical to get in the way, just love, communication and trust. It will make your relationship so much stronger....if you both will be strong for your relationship. If he wants to do it, I would definitely go for it. Why throw away 2 years of love, for friendship...when a long distance relationship is possible? Give it a try, if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out....at least you know you tried. I believe it will work though.
Good Luck %26lt;3Advice on long distance relationship please!?
my advice on long distance relationships, is they are always shaky and won't work unless the people move where the other one is, if not it is destined to fail and be very shaky.
I think its best that you keep in touch as friends and when he comes back you two can start from where you left off.
wow.....ummmm idk srry
first of all! you cannot base old relationships on ANYTHING you do in this relationship.
now about the LDR, you said he wants to try it. why dont you talk to him about what happens emotionally since you hae been in one, tell him that its harder than you thought possible.
you two also have to talk about how much u will see eachother and if it is worth the money and time to make extra visits! you also need to see if there will be a point you guys will be together again. will it be 2 years of this or ten?! and if it seems too long, or like it you wont be together soon, then maybe it wouldnt be the best idea.
those are all things you have to think about. hope this helps!
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