Advice needed, long distance relationship - no end in sight? :/?

Hellooo


I met my boyfriend about 3 months ago, pulling him off my best friend in a club because she had a boyfriend. we got talking and REALLY connected. got together and have been together a month, the connection we have is intense and very strong. Thats probably why he decided, a week before he went to uni, to start a relationship with me. we both knew it wasnt a fling sort of thing, and both wanted a lot more.


I see him often, about once a fortnight if we both have money. i LOVE it when im there, or he's here :) its just perfect, in every way. i hate it when hes not, and recently its become a lot harder. Im going to uni myself and although im applying to where he is (through my own choice, not purely because hes in the same city) there is little chance ill go there. Ive applied to 4 other places, and basically my problem is this


long distance is very hard at the moment


when i go to uni, if its still long distance, it will be hard


hes going to spain for a year in 2 years, for his year abroad at uni. Ill be doing the same, but in 1 year but to italy.


he doesnt want to live in england when hes graduated and working, he wants to move to egypt or spain.


his mum and dad are in a long distance relationship, and i see myself heading in the same direction as his mum and if i cant bear it now, its not the kind of life i want for myself either. but i love him, and im not naive enough to think hes the guy ill spend the REST of my life with, but it seems that way at the moment. he talks so openly, unlike anyother guy ive met, and you can tell he honestly sees us together long term. he often says he wants us to get through anything, and talks about the future and refuses to think about me not in it. he calls and texts everyday without fail, and i trust him completely. but if i dont want the long distance thing to last for the rest of my life, should i carry our relationship on for now or not? because the deeper i get into it, the harder it will be.


HELP PLEASE! :( advice?





ps no patronising comments please about how long we've been together. his mum and dad got married after 3 months and have been together 20 years, its not length of time, its feelings and i know that. but any help appreciated! :)Advice needed, long distance relationship - no end in sight? :/?
You fell for this guy after witnessing first hand the drooling he was doing over YOUR FRIEND? Hmmm..... Dump his a$s.Advice needed, long distance relationship - no end in sight? :/?
Hello... well, I was in a long distance relationship for 3 years... that recently ended... anyhow, you know, you have to follow your heart. A lot changes with time, and I think that right now you may be thinking too ahead of yourself. How about you enjoy the love, be happy and see how things go before putting all this stress...





It's difficult I know, but you will be hurt either way... hurt if you decide to break off the relationship over assumptions, and hurt if you stay to find out yrs down the road the two of you wont be together as much as you want to be.





Follow your heart, and if the two of you see each other committed to one another for the longest time, than do so. I wish you luck!
both ur lives are going in different directions. You need to see what your priority is, if it is him, find a way to be with him but how clong can you keep doing so? you have your own career and future to think of. Get your priorities right.
I honestly have nothing negative to say to you about your feelings, I know how you feel. Long distance can be complicated but Love will push through anything. I think that if you can get into school semi close to each other you will be happier but It will be ok if you need closer. He will want you happy I am sure no matter what based on what I know. You have to follow your heart! Everything else will fall into place!
I say you HAVE to have a set of deal-breakers.


If having a long-distance relationship for the rest of your life is a deal-breaker, then break of the relationship now. The longer you take this relationship, the more miserable you will be.





Wouldn't you rather find someone who you can see more often? And actually think about a future with without having that long-distance thing looming over you?





I say break if off now.


My personal view is that if you can't see yourself marrying someone, why date them? Or at least, if you don't know that from the beginning, but discover a deal-breaker along the way... then don't drag it on. You're leading him and YOURSELF on.





The only way I can see that carrying on the relationship would be a good thing is if you managed to find a way to take the long-distance aspect out of it. For the long-term.





Edit: I also have to say that while emotions and ';your heart'; DO have a lot to do with this... DON'T do something based on ONLY your emotions. Use your head, make smart choices. :) You know, your brain is a lot smarter than your heart. This was partially in response to another poster.
i see no reason to break off the relationship right away, because the future plans you guys have are tentative by definition and so need not preclude a relationship that's in the present and gives you happiness. of course, if at any point you feel that the heartache from being away most of the time outweighs the happiness, call it off (preferably in person), but don't take the decision in a hurry or a rush of emotion.