Long distance relationship need advice?

my boyfriend of 2 yrs broke up with me 4 days ago. he is paralyzed and in a wheelchair. hes 31 and im 24. i loved and accepted him for him. we have never officially met bc we met off myspace but were planning on meeting in the next 2 months after he had surgery. recently he had been hanging out with his cousin a lot and it seems he brainwashed him or something. everything was good my bf got my initials tattooed and everything. we talked on the phone every minute of every day. he all the sudden broke it off the other day out of the blue. when the day before he told me how much he loved me and cared about me. now he wont answers my calls and tells me to leave him alone all the sudden and he never loved me, or cared and that this was just a phone relationship and that u cant love someone u never met, then he said he loved me at one point but not anymore, yet he told me he loved me the night before he broke it off. it doesnt make sense. we had plans to meet in like a month but he kept prolonging it bc of having surgery and being depressed about a pressure sore he had. will he ever talk to me again? will we ever see eachother?Long distance relationship need advice?
Wow. That's really tough. I'm sorry for you. ,_, %26lt;3





But to think about this as logically as possible:





1) Are you sure that he wasn't deceiving you? You'd talked to him on the phone, but did you web-cam frequently? Do you know for certain that he didn't have a wife, or a family, or some other secret that he was keeping from you? As horrible as it is to contemplate, the fact that he kept postponing things might have been a bad sign.





2) You might be right about the cousin. Perhaps he had a lot of outside pressure to pursue a relationship with someone closer and eventually buckled under the pressure, though if that's the case, he went about telling you in the completely wrong way.





3) The fact that he's paralyzed and in a wheelchair might have him thinking that if you meet him in person, you won't accept him as well as you can from afar. It's possibly a defence mechanism - to cut you off before you can hurt him.





Give it some time, and don't try obsessively to get into contact with him. Maybe he just needs a few days to think things through. But don't wait on him indefinitely, or you'll be setting yourself up for heart-ache.