Breaking up in a serious/long distance relationship-- serious advice only.?

Me and my boyfriend of over four years have decided to split. We are in a long distance relationship so it hurts even more because i know I might never see him again. It is really hard because he was my first boyfriend and I have never experienced a break-up before. Not only was he my boyfriend, but also my best friend, and the reason we broke up is because he stopped calling me frequently, and when I checked our phone bill I saw he was making late night calls to another girl, who lives very close to him.





When I confronted him about it he claimed she was just a friend and he was helping her through a rough patch. But I didn't understand how you could talk to another girl for four hours on the phone each night when you claim you have no time for me. I really wanted to believe him, so we didn't talk for three days to figure things out. Then three days later I was expecting him to want to take a longer break to figure things out, but he just wanted to break up for good. He also said that there is a chance we could get back together, but it feels as if he already has found someone else, the girl he has been calling. I am confused and I don't know what to do.





I really want to call the girl and ask her what's up but that is stalkerish but its just killing me not knowing if they are getting together since they live so close together, and I don't want to sit and wait around for him if he already has gotten over me and is just saying that to make me feel better. =[Breaking up in a serious/long distance relationship-- serious advice only.?
Long distance relationship is never easy, what more if it's a serious one. I should know coz I was in one not very long ago. And yes, there was also another girl involved. I asked him about her but he said that 'she was just a friend and that he's helping her through some rough patch' - sound familiar? Anyways, I decided to let it go and went on with the relationship with my guy, believing in him when he said that the girl was and will never be a threat to our relationship. Then out of the blue one day, I got a text message from the girl telling me that my guy was very sick and that she's worried about him and asked me to talk to my guy about going to see the doctor as she tried telling him but he wouldn't listen to her. I flipped. How was it that she knew about him being sick and I didn't???? I called him up and blasted his head off - first for giving my number to the girl, and secondly for keeping me in the dark about his health. We had a huge fight but worked things out at the end. However, the girl kept sending me text messages about him and each time she did that, she was like trying to let me know that she knows hell of alot more about my guy than I did. I was confused for a long time and it was wearing me out. Finally, I called the girl and had a heart to heart/woman to woman talk with her to find out what's really going on between them and that's when she told me that she and my guy had been friends for a long time and that they love each other to bits but somehow they can't decide whether they want to be with each other or not. After talking to her, I called up my guy and had a heart to heart talk with him. I came clean about calling the girl and told him what she said. Part of me wanted him to deny but part of me wanted to hear the truth. My heart broke when I heard the truth. The girl didn't lie to me. As painful as it was, I knew what I had to do. I broke up with him. It took me a long time to get over the pain but now I'm completely healed and more important, I'm happy.


For your own peace of mind, go and find out for sure. Hope for the best but be prepared for the worse. Good luck hun!Breaking up in a serious/long distance relationship-- serious advice only.?
LDR's are not easy and the majority of them do fail. Do not hold the other girl responsible. She may have started out being a friend to him and his feelings changed. Since she is closer, he has fallen for him. Let him go. Prove you are better off with out him and find someone closer to where you are. Time will heal you and you will find someone else.
Time will heal the pain. I know it's hard. Take your time to get over it and then move on. There are plenty of men out there that will treat you right.
Sorry after four years you deserve better he's not being fair on you and he's being cruel keeping you hanging on.Deep down you know its over if you get back with him now It wont last you''ll be eaten up with jealousy it's killing you now.Get even get dressed get your hair done and get out don't be the victim be a survivor.
this break up is really for the best...although it may not seem like it right now because you are hurting..





relationships are hard enough to maintain as it is..to add another factor (distance) makes it even tougher...we are designed to want to be with someone (companionship) so its only natural to want to be with someone that you can see regularly as opposed to every once in a while...





unfortunately you are gonna have to endure the pain of this break up until you are better again...i wouldn't get involved with anyone else right now until you are completely over your ex...the next person will only be a rebound and after a while in that relationship you will realize you are really not feeling him he was just around for comfort








btw...i know it will be hard but try your best not to contact him (phone, text message, email, etc..) or allow him to contact you..it will only give you false hopes of getting back together ..dont allow him to play games with you as far as saying you all can get back together when its really not happening...
you should take a look at some of my questions because we kinda went threw the same thing my boifriend went 2 the army and i didnt see him for 4 months then for 6 an one day we where txtin an he was like he cant take it not being able 2 spend time wit me so we seperated i was hurt at first but now its like well ok find someone else an try 2 b a good girlfriend now me an till this day me an him still talk and are still good friends............So maybe itll will work out where as though yall do get back 2gether or stay good friends good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
pain will be there for sure. but dont be emotional.Think of all the bad things that this guy had done to you in past 4 yr .


i have breakup just 14 days ago with my long distnace gf.she got another bf .


i said to myself that i will not be a loser by crying for that girl.Just think of the situation in the last 4 yrs where u felt hurt by this guy .trust me it worked for me :)