In a REALLY long distance relationship....Need advice, not criticism?

My girlfriend and I decided to stay together after I decided to move 1100 miles away from home to go to school. First off, I am 19 and she is 17. I will be finished with my degree and out of the Federal academy im attending within 4 years. She is a JR in high school. Our plan is for me to finish my schooling and hopefully take a job back in our home town ,and kick it into full swing. Its been about a month since i left, and im going to see her in a month. I plan on seeing her every 4 months or so, plus the time she will come visit here. We talk every day. Were both mature for our age and hate when we get the typical criticism of our relationship being nothing more than just ';young love';. So pretend you didnt assume that about us when you read our age, and think were older and far more dedicated than the average teen couples.


She recently told me that she was afraid that I was going to change during our time apart, but i know im not going to. How do you see this realationship going?In a REALLY long distance relationship....Need advice, not criticism?
I think that you have a very healthy, normal relationship. If you said that you went for your studies and didn't see her for 4 years, then I would worry. But since you see each other every few months, and you talk on the phone every day, you are on the right path. The distance will also give you more time to study and get your degree as fast as possible. As long as you love each other your relationship will stay strong and the time spent apart will be worth it because you'll get a good education and you'll be able to get married and start a family soon. Good luck :)In a REALLY long distance relationship....Need advice, not criticism?
Keep in prospective your ultimate goal of returning to her side and hope she does too.





It is refreshing to see that people make long term plans nowadays. LDRs are tough, the level of trust between you has really got to be very solid. 4 years is a pretty long time but I've heard of longer, my aunt and uncle being one. My aunt went overseas for her degree then work for 9 years before returning and they got married and now they have 2 children + 1 on the way so it is certainly possible!





Things can change, being a different environment can change people no doubt. Honesty is very important and it might be fair to each other to say that you will let the other know if someonelse is 'coming into the picture' and be able to talk about it and plan what is best for both parties. If something is bothering either of you, discuss it and not let things bottle up.





Its impossible to predict how a relationship will turn out. With perseverance and commitment I hope you guys will last through the physical separation.





Wishing you all the best!
anything can happen.....no one can guaranty this to both of you..
I dated a guy who lived about that far away from me when I was 15 and he was 17. We made it work like that for 2 years, then he moved to my town and we made it work for 2 more years. our problem wasn't distance, it was the actual relationship. the key is both of you REALLY do want the same thing - and it is each other. If you have that, you can do it.
There is a saying ';Long distance relationships are a challenge. They call us to rise above ourselves, to reach for heights we might not otherwise reach. So why do we do this to ourselves? We do it because we see the potential for love, maybe even long-term commitment. And, successful or otherwise, these relationships give us a window into ourselves. We learn the depth of our strength, the breadth of our self-reliance, and most of all, the distances we will travel for the promise of love.';





I am in a long distance relationship and will not meet my bf for the next 2 years. Good enough you're planning to meet every 4 months. With these you guys could grow together and be more independent even without each other. If you're determine about making this relationship work, then it WILL work. When there's a will, there's a way. Even if it l takes a lifetime to be with each other. Good Luck!





P.S. The key to a good long distance relationship? Communication.