Advice for dealing with long distance relationships?

So we have been together for a year and two months, we have been apart for eight months. We are 240 miles away because we both went to beach schools, uc san diego and uc santa barbara. It is so hard. The first few months were horrible! we only see each other one weekend a month not really a weekend just a day and a half cuz i have work. being away from him hurts. we fight over the dumbest things. does anyone have any advice to make things easier for the both of us? summer is only a few months away and we will be back at home, only 20 mintues apart from each other.lately there have been some really close calls to breaking up because we both can get emontial about being apart and it drives us aprt. please any advice will help me out..thank youAdvice for dealing with long distance relationships?
The tiffs and arguments that you two are having is nothing more than the frustration that the two of you are feeling from being apart for so long. That is normal. Instead of getting angry, start to talk about how you feel. Even if it's the silly stuff like, ';I miss seeing what you wear each day.'; Own up to your feelings and discuss them. Contact one another each day or close to each day. Communication is absolutely the key in the situation. Make sure the conversations are ways to make sure the other person knows really what is going on in your life and vice versa. Tell him about the hard test you had and the weird guy in your class. Tell him about the idiot that pulled out in front of you in traffic. Tell him about the bad service at the fast food restaurant. Tell him about the fight you had with your mom. Whatever it is -- TELL HIM. Get him to do the same with you. Tell the big stuff and the little stuff. Paint a picture of your day so that he is able to feel like he at least half-way experienced it vicariously through you. If you are missing him more than usual, then you need to tell him rather than holding it inside and letting it explode.





Spend some time planning the next time you two will see one another. Get a calendar devoted to counting down to when you see him next. He may want to do the same thing. Plan the things you will do together so you both have something to look forward. Making a plan together gives you both something to do and something to smile about as it comes closer and closer.Advice for dealing with long distance relationships?
Skype and MSN Live are your best bet. It makes it a little better.
Ohh ... the drama ... the yearning ...





In a word, long distance sucks, but at least you're in the same state within driving distance ! It could be a lot worse, like he could be in Australia and you could be in Florida, ok?





The key to keeping it together is one word: Contact. Contact contact contact. I can't say it enough! What you have to do is have as much contact as you can: Texts, emails, phone calls, pictures, cozy talks late at night ... stuff like that is what sustains a long distance relationship.





A little perspective goes a long way. The next time you feel like a convo is heading for an argument, just ask him, ';Honey, are we fighting?'; Turn it around to something positive, and don't let it escalate. Whatever you do, do NOT break up while you're apart. Do NOT make any major decisions while you are apart. Wait until you can see each other and talk about it.





The fact that you both get so emotional should tell you how close you are, and that it's worth it to stay together. I live halfway between you two in LA, and I drive for a living, so I can say this: SD to SB ... it ain't that far! I know that traffic can suck, but isn't there a way that you could meet somewhere in LA more often? Each of you drive halfway and you split the difference for where you would stay? As close as you are, it just seems criminal to only see each other once a month.





Anyway, keep in contact as much as you can, and make plans as often as you can.





Best of luck !!