I would like advice from ppl who've done long distance relationships successfully...?

I have met someone online whom I like very much and the feeling is mutual. (If it matters I am 26 and he's 29). I live in the midwest and he in the southwest, about 1600 miles apart. We met in person about a week ago when he came to the area to visit his family. We were very surprised to find out how attracted we were to each other, since we started out as friends and didn't have expectations beyond that. Our relationship continues to grow and we're both wondering what the next step is. I would like to hear from someone who's done this before...how often did you travel to see each other? How long did it take you to decide to live together? Who moved? Or did you find someplace halfway in between and both move?





I am just trying to consider every possibility, so really any well thought out answer would be appreciated.





Thank you VERY much....I would like advice from ppl who've done long distance relationships successfully...?
My bf and I are younger than you but we have been in a long distance relationship for 4 years now. We were 16 when we started dating, he lives in Germany and I live in California. We met an were togehter for about 9 months before he had to go back. Anyway, Long distance relationships take communication, trust and honesty. We vist eachother for about one month every year. We talk everyday and use webcams so we can see eachother. We send eachother letters, because they are more personal. They work, both of you just have to do the work required to make it last. Good luck :)I would like advice from ppl who've done long distance relationships successfully...?
My fiance lives in Germany, and I'm in NY - 4000 miles - I'm 28 and he's 29. We met on a bulletin board and became friends; after 6 months we became more of a couple, and three months later (July) he flew to the US and spent two weeks with me. That was when we decided he would move here eventually; I'm visiting him in Germany in January, and he's coming here again in March - as for the move, that will be when we get all the immigration stuff sorted out.





As you can see, it's a very different situation from yours; moving to a midpoint is out of the question, and so is me moving to Germany, because I have kids who visit my ex. We also probably moved a lot faster than most people do, but that's just how we are; and we can't see each other very often because of the expense.
I had a sucessful LDR. (if it matters I am 40 and still single)


We eventually started seeing other ppl.


We are still friends today but the relationship didn't last.


BUT that is not to say that it will happen to you. There must be some other reason you are asking this question because it doesn't matter how it worked out with other ppl. Your situation is unique. The very fact that you have to ask this question poses the possibility that you have your doubts. It would not be realistic to say, ';It'll work! Hang in there!';. This would have to come naturally and if it doesn't feel right then it probably won't work out but that doesn't mean you can't still be friends.





P.S. If there is no trust...there is no relationship.
this works yes, but you have to be patient
I was in Chicago, he was in England - we were married for ten years. It definitely CAN work.





I'd recommend getting a Skype account so you can talk to each other on the computer, or get coordinating cell phone plans so you don't get screwed with huge bills since you're dealing with different time zones. Travel together as often as you can and keep an open mind about where you'll end up living (if it comes to that). We settled on Minneapolis.





Unfortunately he fell very ill - three years gone. But now I'm with *another* guy doing the long distance relationship, this time he's in Afghanistan. We're expecting our first baby next year.





Just focus on the positive and you can get through anything if the relationship is strong enough.
Contrary to popular belief...long distance relationships can work..trust me..I have been in one. The effort has to be made from both sides.





You said that you both have already met..so thats a start. Don't hold back your feelings for him..Just because of the distance. In my case..the distance actually helped us know each other better and believe it or not..brings us closer..literally. We usually use to meet somewhere halfway...and spent quality time with each other.





We tried to meet every week or every other week...until we decided to move in...and in my case..my gf moved in to my state and lives in with me. She had the option to transfer her job..so that kinda helped.





Long distance relationships can work...Just hang in there.
My fiancee and I started going out in July of '05, and he still had 1 and a half yrs of college left.





here I was at home, working my *** off, and he was at college. we had to call eachother probably 3 times a day just to keep our sanity. Meeting in the summer and having things so hot and heavy and constant, then not being able to see eachother was sooooooo hard. I often times just cried myself to sleep because I missed him so much, and he'd call me in the middle of the night and you could hear the whimpering in his voice.





when we finally saw eachother on the weekends (or every other weekend), we just hugged and kissed eachother's brains out. It felt so good to know that he missed me just as bad as I did him, and that he loves me so much.





you just have to keep the relationship alive when you can't see eachother. call eachother, write letters, send pictures, have phone sex...it takes a lot of work to not give up and just say, ';screw it, I'm moving on!';





It takes a lot of courage, a lot of trust, and a hell of a lot of patience. but look at us now...we're living together and are so happy to be together everyday!
Long distance can work! Mine wasn't as far away as your - we were about 2 hrs/115miles or so away. We also met online (we were both 21). We talked online for about 4 months before we decided to meet, and once we did we knew it was made to be. We took every chance we could to visit eachother. We took turns travelling and sometimes we would even meet halfway and stay with friends or whatever. It worked out so well, we moved in together this past March and we have now been together for 16 months. We sort of knew it was going to work between us and we had started talking about moving in together very early in the relationship - he moved to my city because I had the better job at the time. I was originally going to move with him to a completely different state than both of our home towns because he had a contract to work for a hospital, but it fell through. I think the way to do it is just to seek out what would be the best interests of you both - job-wise, does one need to be closer to their families for medical reasons, connection to their town/city, etc.





Best wishes to you both, if it's meant to be, it will work!! :)