im 15...and a female...i live in new york and my boyfriend lives in floridaI was wondering if anyone had advice for long-distance relationships?
Just keep faith in you, in your boyfriend , and in your relationship.I was wondering if anyone had advice for long-distance relationships?
leave his *** and have a long distace relationship with me
no? ok. anyway, just email him and if needed talk a little dirty on the phone or IM with him
iM SORRY,
thats all I can say, for me they never work but hey Im gay
Honestly, I don't really know how a teenager's long distance affair would turn out. I haven't been a teenager since...well since I was a teenager. In this day and age with email and cell phones, you can communicate a lot quicker, but seeing each other is expensive and a little much to expect. I would probably say keep your options for a new love open. You're young and in time, even though you may not forget him, you'll move on.
Yes I do...don't even think about it. It will not work out to your benefit. It just goes against human nature, and you are far too young to be sitting home waiting for someone who may or may not come back...probably will not come back.
You're only fifteen? Keep him in Florida and stay in New York. Get a cell phone plan with LOTS of free minutes. And snail mail still works.
LOL, it's apparent I'm a parent.
Long distance relationships can be successful but they require a lot of trust, understanding, and maturity. It's very challenging to be involved with someone who is hours away and not able to be by your side when you need him. Both parties have to be in agreement about how the relationship is going to progress i.e phone calls, exclusivity, visits, etc. Don't assume that you are exclusive if this has not been discussed. Once you and he are on the same page there are little things you can do to stay connected. Talk to each other daily, arrange movie dates ( you both rent the same movie and watch it together), make sure you talk to each other about what you are doing in your life,even the mundane things. Relationships require work and patience and long distance relationships even moreso.
Easy. Long distance relationships can work if you want them to.
You really need to only focus on the task at hand. If you are serious about each other, then only focus on each other and your relationship.
You're really only seperated for possible, a short time. Then you'll be together.
If this seperation is job/school related, just focus on that, and then after, focus on each other through the phone, email, planning to see each other, etc.
They work if you want them to.
Keep in touch by letter writing and emails. Do not be afraid to date others. You are young and should think carefully about a commitment with someone long distance
there is no advice..THEY don't work, especially at your age, he will find a new flavor of the week soon and you will too.
Thursday, December 31, 2009
Advice on long distance relationships?
After this year, my boyfriend is leaving for college.
We've decided we're going to stay together and keep on touch while he's gone.
He'll be about 2 1/2 to 3 hours away and will come home for holidays, but doesn't sound like he's going to visit home much otherwise.
I know he won't cheat on me, and I won't on him, but for the past year and a half that we've been together, he's lived in my neighborhood.
I think I'm going to have a hard time dealing with not seeing him, and I was wondering if you think it can last. I know I have the rest of this school year and the summer to spend with him, but I cannot stop thinking about it.
I'm really scared to see him leave and I was wondering if anyone had any advice?
We've been together a year and a half, and we have known each other for years. We're really close, and I know people say that people always find other girlfriends in college, but I don't think that will be much of a problem.Advice on long distance relationships?
Don't let anyone tell you whats right for you guys
But in my experience..which is 2 and half happy years with my love who lives over 9 hours away in another country. The main element in a long distance relationship is trust. It is gonna be hard i'd never say it isn't but think about the times you see him again.Treasure your time together and you will get through this
I am seeing mine in 44 days when he gets home from the army Yay!Advice on long distance relationships?
I am in a long distance relationship right now. I am in Minnesota and she lives in China. We met through the internet and have been communicating for some time. I am going to visit her for the first time next year. I believe when you have built a solid relationship that includes trust and honesty not much will get in the way of being apart from each other. If the relationship is meant to be you will find ways and means to see each other.
Long distance relationships don't work. Period.
Long distance relationships are difficult, not because people ';cheat';, but because you are both in different environments and you both change. This is a normal part of growing up. You will both meet new people and it is unrealistic to expect either of you not to go out for 4 years. You are not going to ';stay together'; because you will NOT be together. Since you are not married he cannot ';cheat'; on you per se, nor you him. Live your life and let happen what may happen. Of course it can last, but there can be no guarantee that he won't meet someone else or that you will not meet someone else.
rules for a Long Distance Relationship (LDR)
1. daily contact--phone, email, webcam, whatever. just have some sort of contact with each other on a daily basis.
2. clear ground rules for what your expectations with each other are while you are separated.
3. scheduled physical contact with each other during the separation. This one isn't about sex. It's about being in the same physical space and visiting and hanging out with each other. going on dates together, sharing a meal or watching a movie.
4. The Long Distance part of the relationship MUST be temporary (1 year, 2 years, 6 months, 5 years?). Have a specific set date when the long distance will end and the two of you will be in the same zip code again.
understand that change happens whether you want it to or not. The above rules don't guarantee that you or him won't meet someone else you'd rather be with or that the two of you won't grow apart anyway. They are just a guideline for how to have your relationship survive an extended time apart.
as in any relationship, both of you have to want the same things and have the same goals for your relationship to survive.
Good Luck.
We've decided we're going to stay together and keep on touch while he's gone.
He'll be about 2 1/2 to 3 hours away and will come home for holidays, but doesn't sound like he's going to visit home much otherwise.
I know he won't cheat on me, and I won't on him, but for the past year and a half that we've been together, he's lived in my neighborhood.
I think I'm going to have a hard time dealing with not seeing him, and I was wondering if you think it can last. I know I have the rest of this school year and the summer to spend with him, but I cannot stop thinking about it.
I'm really scared to see him leave and I was wondering if anyone had any advice?
We've been together a year and a half, and we have known each other for years. We're really close, and I know people say that people always find other girlfriends in college, but I don't think that will be much of a problem.Advice on long distance relationships?
Don't let anyone tell you whats right for you guys
But in my experience..which is 2 and half happy years with my love who lives over 9 hours away in another country. The main element in a long distance relationship is trust. It is gonna be hard i'd never say it isn't but think about the times you see him again.Treasure your time together and you will get through this
I am seeing mine in 44 days when he gets home from the army Yay!Advice on long distance relationships?
I am in a long distance relationship right now. I am in Minnesota and she lives in China. We met through the internet and have been communicating for some time. I am going to visit her for the first time next year. I believe when you have built a solid relationship that includes trust and honesty not much will get in the way of being apart from each other. If the relationship is meant to be you will find ways and means to see each other.
Long distance relationships don't work. Period.
Long distance relationships are difficult, not because people ';cheat';, but because you are both in different environments and you both change. This is a normal part of growing up. You will both meet new people and it is unrealistic to expect either of you not to go out for 4 years. You are not going to ';stay together'; because you will NOT be together. Since you are not married he cannot ';cheat'; on you per se, nor you him. Live your life and let happen what may happen. Of course it can last, but there can be no guarantee that he won't meet someone else or that you will not meet someone else.
rules for a Long Distance Relationship (LDR)
1. daily contact--phone, email, webcam, whatever. just have some sort of contact with each other on a daily basis.
2. clear ground rules for what your expectations with each other are while you are separated.
3. scheduled physical contact with each other during the separation. This one isn't about sex. It's about being in the same physical space and visiting and hanging out with each other. going on dates together, sharing a meal or watching a movie.
4. The Long Distance part of the relationship MUST be temporary (1 year, 2 years, 6 months, 5 years?). Have a specific set date when the long distance will end and the two of you will be in the same zip code again.
understand that change happens whether you want it to or not. The above rules don't guarantee that you or him won't meet someone else you'd rather be with or that the two of you won't grow apart anyway. They are just a guideline for how to have your relationship survive an extended time apart.
as in any relationship, both of you have to want the same things and have the same goals for your relationship to survive.
Good Luck.
Long distance relationship advice?
my boyfriend lives in a different state to me, but luckily it's on the same side of the country. i get to see him soon, but its in about 20 or so days. its getting really hard for both of us, but i love him so theres no way in hell im ending it.
does anyone have any ideas how we can survive the last few days, and the time after that?
my parents dont know yet, so he cant come stay or anything.....Long distance relationship advice?
being in the military, i've learned to do the long distance thing, as much as it sucks...
you gotta be realistic about it first of all... you can't expect too much and don't get your hopes up on your ';future'; with that person... just go with the flow. if it's meant to be, it'll happen.. with work of course, but that doesn't at all mean you have to force it.
contact every day, even if it's once a day really helps... webcam or phone where you can see each other or hear each other's voices. txts and emails in between are good too. (of course, in the military, that's not always possible)
it's also good for both of you to have something of each other or something meaningful to the relationship, or that simply reminds each of you of the other..
enjoy every second you have together and make the best of it always... try reeeeally hard not to fight, especially over the petty stuff, it's just not worth it. you want to have a good time so you have that to think about and the next visit to motivate you until the next one.
i think the biggest thing would be not to lose yourself and not to revolve your life around the calls and visits... keep busy between visits and focus on yourself. it helps time fly and it keeps you grounded, as well as satisfied with your life so that the other person is a bonus, and makes it better rather than BEING your life (and it being miserable when you're apart) it also makes it easier to let go once it's time, if that happens.Long distance relationship advice?
faith is everything and by the looks of it you have a lot of it. i just hope your boyfriend has the same. if you both love each other and keep in touch on the phone it will go well. you can also use this program skype.com which helps you talk to them and look at them at the same time. I been through a relationship like yours expect my girl was in Europe and it was much harder believe me. you have to trust and believe, and in time it will only get better.
My girlfriend's been in Hawaii over the holidays and we're both going CRAZY. We've been IMing for hours at a time every day but it's really not the same. I suggest that you both get a webcam. They're not expensive and you can download and use Skype for free video chat.
does anyone have any ideas how we can survive the last few days, and the time after that?
my parents dont know yet, so he cant come stay or anything.....Long distance relationship advice?
being in the military, i've learned to do the long distance thing, as much as it sucks...
you gotta be realistic about it first of all... you can't expect too much and don't get your hopes up on your ';future'; with that person... just go with the flow. if it's meant to be, it'll happen.. with work of course, but that doesn't at all mean you have to force it.
contact every day, even if it's once a day really helps... webcam or phone where you can see each other or hear each other's voices. txts and emails in between are good too. (of course, in the military, that's not always possible)
it's also good for both of you to have something of each other or something meaningful to the relationship, or that simply reminds each of you of the other..
enjoy every second you have together and make the best of it always... try reeeeally hard not to fight, especially over the petty stuff, it's just not worth it. you want to have a good time so you have that to think about and the next visit to motivate you until the next one.
i think the biggest thing would be not to lose yourself and not to revolve your life around the calls and visits... keep busy between visits and focus on yourself. it helps time fly and it keeps you grounded, as well as satisfied with your life so that the other person is a bonus, and makes it better rather than BEING your life (and it being miserable when you're apart) it also makes it easier to let go once it's time, if that happens.Long distance relationship advice?
faith is everything and by the looks of it you have a lot of it. i just hope your boyfriend has the same. if you both love each other and keep in touch on the phone it will go well. you can also use this program skype.com which helps you talk to them and look at them at the same time. I been through a relationship like yours expect my girl was in Europe and it was much harder believe me. you have to trust and believe, and in time it will only get better.
My girlfriend's been in Hawaii over the holidays and we're both going CRAZY. We've been IMing for hours at a time every day but it's really not the same. I suggest that you both get a webcam. They're not expensive and you can download and use Skype for free video chat.
Long distance relationship advice?
What is your opinion of trying to keep a long distance relationship with a boyfriend when we are at colleges a little over an hour away from each other?
We are currently at the same university, but I'm considering nursing, which would require me to transfer to a campus about an hour and twenty minutes away. We will both be juniors next year (when I would transfer).
My concern is that the distance would put quite a bit of stress on our relationship just from being apart and trying to see each other as often as possible. I'm not worried about unfaithfulness or anything.
Anyone who has tried something like this, do you have any advice?
We live six hours apart during the summer, and have already done the long distance thing during then.Long distance relationship advice?
well if yall already done the long distance before..then an hour and half away is nothin compared to 6 hrs. Long distance relationships are based on commitment trust and communication (huge part) those are the type of risk u have to take in the relationship because u never know it might not be as scary as u think. Alot of ppl might say hell no..its not gonna work..but theres many ppl that have long distance and its worked out for the best. The best thing yall can do is talk about how often yall can see each other..maybe every weekend. At my school alot of girls would spend every weekend or other weekend wit their bf or vice versaLong distance relationship advice?
I woulkd say an hour is doable, especially if you've done the 6 hour thing.
Plus you're a nurse, that's alaways hot for a guy, so he'll try harder :)eye makeup remover body cream
We are currently at the same university, but I'm considering nursing, which would require me to transfer to a campus about an hour and twenty minutes away. We will both be juniors next year (when I would transfer).
My concern is that the distance would put quite a bit of stress on our relationship just from being apart and trying to see each other as often as possible. I'm not worried about unfaithfulness or anything.
Anyone who has tried something like this, do you have any advice?
We live six hours apart during the summer, and have already done the long distance thing during then.Long distance relationship advice?
well if yall already done the long distance before..then an hour and half away is nothin compared to 6 hrs. Long distance relationships are based on commitment trust and communication (huge part) those are the type of risk u have to take in the relationship because u never know it might not be as scary as u think. Alot of ppl might say hell no..its not gonna work..but theres many ppl that have long distance and its worked out for the best. The best thing yall can do is talk about how often yall can see each other..maybe every weekend. At my school alot of girls would spend every weekend or other weekend wit their bf or vice versaLong distance relationship advice?
I woulkd say an hour is doable, especially if you've done the 6 hour thing.
Plus you're a nurse, that's alaways hot for a guy, so he'll try harder :)
Long distance relationship advice ?
well the thing is me and my bf have been togather about 8 months now
and its a long distance relationship.
we see each other as often as we can and we are always talking on the phone.
i love him soo much i cant describe how much he means to me when im with him he just makes me feel amazing and no one has ever done that before,but when he is away and i cant be with him it hurts soo much
do you think it is worth it?Long distance relationship advice ?
From personal experience:
I used to have a long-distance boyfriend (he used to go to school with me, then he moved)
but it was hard because I didn't get to see him often and I later realized that I was missing out on some great guys that I see everyday, because I was with him!
Hope that helped!Long distance relationship advice ?
stay with him. if you've been able to see each other despite the long distance then stay together. look at the pro's, you guys won't get sick of each other easily because your not with each other every second of the day. if you love him alot and he makes you feel like a princess then stay with him! you've got yourself a good catch.
if you think it's going somewhere.
then yes.
and its a long distance relationship.
we see each other as often as we can and we are always talking on the phone.
i love him soo much i cant describe how much he means to me when im with him he just makes me feel amazing and no one has ever done that before,but when he is away and i cant be with him it hurts soo much
do you think it is worth it?Long distance relationship advice ?
From personal experience:
I used to have a long-distance boyfriend (he used to go to school with me, then he moved)
but it was hard because I didn't get to see him often and I later realized that I was missing out on some great guys that I see everyday, because I was with him!
Hope that helped!Long distance relationship advice ?
stay with him. if you've been able to see each other despite the long distance then stay together. look at the pro's, you guys won't get sick of each other easily because your not with each other every second of the day. if you love him alot and he makes you feel like a princess then stay with him! you've got yourself a good catch.
if you think it's going somewhere.
then yes.
Long distance relationship advice?
Recently this girl I am talking to are considering a relationship. She lives like across the country, but she's scared of long distance relationships. She said she needs to sort things out and everything, and what I want to know is that if things ever work out, is it possible that we can work on the relationship without seeing each other in person? My parents are extremely over protective and would be tripping balls if they knew I was going for a girl this far. Thats why I plan on college in Miami or Rhode Island, she lives in Jersey. I just want to know what you thinkLong distance relationship advice?
hmm well im in a long distance realtionship,hes across the world .. and let me tell you i miss him alot, its sometimes hard you might feel alone but the thing is if you really like her you will stay with her you know, i mean it can work out if you guys plan everything and when you guys actually see each other it will be more special, itll be cute!! i mean you can give it a try, goodluck!! i wish yu the best =)Long distance relationship advice?
I've been in one. It was only two hours but it worked. lasted a year
just use skype a lot, have phone dates.
my friend lives like, four states away and they'd watch the same movie (they'd rent it) and watch it together over the phone etc
just be creative and make sure you both care about each other. %26lt;3
long distance can work out very nicely. it gives you two space and makes your trust strong. but, a long distance relationship where you don't ever see eachother is a little sketchy. maybe you could consider dating once you get into a college closer. but until then just wait it out. maybe something better will come along.
when you say recently i am assuming that this has been less than six months, get to know her more first because right now she is scared and even though you would be moving closer there is your parents and would you want to make a big move for a girl you just recently met.
long distance relationships are kinda hard. you think now that it'll work out but eventually you'll get sick of being with someone you never see and will want a gf you can do stuff with. i say you try to move on. thats what i did.
Long distance relationships only work if you see one another all the time. It's not going to work if you dont see one another or she has over protective parents.
eventually one of u will have to move closer to each other because long distance relationships only work for so long
long distance relationships never workk outt
bow and say goodbye
hmm well im in a long distance realtionship,hes across the world .. and let me tell you i miss him alot, its sometimes hard you might feel alone but the thing is if you really like her you will stay with her you know, i mean it can work out if you guys plan everything and when you guys actually see each other it will be more special, itll be cute!! i mean you can give it a try, goodluck!! i wish yu the best =)Long distance relationship advice?
I've been in one. It was only two hours but it worked. lasted a year
just use skype a lot, have phone dates.
my friend lives like, four states away and they'd watch the same movie (they'd rent it) and watch it together over the phone etc
just be creative and make sure you both care about each other. %26lt;3
long distance can work out very nicely. it gives you two space and makes your trust strong. but, a long distance relationship where you don't ever see eachother is a little sketchy. maybe you could consider dating once you get into a college closer. but until then just wait it out. maybe something better will come along.
when you say recently i am assuming that this has been less than six months, get to know her more first because right now she is scared and even though you would be moving closer there is your parents and would you want to make a big move for a girl you just recently met.
long distance relationships are kinda hard. you think now that it'll work out but eventually you'll get sick of being with someone you never see and will want a gf you can do stuff with. i say you try to move on. thats what i did.
Long distance relationships only work if you see one another all the time. It's not going to work if you dont see one another or she has over protective parents.
eventually one of u will have to move closer to each other because long distance relationships only work for so long
long distance relationships never workk outt
bow and say goodbye
Advice for Long Distance Relationships...?
I have been in an 8-month relationship with my boyfriend and we are quite serious. We've known each other since middle school and are now both 23. We were out of touch for about 10 years and reconnected this year. Since we've reunited we've had our amazing times and we've had our rough patches...but through it all fell in love and have even been talking seriously about marriage. We have met each other's families and are in this for the long term. He recently moved South to pursue his career and it was really tough for both of us. Now I am wondering if there is anyone who has experienced something similar and if there is any advice you would like to share about being in a serious long distance relationship?Advice for Long Distance Relationships...?
I know it's tough but you have to hang in there! My bf lives in the UK %26amp; we get to see each other 3-4 times a year if we're lucky! It's very expensive for international flights so you're lucky you guys are in the same country at least lol. Have you considered moving closer to him? It can be done, good luck! :)Advice for Long Distance Relationships...?
This can only work if you move to the area where he had to locate for his profession. If that is impossible, there seem to be no hope for getting to know each other well enough to get into the marriage plans.
I hate to tell you this but long distance relationships don't work. There has to be A LOT of trust, respect and the idea that one will move to be closer to the other one. I was in one and it didn't work. Best of luck.
I hate to break it to you....but they don't work. It's very much emotional distress. Best thing to do is be friends.
I know it's tough but you have to hang in there! My bf lives in the UK %26amp; we get to see each other 3-4 times a year if we're lucky! It's very expensive for international flights so you're lucky you guys are in the same country at least lol. Have you considered moving closer to him? It can be done, good luck! :)Advice for Long Distance Relationships...?
This can only work if you move to the area where he had to locate for his profession. If that is impossible, there seem to be no hope for getting to know each other well enough to get into the marriage plans.
I hate to tell you this but long distance relationships don't work. There has to be A LOT of trust, respect and the idea that one will move to be closer to the other one. I was in one and it didn't work. Best of luck.
I hate to break it to you....but they don't work. It's very much emotional distress. Best thing to do is be friends.
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