Long distance relationship advice?

how does everyone make it work?


im 3 hours from my bf, and we are doing horriable.


we know we love eachother and wanna be together but its super hard.


and we dont know how to like still get that feeling.


please help.








btw, we both text, and call. i cant drive, and he comes home everyother weekend.Long distance relationship advice?
It takes a lot of time and efort to make an LDR work. The first thing you need to do is realize how LUCKY you are that you live only three hours from your bf (my guy lives on the east coast, I'm on the west). You should also realize how amazing it is that you get to see each other so much (every other weekend vs every 3-5 months).





Texting and calling each other frequently isn't always a good thing though. For one thing, you may start to run out of things to say and get on each others' nerves. For another thing, it emphasizes the fact that you are away from each other. Texting leads to misunderstandings and arguments, so you should definitely keep that to a minimum. Set up a chat schedule where you talk on the phone 1-2 times a week. These should take place when you are both free for a few hours.





You should also think about reading a book at a the same time, and you can talk about what you do or don't like. Plan on going to see the same movie on a particular day, and then talk about what you did or didn't like.





Relationships are about responsibility and fairness. It's not fair to your guy that HE always has to come to YOU. It's not your fault that you can't drive, but it IS your fault if you don't figure out a way to go to see him. I'm sure he's fine with coming to visit you, but three hours every other week takes a toll on his energy, time, and wallet. You need to step up to the plate and shoulder some more responsibility. Look up bus routes, and utilize public transportation. You should also offer to pay for the gas that he uses as much as you can. You can do this by either giving him gas money, or by buying him dinner or taking him to a movie.





Honesty is key, so you both have to be open with each other. If your needs aren't being met, tell him... but you should also provide some possible solutions. He should do the same. You both need to be confident, independent, and active. You can't focus on how much you miss each other all the time, or you're just going to drive yourselves nuts. There's also no room for jealousy, or trust issues.





LDR's are difficult but they CAN work if you're willing to put forth the effort.