so I just met this amazing guy and we have really great chemistry together, but I just found out by one of his friend's that he's in a long distance relationship. So I have kinda been avoiding him so that I don't flirt and what not. I don't want to ruin his relationship that he's had for a year, but I really like him. Any advice? Oh and is it true that long distance relationships don't work out? thanx again.I really like this guy, but he's in a long distance relationship. I need some advice! help!?
I think it's very mature and respectful of you to back off knowing that he's in a relationship. :) With that said, I wouldn't try anything because he's still with his girlfriend. Be respectful of their relationship. You can still be friends, but you'd have to keep your distance and know your limits.
And no, long distance relationships definitely do work. They are just different and require an extra degree of trust, communication, and work, among other things.
Wednesday, April 28, 2010
Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I have known this man for 7 yrs now he lives in another country.
he claimed to love me and wanted to marry me%26gt; but like two weeks ago he just quit writing me after we had a chat session%26gt; after i told him i would not help him with geting a visa to the usa and i would not ask my family to help with this.
then he wrote to me again and somehow he had found a post where i had asked a question on yahoo. if anyone knew him%26gt; and he seen it and sent it to me.he then told me that was not his real name%26gt; he said think god you didnt know my real name.
i have tryed contacting him to just see if he would answer back
and he hasnt so for%26gt; i feel he has made a fool out of me after seven yrs%26gt; he has done this before and showed back up. and dum me let him by with it.i feel angery and hurt but%26gt; i feel like geting even with him%26gt; any advice would do on this please help?Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
Many men from poor developing countries are anxious to get away from the poverty back home.
Consequently, they get online and find a girl that's anxious to find a man. They pretend to fall in love and say sweet stuff to her.
She grins from ear to ear. Never has anyone treated her with such amazing kindness!
Then they promise to marry her. And treat her like a woman deserves to be treated . . . like a queen.
She's ecstatic!
Once they have won her confidence, they begin to make demands.
One of the demands they will make is that she should get them a visa to the U.S. or the country of her residence so they can get married.
Once she does that and they get to the U.S., they disappear.
You're lucky to have decided not participate in the marriage fraud attempt by this guy.
Should you hurt him?
Sounds like a good idea on the outside. But in the long run, you will be hurting yourself because you will end up spending valuable time on scheming his demise.
That won't make you eternally happy.
Read more about marriage fraud at . . .Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I am sorry to say it but long distance relationship usually dont work i know 1st hand. its tough but you have to let go.
Long distant relationships never work out. You never know what or who they are doing. Find someone local.
After seven years, you don't know his real name? x_X
I've heard of another incident where a woman left a man simply 'cause he wouldn't help her get a visa into the USA. =/
Getting even at him, won't do anything helpful. You might as well ask him if there's anything you can do to help him besides getting the visa. You must have a good reason to not help this man, right? Even if he said he wanted to marry you.
I'd leave it alone, and find someone new. LDR's are hard enough without there being ill-will on either side, especially if they have continued for 7 years.
Sounds like he was using you for a visa.
Find someone who wants you for you.coupons moon drops
he claimed to love me and wanted to marry me%26gt; but like two weeks ago he just quit writing me after we had a chat session%26gt; after i told him i would not help him with geting a visa to the usa and i would not ask my family to help with this.
then he wrote to me again and somehow he had found a post where i had asked a question on yahoo. if anyone knew him%26gt; and he seen it and sent it to me.he then told me that was not his real name%26gt; he said think god you didnt know my real name.
i have tryed contacting him to just see if he would answer back
and he hasnt so for%26gt; i feel he has made a fool out of me after seven yrs%26gt; he has done this before and showed back up. and dum me let him by with it.i feel angery and hurt but%26gt; i feel like geting even with him%26gt; any advice would do on this please help?Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
Many men from poor developing countries are anxious to get away from the poverty back home.
Consequently, they get online and find a girl that's anxious to find a man. They pretend to fall in love and say sweet stuff to her.
She grins from ear to ear. Never has anyone treated her with such amazing kindness!
Then they promise to marry her. And treat her like a woman deserves to be treated . . . like a queen.
She's ecstatic!
Once they have won her confidence, they begin to make demands.
One of the demands they will make is that she should get them a visa to the U.S. or the country of her residence so they can get married.
Once she does that and they get to the U.S., they disappear.
You're lucky to have decided not participate in the marriage fraud attempt by this guy.
Should you hurt him?
Sounds like a good idea on the outside. But in the long run, you will be hurting yourself because you will end up spending valuable time on scheming his demise.
That won't make you eternally happy.
Read more about marriage fraud at . . .Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I am sorry to say it but long distance relationship usually dont work i know 1st hand. its tough but you have to let go.
Long distant relationships never work out. You never know what or who they are doing. Find someone local.
After seven years, you don't know his real name? x_X
I've heard of another incident where a woman left a man simply 'cause he wouldn't help her get a visa into the USA. =/
Getting even at him, won't do anything helpful. You might as well ask him if there's anything you can do to help him besides getting the visa. You must have a good reason to not help this man, right? Even if he said he wanted to marry you.
I'd leave it alone, and find someone new. LDR's are hard enough without there being ill-will on either side, especially if they have continued for 7 years.
Sounds like he was using you for a visa.
Find someone who wants you for you.
Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
i did it with a girl in china, but i can afford it. if you can trust each other and be faithfull and make arrangments to meet on occasion then of course it can work. both should get skype cams. phone calls would not cost you at all as well as emailing each other often. i married my china doll and is the best thing i ever did.Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
Distance really shouldn't be used as a measure of the likelihood of a relationship working or failing, because it isn't.
I suggest you talk as often as possible, try for at least every second day, and have good topics to discuss. You should discuss what happened in your days, etc. but you should also discuss other issues. Get a topic to discuss, e.g. a tv program you both enjoy, or a book you've both read. You should also aim to discuss more important issues, like your fears, desires and future plans. If you're in a normal relationship, this kind of discussion will come normal. If you're long distance, you have to focus to make it work.
The better your communication, the more you will trust each other, and the easier it will be for you to commit to each other. Communication, commitment and trust are the three pillars of a long distance relationship. Work on those 3 and you'll be fine.
You should still try and see each other as often as possible. I'm not going to give you a time limit like ';every four weeks';, etc. Figure out what you can afford to do and plan your life around it. Friends of mine only managed to see each other every 3 months for over a year, and it worked out fine for them. We personally tried for every 4-6 weeks (usually only for a weekend).Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
its nothing harm in long distance relationship, as long as you both are having good and proper understanding for eachother. Trust, love %26amp; carings are the main key features for this type of relations....
Its nothing harm at all........ You should carry on with this if u are involve with someone. Good luck %26amp; God bless you.
It's not impossible, but not advisable.
Long distant relations do not have physical contact and that is the downfall for most who try to challenge it.
its so boring am tellin you..no kisses,no hugs just empty memories of how happy you used to be.........
Distance really shouldn't be used as a measure of the likelihood of a relationship working or failing, because it isn't.
I suggest you talk as often as possible, try for at least every second day, and have good topics to discuss. You should discuss what happened in your days, etc. but you should also discuss other issues. Get a topic to discuss, e.g. a tv program you both enjoy, or a book you've both read. You should also aim to discuss more important issues, like your fears, desires and future plans. If you're in a normal relationship, this kind of discussion will come normal. If you're long distance, you have to focus to make it work.
The better your communication, the more you will trust each other, and the easier it will be for you to commit to each other. Communication, commitment and trust are the three pillars of a long distance relationship. Work on those 3 and you'll be fine.
You should still try and see each other as often as possible. I'm not going to give you a time limit like ';every four weeks';, etc. Figure out what you can afford to do and plan your life around it. Friends of mine only managed to see each other every 3 months for over a year, and it worked out fine for them. We personally tried for every 4-6 weeks (usually only for a weekend).Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
its nothing harm in long distance relationship, as long as you both are having good and proper understanding for eachother. Trust, love %26amp; carings are the main key features for this type of relations....
Its nothing harm at all........ You should carry on with this if u are involve with someone. Good luck %26amp; God bless you.
It's not impossible, but not advisable.
Long distant relations do not have physical contact and that is the downfall for most who try to challenge it.
its so boring am tellin you..no kisses,no hugs just empty memories of how happy you used to be.........
Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
my best friend introduced me to one of her closest cousins a few months ago. since then, he and i have clicked. we talk about life, love, relationships, anything to make the conversation going. he even wrote a love song for me, which is a first timer for him because he has never wrote a love song for anyone, even his exes. it was mostly based on breakups. even my best friend told me he's telling the truth because they talked about it a few times. i received a msg from him, asying that he wants to ask me an important question that he hopes would make both of us happy. some i asked have said he may ask me out, but the thing is, he lives about 300 miles from me, though we live in the same state. i want to go for it, but i'm scared of the outcome, knowing that i have fallen for him already. any advice? i can surely need it at this point.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
They can work, but they are really really hard. You both need to put 100% in it and fully realize that you need to trust each other. It is easy the first few months, but you wil lsee everyone around you with there partners and everything will remind you of him. It is going to make you bitter, mad, and jealous. The times you have together will be sweet, but going your seperate ways will be twice as hard.
If you love him and he loves you, then go for it. make it work for you.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
on;y way it can work is if you both have the resources to travel back and forth to see each other. without the ability to do that,your visits tend to be rare and that does not make for a good relationship. in order to have a healthy relationship you need to know each other in person
If you are younger than 16 I would just keep this guy as a conversational friend and not try to persue any other kind of relationship. Long distance is hard enough on people with jobs and driver's licenses - and even then they usually don't work out. If you and this guy really have a connection, just stay in touch and wait - you never know what conditions may change. Tying yourself down to someone who is far away can severely mess up your social life, and may cause you to miss out on things you will regret missing later on.
鈾?I think that if you both want it to work then it can. I was in a long distance relationship with my fiace before I moved a state away to be with her. It was hard, especially when I was upset or something happened in my family... but we got through it. She visited me as often as she possibly could and we burned up our cell phone %26amp; txt messaging bills, etc. You both have to sit down %26amp; decide which risks you are both willing to take... it can work but only if ya'll want it to. Good Luck!
honestly hun, follow your heart,
it does not matter what is right or what is wrong ok all you remember is
what would happen if you never followed your heart would you regret it!!!! i think you would
well i think it depends on how many times you see or talk to each other. well in my opinion don't do it.
Ok -- I'll be honest, my boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for 5 monthes now, and we live 35minutes away from one another - even then it's hard to see each other w| school, and work.. We've managed right now, but sometimes we go all wk without seeing one another. Sooo....going 300 miles would be a lot!
GOOD LUCK!~
yea
give it a shot and if it doesnt work ........
well at least you'll know.
It only works if the time apart is for a short while. If there is not a serious discussion relatively soon as to who will move (either you to him, or him to you), then let it go. Others will tell you different, and I am sure there are some rare stories of prolonged seperations where everything ends up ';magical'; in the end - But that is very rare.
Also, it depends on your age, both chronologically and your true mental age. If you are real young -let it go. Either way, it will all work out in the end -one way or another. Good luck.
They can definately work out as long as both of you put everything into it. I was in a long distance relationship for a long time and she ended up moving in with me and now we are engaged set to be married next year. There just needs to be 100% from both of you and everything will work out fine. And, move closer to each other soon, Don't make it long distance forever.
first know if both of you are in the right age and fully understand what love is, for the outcome still rely on both of your understanding's, neither do i'am in your kind a situation, what we do is we always keep in touch through what ever gadgets we have and trust... though its hard, we always come up to a way where we can set a schedule for us to meet in a place, doesn't matter weather i go to a country where she was or the place where i am...
honestly NO i dont think so because you neva know what that person is doing and being honest with u
my cousin has been dating a guy 2yrs long distance. She is in new york and he is in maryland. Things are great she says u get 2 know each other on a different level, and u get more creative. U never knoww till u try.
yes they can work. My sister has been in college in Kentucky for 4 years, while her fiance has been here in missouri. And they are going to get married when she graduates this summer. Its stressful, but you can do it. It takes ALOT of hard work, trust, commitment, patience, and a million other things. It wont be easy, but if you love this guy, and think your meant for eachother, then go for it! Everything happens for a reason, and whether positive or negative things have a way of working themselves out for the better in the long run. Good luck!
They can work, but they are really really hard. You both need to put 100% in it and fully realize that you need to trust each other. It is easy the first few months, but you wil lsee everyone around you with there partners and everything will remind you of him. It is going to make you bitter, mad, and jealous. The times you have together will be sweet, but going your seperate ways will be twice as hard.
If you love him and he loves you, then go for it. make it work for you.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
on;y way it can work is if you both have the resources to travel back and forth to see each other. without the ability to do that,your visits tend to be rare and that does not make for a good relationship. in order to have a healthy relationship you need to know each other in person
If you are younger than 16 I would just keep this guy as a conversational friend and not try to persue any other kind of relationship. Long distance is hard enough on people with jobs and driver's licenses - and even then they usually don't work out. If you and this guy really have a connection, just stay in touch and wait - you never know what conditions may change. Tying yourself down to someone who is far away can severely mess up your social life, and may cause you to miss out on things you will regret missing later on.
鈾?I think that if you both want it to work then it can. I was in a long distance relationship with my fiace before I moved a state away to be with her. It was hard, especially when I was upset or something happened in my family... but we got through it. She visited me as often as she possibly could and we burned up our cell phone %26amp; txt messaging bills, etc. You both have to sit down %26amp; decide which risks you are both willing to take... it can work but only if ya'll want it to. Good Luck!
honestly hun, follow your heart,
it does not matter what is right or what is wrong ok all you remember is
what would happen if you never followed your heart would you regret it!!!! i think you would
well i think it depends on how many times you see or talk to each other. well in my opinion don't do it.
Ok -- I'll be honest, my boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for 5 monthes now, and we live 35minutes away from one another - even then it's hard to see each other w| school, and work.. We've managed right now, but sometimes we go all wk without seeing one another. Sooo....going 300 miles would be a lot!
GOOD LUCK!~
yea
give it a shot and if it doesnt work ........
well at least you'll know.
It only works if the time apart is for a short while. If there is not a serious discussion relatively soon as to who will move (either you to him, or him to you), then let it go. Others will tell you different, and I am sure there are some rare stories of prolonged seperations where everything ends up ';magical'; in the end - But that is very rare.
Also, it depends on your age, both chronologically and your true mental age. If you are real young -let it go. Either way, it will all work out in the end -one way or another. Good luck.
They can definately work out as long as both of you put everything into it. I was in a long distance relationship for a long time and she ended up moving in with me and now we are engaged set to be married next year. There just needs to be 100% from both of you and everything will work out fine. And, move closer to each other soon, Don't make it long distance forever.
first know if both of you are in the right age and fully understand what love is, for the outcome still rely on both of your understanding's, neither do i'am in your kind a situation, what we do is we always keep in touch through what ever gadgets we have and trust... though its hard, we always come up to a way where we can set a schedule for us to meet in a place, doesn't matter weather i go to a country where she was or the place where i am...
honestly NO i dont think so because you neva know what that person is doing and being honest with u
my cousin has been dating a guy 2yrs long distance. She is in new york and he is in maryland. Things are great she says u get 2 know each other on a different level, and u get more creative. U never knoww till u try.
yes they can work. My sister has been in college in Kentucky for 4 years, while her fiance has been here in missouri. And they are going to get married when she graduates this summer. Its stressful, but you can do it. It takes ALOT of hard work, trust, commitment, patience, and a million other things. It wont be easy, but if you love this guy, and think your meant for eachother, then go for it! Everything happens for a reason, and whether positive or negative things have a way of working themselves out for the better in the long run. Good luck!
What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
He said he'll write later , should I wait or send him an email if he hasn't write?
He's pretty busy, just came back from a business trip and he send me an email asking how I was, so I shortly replied and then he commented but said he was sorry for writing that short email but he was very busy and that'll write later.
well that was almost a week ago. Should I wait or write to him in a couple of days more?What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
ggive him a couple of days to write back
i know it kills me too to know about my love but i wait for him to write me.
that way he knows that he has his space.you don't wanna be too clingy and (no offense) writing him too much seems clingy.
if he doesnt write back in like 4 days then write him just casually don't bring up the old email or demand to know why he didn't write you.
just write something like
hey baby.what's up
something casual
hope i helped
%26lt;3Cesar's baby%26lt;3What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
Best of luck with your relationship! I hope it all goes really well for you! Iwould wait for him to mail. I agree with the person above, you don't want to sound too clingy, maybe you should give it a couple more days. But, he shouldn't really make excuses about being too busy because he should always find time for loved ones, even if it is at 4am...
Wait a while and in the mean time make yourself busy so that time goes quicker.. Patience is very hard, but I think that you should think it through why he's making you wait.. What kind of person he is finding excuses.. All the best! x
almost a week ago??girl, i am sure he has a couple minutes to check his e-mail and write you back no matter how busy he is..you should write him today not a couple of days its been almost a week there is nothing wrong with writing him now.
Long distance relationships never work. Besides its something more going on if he loved and cared about you he would call you before he goes to sleep. You're the last thing on his mind. Sorry but its true. You should end it now it will save you the heart break.
If he's really busy, give it another week. I agree though; long-distance relationships won't work, unless you're older and mature enough to wait. Go on with your life until you hear back from him.
Sump'm fishy goin' on, girl... I think he's found other ';pursuits.'; I'd say goodbye and find someone closer...
He's pretty busy, just came back from a business trip and he send me an email asking how I was, so I shortly replied and then he commented but said he was sorry for writing that short email but he was very busy and that'll write later.
well that was almost a week ago. Should I wait or write to him in a couple of days more?What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
ggive him a couple of days to write back
i know it kills me too to know about my love but i wait for him to write me.
that way he knows that he has his space.you don't wanna be too clingy and (no offense) writing him too much seems clingy.
if he doesnt write back in like 4 days then write him just casually don't bring up the old email or demand to know why he didn't write you.
just write something like
hey baby.what's up
something casual
hope i helped
%26lt;3Cesar's baby%26lt;3What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
Best of luck with your relationship! I hope it all goes really well for you! Iwould wait for him to mail. I agree with the person above, you don't want to sound too clingy, maybe you should give it a couple more days. But, he shouldn't really make excuses about being too busy because he should always find time for loved ones, even if it is at 4am...
Wait a while and in the mean time make yourself busy so that time goes quicker.. Patience is very hard, but I think that you should think it through why he's making you wait.. What kind of person he is finding excuses.. All the best! x
almost a week ago??girl, i am sure he has a couple minutes to check his e-mail and write you back no matter how busy he is..you should write him today not a couple of days its been almost a week there is nothing wrong with writing him now.
Long distance relationships never work. Besides its something more going on if he loved and cared about you he would call you before he goes to sleep. You're the last thing on his mind. Sorry but its true. You should end it now it will save you the heart break.
If he's really busy, give it another week. I agree though; long-distance relationships won't work, unless you're older and mature enough to wait. Go on with your life until you hear back from him.
Sump'm fishy goin' on, girl... I think he's found other ';pursuits.'; I'd say goodbye and find someone closer...
Thank you for your advice about my long distance relationship.?
I would like to thank people who supported me on my long distance relationship. I have become more confident and trusting. I no longer want to become insecure or overprotective. I no longer want to say things I don't mean, when I can't control my emotions. I no longer want to be needy. I am confident, secure, supportive, controlled emotionally, and understanding. I will not assume things and accuse the people I love for random negativity that don't exist. Thank you all I have been finally cure from myself.Thank you for your advice about my long distance relationship.?
You are so welcome. Thats what we are here for!!!
You are so welcome. Thats what we are here for!!!
I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship...preferable guy advice but girls are welcome too?
Me and my boyfriend are both 18. He moved far away at the end of my senior yr but we decided to stay together. He's my first boyfriend, he's all I know. When he's here everything is fine..as long as we don't talk about our problems I can see it all over his face that he does not EVER wanna talk about our problems. But when he leaves, and we argue and brings them up just to hurt my feelings. (I'm not assuming he actually told me he was trying to hurt my feelings) He has now resorted to almost never calling me, he never tells me anything, and we barely text. I told him I think about him all the time and he said he doesn't think about me at all b/c it hurts too much. When it all comes down to it, he tells me he loves me and doesn't want to break up. Our problems bother him (the other night he said he doesn't know me anymore and I don't know him) but he won't talk about them. Sometimes I think it's me. I even feel stupid right now for asking advice on the internet, but sometimes an outside opinion can help right? Can someone help me understand what I'm supposed to do?I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship...preferable guy advice but girls are welcome too?
A lot of men use avoidance, it is a natural defense mechanism. But by not talking about your problems, it seems like you two are only putting a band aide on the problem, which easily comes off when he goes away. He probably doesn't want to spend the little bit of time he has with you in person fighting... after all, I am sure you both anticipate seeing one another after being apart so why ruin the moment? however... even though you are happy, the problems are going to keep coming back up if you don't find a way to resolve them. I can't tell you how to resolve your relationship problems, nor do I know what they are.
Another issue it sounds like you are having is that you are over-analyzing the relationship and it's feelings so much that you are clouding who you are and the person your boyfriend came to love. I know that it's tough when you love someone.... you are paranoid that anything you do or say could ruin it... you love someone so much you are terrified to lose them. It sounds like you could use a break from carrying all of the weight of the relationship's problems. Talk about this with him... let him know that you feel like you worry about the relationship too much and apologize for creating a lot of drama. I realize that it's a two way street and he probably has made mistakes as well... but it takes a strong person to stand up and admit their own faults and it usually results in opening a door for the other person to confess their own doings.... I am not guaranteeing that you will get an apology in return, but at least he would see that you are making efforts to get back to being more relaxed and carefree about the relationship. Men love consistency and calmness in a relationship just as much as women do. If a relationship is going to work out long term, it is going to take a lot of love, forgiveness and an open heart and mind. When he talks, try not to cloud your ears with emotions and really listen and take in the information THEN process it. It's so hard to do but practicing being a good listener and patient communicator will make you a better partner and you will find it easier to get to the root of your problems together.
Next time the old problems come up, try and approach it in a new way instead of the usual arguing or hurting one each others feelings. Tell him that you would like to understand where he is coming from and help to sooth the pains that he has with the problems rather than pointing fingers at one another anymore. Be super calm and loving when you approach him and try not to re-hash things too much. Show him a positive attitude towards things getting better because a relationship that lacks optimism is often times going to get stuck in ruts... Take a step back from this and take some time for yourself. Take up some new hobbies, yoga, sports, swimming, anything relaxing you can share with some friends. Taking time for yourself will help your stress levels and assist in your calmness about the relationship as well as give you new stuff to talk about with him. Men are attracted to women that are outgoing, social and have stuff going on in their lives.... get a new makeover to help boost your self confidence and shoot him some pretty pics of yourself. You could hold up a sign in the pic that says ';can't wait until you come home!!!'; on top of having a new sexy look.... that will really get his attention back on you rather than stuck in ';I don't know you anymore'; land.....
When you try to control your relationship too much, it can get out of control and you can lose your sense of self. Try to relax and collect some new, positive thoughts about recovering with your beau and getting back to the love you two have shared all along. :) good luck sweety...... things should start to look up when he gets home... long distance relationships are straining!!!I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship...preferable guy advice but girls are welcome too?
Well your boyfriend is moody.
I reckon your better off without him.. you need someone that will treat you much better than that.
It seems like your a pile of shite to him.
Hi. My first long term relationship was similar, except we were a bit older and he had to move away for 2 years. And I think I reacted much as your bf, because we only got to see each other one weekend every month or two, and I felt this big pressure for it to be perfect. If had cramps, tough - I had to be on my A Game! If I was bothered by work crap, tough...why waste our together time whining? So I couldn't be natural.
And I think what's happening is natural. You guys never broke up and neither of you wants to....but you're in a Catch 22 because you're still teenagers and can't take the relationship to the next level. And that runs a big risk because you're not learning about adult relationships and the 24/7 grind they can cause - in fact, you're not learning at all about them.
I know how hard this is, but I honestly think the two of you need to risk your feelings and explore other relationships. In some cases, one of the people moves to where the other is, but sadly you're both way too young to take a step of that magnitude, even if it was possible.
A lot of men use avoidance, it is a natural defense mechanism. But by not talking about your problems, it seems like you two are only putting a band aide on the problem, which easily comes off when he goes away. He probably doesn't want to spend the little bit of time he has with you in person fighting... after all, I am sure you both anticipate seeing one another after being apart so why ruin the moment? however... even though you are happy, the problems are going to keep coming back up if you don't find a way to resolve them. I can't tell you how to resolve your relationship problems, nor do I know what they are.
Another issue it sounds like you are having is that you are over-analyzing the relationship and it's feelings so much that you are clouding who you are and the person your boyfriend came to love. I know that it's tough when you love someone.... you are paranoid that anything you do or say could ruin it... you love someone so much you are terrified to lose them. It sounds like you could use a break from carrying all of the weight of the relationship's problems. Talk about this with him... let him know that you feel like you worry about the relationship too much and apologize for creating a lot of drama. I realize that it's a two way street and he probably has made mistakes as well... but it takes a strong person to stand up and admit their own faults and it usually results in opening a door for the other person to confess their own doings.... I am not guaranteeing that you will get an apology in return, but at least he would see that you are making efforts to get back to being more relaxed and carefree about the relationship. Men love consistency and calmness in a relationship just as much as women do. If a relationship is going to work out long term, it is going to take a lot of love, forgiveness and an open heart and mind. When he talks, try not to cloud your ears with emotions and really listen and take in the information THEN process it. It's so hard to do but practicing being a good listener and patient communicator will make you a better partner and you will find it easier to get to the root of your problems together.
Next time the old problems come up, try and approach it in a new way instead of the usual arguing or hurting one each others feelings. Tell him that you would like to understand where he is coming from and help to sooth the pains that he has with the problems rather than pointing fingers at one another anymore. Be super calm and loving when you approach him and try not to re-hash things too much. Show him a positive attitude towards things getting better because a relationship that lacks optimism is often times going to get stuck in ruts... Take a step back from this and take some time for yourself. Take up some new hobbies, yoga, sports, swimming, anything relaxing you can share with some friends. Taking time for yourself will help your stress levels and assist in your calmness about the relationship as well as give you new stuff to talk about with him. Men are attracted to women that are outgoing, social and have stuff going on in their lives.... get a new makeover to help boost your self confidence and shoot him some pretty pics of yourself. You could hold up a sign in the pic that says ';can't wait until you come home!!!'; on top of having a new sexy look.... that will really get his attention back on you rather than stuck in ';I don't know you anymore'; land.....
When you try to control your relationship too much, it can get out of control and you can lose your sense of self. Try to relax and collect some new, positive thoughts about recovering with your beau and getting back to the love you two have shared all along. :) good luck sweety...... things should start to look up when he gets home... long distance relationships are straining!!!I'm 18 and in a long distance relationship...preferable guy advice but girls are welcome too?
Well your boyfriend is moody.
I reckon your better off without him.. you need someone that will treat you much better than that.
It seems like your a pile of shite to him.
Hi. My first long term relationship was similar, except we were a bit older and he had to move away for 2 years. And I think I reacted much as your bf, because we only got to see each other one weekend every month or two, and I felt this big pressure for it to be perfect. If had cramps, tough - I had to be on my A Game! If I was bothered by work crap, tough...why waste our together time whining? So I couldn't be natural.
And I think what's happening is natural. You guys never broke up and neither of you wants to....but you're in a Catch 22 because you're still teenagers and can't take the relationship to the next level. And that runs a big risk because you're not learning about adult relationships and the 24/7 grind they can cause - in fact, you're not learning at all about them.
I know how hard this is, but I honestly think the two of you need to risk your feelings and explore other relationships. In some cases, one of the people moves to where the other is, but sadly you're both way too young to take a step of that magnitude, even if it was possible.
I'm in a long distance relationship. I need advice whether this is going steady or downhill?
I met an amazing guy. He has all the qualities I like in a man and then some. He's independant, funny, caring, and patient. We live in different states and intend to meet up in August, but I'm afraid. I trust him., but for the past two months, I feel like he hasn't been making the efforts to find time to talk with me. Is it nomral that i feel I need to to talk with him at least a minute every other day? Or am i demanding too much? We exchange texts every once in a while, and I know he's busy as am I... but it's like the last time we talked was two days ago for a minute. Just exchanging I love you to each other, and good night. That's been the same conversation for the past two months. Am I being needy for wanting a little more every once in a while??I haven't said anything about it yet, but on his myspace, I see him telling a girl that he was going to be out of town for a couple days and not too miss him too much. I have fears that I'm just being led on.I'm in a long distance relationship. I need advice whether this is going steady or downhill?
I am sorry... but if any guy wants to make the effort to get to know you and maintain a relationship he will go the distance. He knows where you are, he has your number he could call you anytime he wants, but it sounds as though he is not. Well, maybe he would say it costs too much on long distance bills, OK, well doesn't everyone in the world have email? He could find other ways to keep getting to know you, and to keep you feeling secure in this relationship.
I am not saying that you cannot make these same efforts, you can. But we do live in a man's world, and most men are aggressive toward going after what they want. And us women, should not have to chase a guy down just to have a conversation on the phone.
I think you need to do some soul searching, and detach yourself from him a little bit. This does not mean walk away, but you are preparing yourself for things not working out. This will help it not hurt as much.
My best advice to you is to keep your eyes OPEN, and listen to that intuition that is on the inside. They say, ';If you have any hesitation about things, this is your answer.'; People hesitate for a reason, which proves that intuition WORKS!
Good Luck! Thanks for reading!I'm in a long distance relationship. I need advice whether this is going steady or downhill?
i would let him now how i feel. it's been two months and all u got was a minute every other day? that's crazy! And as far as the myspace, i would question that b/c there are somethings u dont do when ur in a relationship regardless of the distance..relationships are hard work, being away from each other makes it even harder. we want to trust our men but GOD gave us intuition for a reason.....
You have to be aware that distance do make ppl get paranoid, especially for girls like you and me who tend to be quite needy and overthinking. The first few months of dating wether distance or not are always the best as you're constantly talking to each other, seeing each other, on the phone, saying goodnight/good morning and all that but thing is that we do have things to do in life that we been quite slacking on since the beginning of the relationship. So logically you start to refocus on them and try to get the right balance. I'd say that it isn't very nice to not contact you in 2 days but if he really moved on something else he really didn't even have to text you back and such. About the myspace girl he might be joking like you may be talking to a guy mate and said yeah don't miss me too much when am gone etc.
I'll say to give him some more time as he sort things out, men aren't like us who can totally manage different thiings at the same time lol he might be having some probs with family or work but don't feel like bugging you with it. So for now give it a bit of time and then you can confront him about it, tell him your fears and hopefully he'll be honest. If he skips the convo then maybe when you guys will get confronted to bigger problems in the future, he's just the kind to vanish on bad times...
Sorry to put it right on ur face, but he's playing you. He probably has a bird or two up his sleeve. Two months is a long time to not be able to find time for each other, especially in the long-distance world.
I was in a long-distance relationship, and if the guy wants you, it's very apparent, and the couple does everything in their means to keep in touch.
Please remove the cloud in front of ur eyes, and don't let false emotions rule you.
Good luck!
i had a long distance relationship with my now husband for almost a year and a half. it is difficult to work on a relationship long distance and the only thing you have on a very regular basis is communication. Without that, a relationship can go down the hill pretty quickly. My husband has always told me that if a guy cares, he will find a few minutes to talk every day (or two).
his my space comment seems inappropriate and you might want to ask him what is going on. Generally your gut feeling is right - if he avoids the question or is being vague, he is probably leading you on.coupons moon drops
I am sorry... but if any guy wants to make the effort to get to know you and maintain a relationship he will go the distance. He knows where you are, he has your number he could call you anytime he wants, but it sounds as though he is not. Well, maybe he would say it costs too much on long distance bills, OK, well doesn't everyone in the world have email? He could find other ways to keep getting to know you, and to keep you feeling secure in this relationship.
I am not saying that you cannot make these same efforts, you can. But we do live in a man's world, and most men are aggressive toward going after what they want. And us women, should not have to chase a guy down just to have a conversation on the phone.
I think you need to do some soul searching, and detach yourself from him a little bit. This does not mean walk away, but you are preparing yourself for things not working out. This will help it not hurt as much.
My best advice to you is to keep your eyes OPEN, and listen to that intuition that is on the inside. They say, ';If you have any hesitation about things, this is your answer.'; People hesitate for a reason, which proves that intuition WORKS!
Good Luck! Thanks for reading!I'm in a long distance relationship. I need advice whether this is going steady or downhill?
i would let him now how i feel. it's been two months and all u got was a minute every other day? that's crazy! And as far as the myspace, i would question that b/c there are somethings u dont do when ur in a relationship regardless of the distance..relationships are hard work, being away from each other makes it even harder. we want to trust our men but GOD gave us intuition for a reason.....
You have to be aware that distance do make ppl get paranoid, especially for girls like you and me who tend to be quite needy and overthinking. The first few months of dating wether distance or not are always the best as you're constantly talking to each other, seeing each other, on the phone, saying goodnight/good morning and all that but thing is that we do have things to do in life that we been quite slacking on since the beginning of the relationship. So logically you start to refocus on them and try to get the right balance. I'd say that it isn't very nice to not contact you in 2 days but if he really moved on something else he really didn't even have to text you back and such. About the myspace girl he might be joking like you may be talking to a guy mate and said yeah don't miss me too much when am gone etc.
I'll say to give him some more time as he sort things out, men aren't like us who can totally manage different thiings at the same time lol he might be having some probs with family or work but don't feel like bugging you with it. So for now give it a bit of time and then you can confront him about it, tell him your fears and hopefully he'll be honest. If he skips the convo then maybe when you guys will get confronted to bigger problems in the future, he's just the kind to vanish on bad times...
Sorry to put it right on ur face, but he's playing you. He probably has a bird or two up his sleeve. Two months is a long time to not be able to find time for each other, especially in the long-distance world.
I was in a long-distance relationship, and if the guy wants you, it's very apparent, and the couple does everything in their means to keep in touch.
Please remove the cloud in front of ur eyes, and don't let false emotions rule you.
Good luck!
i had a long distance relationship with my now husband for almost a year and a half. it is difficult to work on a relationship long distance and the only thing you have on a very regular basis is communication. Without that, a relationship can go down the hill pretty quickly. My husband has always told me that if a guy cares, he will find a few minutes to talk every day (or two).
his my space comment seems inappropriate and you might want to ask him what is going on. Generally your gut feeling is right - if he avoids the question or is being vague, he is probably leading you on.
In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
I've been with my boyfriend 9 months and he just left for military school 2000 miles away for 6 months. It's a really laid back school, training for new job, has weekends off and gets to live off the base with the guys from back home. We're both early 30s. So he has probably as much free time now as he did before. We were never really phone people, I'd much rather make plans over the phone, talk in person. But since he left a week ago we talk and text even less than before, and no good morning texts. I know he's got free time and if I call him he's usually just hangin out or running errands, he sounds all happy and content. Is he just focused on his job down there or is it out of sight out of mind? I'm not a phone person either but with the distance I think I need it more and I don't want to be doing all of the texting calling. A few texts a day just isn't enough for me knowing he can do more. Am I being needy? Should I tell him this or will it make me seem clingy and scare him off?In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
Mornings are the worst when it comes to ';free time';. He probably has drills that need to be done before even getting to class. He's also probably very concentrated on schooling. He just wants to get it right and move on. Expecting lots of texts and phone calls from him when you already admitted that neither of you are phone people is a little silly. Why not try other forms of communication, such as letter writing? That being said, men aren't big on letter writing, texting and phone calls in general, so I just wouldn't expect too much. Relationships should be 50/50 though. If he's not willing to put in some effort to keep the relationship going, then perhaps its time to move on. Just remember that this separation is temporary. He'll be home eventually.In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
This is from experience.
He is concentrating on his job. Yes, he misses you. Believe me, he does. But when guys get around guys, you know how it is. They have to feel like they are just as strong as the other men on base. When other guys have no ladies at home waiting on a call and your man is calling you, they find it rude. So no worries hunni! As long as you get SOMETHING your good to go.=]
'; I just need to know the other person is as commited as I am';
You NEED to know?
What happened to trust? If you agreed that you'd stay together for 6 months... then you accept ';whatever'; until he tells you (or you tell him) that you've found some one else.
He doesn't NEED to text you every morning....or do cartwheels everytime you call....
There is no reason to worry about anything. Why worry? It doesn't do anyone any good at all. He probably is just concentrating on his work and such. You need to work on your ';TRUST'; issues.
give it time he just left last week. let him come to you. he may not realize what he is doing being in a new environment and all. but seeing as how you won't get to see each other as much as before you will have to communicate in other ways...letters, phone, IM, webcam, Myspace, any form of communication. just make sure you do your part, and let him know you are there for him. he is prob just adjusting. as you are thinking of him, i'm sure he's thinking of you. give it time, and hope this all helps.
Mornings are the worst when it comes to ';free time';. He probably has drills that need to be done before even getting to class. He's also probably very concentrated on schooling. He just wants to get it right and move on. Expecting lots of texts and phone calls from him when you already admitted that neither of you are phone people is a little silly. Why not try other forms of communication, such as letter writing? That being said, men aren't big on letter writing, texting and phone calls in general, so I just wouldn't expect too much. Relationships should be 50/50 though. If he's not willing to put in some effort to keep the relationship going, then perhaps its time to move on. Just remember that this separation is temporary. He'll be home eventually.In a new long distance relationship and need advice?
This is from experience.
He is concentrating on his job. Yes, he misses you. Believe me, he does. But when guys get around guys, you know how it is. They have to feel like they are just as strong as the other men on base. When other guys have no ladies at home waiting on a call and your man is calling you, they find it rude. So no worries hunni! As long as you get SOMETHING your good to go.=]
'; I just need to know the other person is as commited as I am';
You NEED to know?
What happened to trust? If you agreed that you'd stay together for 6 months... then you accept ';whatever'; until he tells you (or you tell him) that you've found some one else.
He doesn't NEED to text you every morning....or do cartwheels everytime you call....
There is no reason to worry about anything. Why worry? It doesn't do anyone any good at all. He probably is just concentrating on his work and such. You need to work on your ';TRUST'; issues.
give it time he just left last week. let him come to you. he may not realize what he is doing being in a new environment and all. but seeing as how you won't get to see each other as much as before you will have to communicate in other ways...letters, phone, IM, webcam, Myspace, any form of communication. just make sure you do your part, and let him know you are there for him. he is prob just adjusting. as you are thinking of him, i'm sure he's thinking of you. give it time, and hope this all helps.
I live in UK and im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who lives in Australia advice.?
My girlfriend and I love each other so much and we really want to meet each other but we live on other sides of the world ): we send pictures and text each other alot but she doesnt have a webcam and i do, and i always go on it for her, but she cant go on it ): I really want to be with her in real life but i cant, and i really wish i could, how can i feel closer to her/I live in UK and im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who lives in Australia advice.?
Look Alex what if she really isn't the girl in the pics that she sends you the only way to be sure is to meet her either in person or get her a webcam. I mean can't she afford to buy one, they are not that expensive.
Anyway do you really think it will work out? You should get a girl who lives in the same country with you, don't you want to be able to kiss and hug her, go to the movies and have dinner, this situation is hopeless unless your both mega ritch and can fly to see each other when you feel like it I'm sure most people can only probably afford to do so once and if you do visit it will be even harder to leave when you know you have to save up another year or 2 to go visit again. I know I would not carry a relationship with someone so far away.
I don't know. Whatever you decide you have to think about your futire. Good luck.I live in UK and im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who lives in Australia advice.?
The simple answer is, you can't.
Long distance relationships seldom work, but that's no means to say that yours won't, if you want to be together enough then sooner or later you'll make it work.
Yes you have to go ahead and visit after a while
Did u ever meet her in real life before? If not then it could be a 40 year old man your talking to
buy her a webcam and mail it.
go visit
get your *** on a plain in go see her. buy her a webcam
buy her a webcam....save up some money and fly over to her and see her
Look Alex what if she really isn't the girl in the pics that she sends you the only way to be sure is to meet her either in person or get her a webcam. I mean can't she afford to buy one, they are not that expensive.
Anyway do you really think it will work out? You should get a girl who lives in the same country with you, don't you want to be able to kiss and hug her, go to the movies and have dinner, this situation is hopeless unless your both mega ritch and can fly to see each other when you feel like it I'm sure most people can only probably afford to do so once and if you do visit it will be even harder to leave when you know you have to save up another year or 2 to go visit again. I know I would not carry a relationship with someone so far away.
I don't know. Whatever you decide you have to think about your futire. Good luck.I live in UK and im in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend who lives in Australia advice.?
The simple answer is, you can't.
Long distance relationships seldom work, but that's no means to say that yours won't, if you want to be together enough then sooner or later you'll make it work.
Yes you have to go ahead and visit after a while
Did u ever meet her in real life before? If not then it could be a 40 year old man your talking to
buy her a webcam and mail it.
go visit
get your *** on a plain in go see her. buy her a webcam
buy her a webcam....save up some money and fly over to her and see her
What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
Here are 4 articles that address different aspects of a long distance relationship. They offer great ideas :)
Keep Romance Alive in Long Distance Relationship
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Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Make the Most Out of Your Weekend Visits
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End the Fighting in Your Long Distance Relationship!
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Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Know If You're Ready to Move in Together
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Hope They Help!
Best of Luck! :)What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
Complete honesty.... and both of you have to ';phone people'; LOL. Lots of effort needs to be put into staying in touch! There needs to be lots of trust as well!!What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
be in contact as often as you can via im, text, phone or email. they are difficult at best, but can be done if both parties are willing to make the extra effort to keep the relationship going.
get laid. then have a long relationshitp
LDR is hard work. It takes two people to make it work. I鈥檓 not saying its impossible but its pretty rare. I鈥檝e tried LDR in the past 鈥?it just didn鈥檛 worked out too well for me. I just lost interest in the end and the guy ended up meeting some great girl.
keep in touch and dont get over protective unless u have credible evidence
Frequent telephone calls. I've done it. The reunions are great!
Keep in contact with each other!!!!!!!! A lot of long distance relationships don't last because they get bored with just talking on the phone and they move on to better things. If you get bored, keep at it! Talk several times a day and stay faithful and true! Arrange meetings as often as possible!
phone sex, email calls and texts, pictures and just being as close as u can with being far away!!
get laid
Keep Romance Alive in Long Distance Relationship
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Make the Most Out of Your Weekend Visits
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
End the Fighting in Your Long Distance Relationship!
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Long Distance Relationship Advice: How to Know If You're Ready to Move in Together
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article鈥?/a>
Hope They Help!
Best of Luck! :)What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
Complete honesty.... and both of you have to ';phone people'; LOL. Lots of effort needs to be put into staying in touch! There needs to be lots of trust as well!!What's the best advice to maintain a long distance relationship?
be in contact as often as you can via im, text, phone or email. they are difficult at best, but can be done if both parties are willing to make the extra effort to keep the relationship going.
get laid. then have a long relationshitp
LDR is hard work. It takes two people to make it work. I鈥檓 not saying its impossible but its pretty rare. I鈥檝e tried LDR in the past 鈥?it just didn鈥檛 worked out too well for me. I just lost interest in the end and the guy ended up meeting some great girl.
keep in touch and dont get over protective unless u have credible evidence
Frequent telephone calls. I've done it. The reunions are great!
Keep in contact with each other!!!!!!!! A lot of long distance relationships don't last because they get bored with just talking on the phone and they move on to better things. If you get bored, keep at it! Talk several times a day and stay faithful and true! Arrange meetings as often as possible!
phone sex, email calls and texts, pictures and just being as close as u can with being far away!!
get laid
Help! Advice for my long-distance relationship, please...?
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months. We're fairly serious... since we were close for so long before dating, we've said ';I love you'; for the past few months. Anyway, I'm going to college this fall, and he's a sr in high school. We've decided to try long-distance, but we're already having issues. The past three weeks we haven't talked more than 15 minutes a day on the phone. He's either been sick, busy, or falls asleep. I couldn't be mad when he was sick, but I think I'm justified with the others. I feel like we're drifting apart. I've tried being nice and ignoring it, or confronting him about it -specifically telling him that it bothers me how little we talk anymore. I think things are only going to get worse when I go to college this fall, and that maybe he's not as committed to this as I am. What should I do? I truly love this boy and do not want to lose him, but things are not looking good. Should I give him an ulitimatum of some kind, or is that always a bad idea?Help! Advice for my long-distance relationship, please...?
I am a girl from Romania who lives in Italy. I think you should forget him and find someone near you. The boys are all the same. In Romania, Theo say that the eyes you don't see are easy to forget. Maybe he has the same problem.Well. . .I think you need someone who should hold you in his arms when you are sick, not someone who doesn't even answer the phone when he is sick. All the best from ItalyHelp! Advice for my long-distance relationship, please...?
No ultimatum with boys. Bad idea. Communication, straight up is the key. Let him tell you how he feels too. Don't fight or get worked up or upset about it in front of him, but do let him know that you want things to work, even when you go away. Make sure he knows that you're willing to work things out, but a relationship takes two people and if he's not willing to make the last summer you guys have together before school starts great, then tell him you don't see how it can work. Not an ultimatum, but a fair discussion.
I know how you feel my bf lives outside of London and i live in the US. To be honest communicate is key you really just need to talk to him find out what he is thinking and feeling before you leave, and tell him how you are feeling. Don't give him an ultimatum that's just going to make you both upset. It may just be he is just scared about losing you. But really there is no need to worry about it until you talk to him.
ok well i dont want to pretend i am anywhere near your age! but my experience is actions speak louder than words! he mighht be trying to break up with u or he might be trying to give you your freedom while off at college.....but reality is he is being a dork....which is totally age appropriate.....the question you have to ask yourself is: is this ok with you? if not....state it (which i think you basically have) and if his behaviour doesnt change then you get your answer...and its time to move forward and look forward to college and the whole experience of it all! dont overthink it....andd i woudlnt do the ultimatum thing...jsut say these are my expecptions...if its not working for you..then let me go.....
I am a girl from Romania who lives in Italy. I think you should forget him and find someone near you. The boys are all the same. In Romania, Theo say that the eyes you don't see are easy to forget. Maybe he has the same problem.Well. . .I think you need someone who should hold you in his arms when you are sick, not someone who doesn't even answer the phone when he is sick. All the best from ItalyHelp! Advice for my long-distance relationship, please...?
No ultimatum with boys. Bad idea. Communication, straight up is the key. Let him tell you how he feels too. Don't fight or get worked up or upset about it in front of him, but do let him know that you want things to work, even when you go away. Make sure he knows that you're willing to work things out, but a relationship takes two people and if he's not willing to make the last summer you guys have together before school starts great, then tell him you don't see how it can work. Not an ultimatum, but a fair discussion.
I know how you feel my bf lives outside of London and i live in the US. To be honest communicate is key you really just need to talk to him find out what he is thinking and feeling before you leave, and tell him how you are feeling. Don't give him an ultimatum that's just going to make you both upset. It may just be he is just scared about losing you. But really there is no need to worry about it until you talk to him.
ok well i dont want to pretend i am anywhere near your age! but my experience is actions speak louder than words! he mighht be trying to break up with u or he might be trying to give you your freedom while off at college.....but reality is he is being a dork....which is totally age appropriate.....the question you have to ask yourself is: is this ok with you? if not....state it (which i think you basically have) and if his behaviour doesnt change then you get your answer...and its time to move forward and look forward to college and the whole experience of it all! dont overthink it....andd i woudlnt do the ultimatum thing...jsut say these are my expecptions...if its not working for you..then let me go.....
Relationship advice for long distance?
im in a long distance relationship, and i wondering how to make it work. We met on the internet and we live 5 hour apart. We are still in college. I want to see her but time dont allow it sometimes. We talk on the phone alot and seem to like eachother. There are some problems. 1. we live with our parent and we dont know how to tell them about us, you might ask why we bother but we both had relationship problems in the past and we have lots in common and we both want to make this work. 2. I'm not much of a phone conversationist, and i run out of stuff to say when we talk. I guess im asking for advice for my problems i have.Relationship advice for long distance?
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You should post your question here:
http://relationshipadviceandconfessions.鈥?/a>
You can email your questions to a relationship expert and they will reply with an answer. You can also post relationship confessions. It's cool and they really helped me with a problem I had tonight. Long distance relationships CAN and DO work. I survived one! You can too!
Any advice on a long distance relationship..?
well where been together for 4 months already and yet we've meet only 3 times on a month. any advice on what should i go. emotionaly %26amp; physicaly...thanksAny advice on a long distance relationship..?
It really depends on how deeply do you felt and how much confidence you have in this relationship....
I had a long distance relationship less than a yr ago....started out with daily 2 to 5 hrs chat on the phone....and then emails during his work hrs / my work hrs.....flight is 16 hrs apart....time difference is 8hrs.....
We met once in my country (1 week) and once in his country (10days).....we thought it would work out....we had sex too....but in the end, both of us give up 'cos neither of us is able to relocate and leave our famiy and friends behind....Any advice on a long distance relationship..?
if you both are ok with if and are happy then go with the flow but i can tell you from experience that not all long distant relationships last very long. so with that i wish you a lot ok luck
if both of u r really truly in love, distance is not an issue.
i say long distance relationships never work, i'd dump em move on to a more closer one
If you dont plan on ever getting together permanently in the future, I'd keep things platonic and don't get your hopes up.
Long distance relationship is very hard. Physically and emotionally. Real answer is you. Can you handle not being with this person? Are you emotionally on standby when you are not with this person? Answer these two questions honestly and you will have the answer. Good Luck..
how can anyone tell you what you should do emotionally? wow...only you can know that...stupid is as stupid does
Long distance is the hardest! You have to really keep at the relationship, talk a lot (e-mail, texting, phone ext.). Physically its even harder (I'm sure you already know)! Maybe try seeing each other more often (if you can). In the end you have to think is it worth it? If it is, you'll find away to make it work.coupons moon drops
It really depends on how deeply do you felt and how much confidence you have in this relationship....
I had a long distance relationship less than a yr ago....started out with daily 2 to 5 hrs chat on the phone....and then emails during his work hrs / my work hrs.....flight is 16 hrs apart....time difference is 8hrs.....
We met once in my country (1 week) and once in his country (10days).....we thought it would work out....we had sex too....but in the end, both of us give up 'cos neither of us is able to relocate and leave our famiy and friends behind....Any advice on a long distance relationship..?
if you both are ok with if and are happy then go with the flow but i can tell you from experience that not all long distant relationships last very long. so with that i wish you a lot ok luck
if both of u r really truly in love, distance is not an issue.
i say long distance relationships never work, i'd dump em move on to a more closer one
If you dont plan on ever getting together permanently in the future, I'd keep things platonic and don't get your hopes up.
Long distance relationship is very hard. Physically and emotionally. Real answer is you. Can you handle not being with this person? Are you emotionally on standby when you are not with this person? Answer these two questions honestly and you will have the answer. Good Luck..
how can anyone tell you what you should do emotionally? wow...only you can know that...stupid is as stupid does
Long distance is the hardest! You have to really keep at the relationship, talk a lot (e-mail, texting, phone ext.). Physically its even harder (I'm sure you already know)! Maybe try seeing each other more often (if you can). In the end you have to think is it worth it? If it is, you'll find away to make it work.
I really like this guy, but he's in a long distance relationship. I need some advice! help!?
so I just met this amazing guy and we have really great chemistry together, but I just found out by one of his friend's that he's in a long distance relationship. So I have kinda been avoiding him so that I don't flirt and what not. I don't want to ruin his relationship that he's had for a year, but I really like him. Any advice? Oh and is it true that long distance relationships don't work out? thanx again.I really like this guy, but he's in a long distance relationship. I need some advice! help!?
I think it's very mature and respectful of you to back off knowing that he's in a relationship. :) With that said, I wouldn't try anything because he's still with his girlfriend. Be respectful of their relationship. You can still be friends, but you'd have to keep your distance and know your limits.
And no, long distance relationships definitely do work. They are just different and require an extra degree of trust, communication, and work, among other things.
I think it's very mature and respectful of you to back off knowing that he's in a relationship. :) With that said, I wouldn't try anything because he's still with his girlfriend. Be respectful of their relationship. You can still be friends, but you'd have to keep your distance and know your limits.
And no, long distance relationships definitely do work. They are just different and require an extra degree of trust, communication, and work, among other things.
Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I have known this man for 7 yrs now he lives in another country.
he claimed to love me and wanted to marry me%26gt; but like two weeks ago he just quit writing me after we had a chat session%26gt; after i told him i would not help him with geting a visa to the usa and i would not ask my family to help with this.
then he wrote to me again and somehow he had found a post where i had asked a question on yahoo. if anyone knew him%26gt; and he seen it and sent it to me.he then told me that was not his real name%26gt; he said think god you didnt know my real name.
i have tryed contacting him to just see if he would answer back
and he hasnt so for%26gt; i feel he has made a fool out of me after seven yrs%26gt; he has done this before and showed back up. and dum me let him by with it.i feel angery and hurt but%26gt; i feel like geting even with him%26gt; any advice would do on this please help?Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
Many men from poor developing countries are anxious to get away from the poverty back home.
Consequently, they get online and find a girl that's anxious to find a man. They pretend to fall in love and say sweet stuff to her.
She grins from ear to ear. Never has anyone treated her with such amazing kindness!
Then they promise to marry her. And treat her like a woman deserves to be treated . . . like a queen.
She's ecstatic!
Once they have won her confidence, they begin to make demands.
One of the demands they will make is that she should get them a visa to the U.S. or the country of her residence so they can get married.
Once she does that and they get to the U.S., they disappear.
You're lucky to have decided not participate in the marriage fraud attempt by this guy.
Should you hurt him?
Sounds like a good idea on the outside. But in the long run, you will be hurting yourself because you will end up spending valuable time on scheming his demise.
That won't make you eternally happy.
Read more about marriage fraud at . . .Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I am sorry to say it but long distance relationship usually dont work i know 1st hand. its tough but you have to let go.
Long distant relationships never work out. You never know what or who they are doing. Find someone local.
After seven years, you don't know his real name? x_X
I've heard of another incident where a woman left a man simply 'cause he wouldn't help her get a visa into the USA. =/
Getting even at him, won't do anything helpful. You might as well ask him if there's anything you can do to help him besides getting the visa. You must have a good reason to not help this man, right? Even if he said he wanted to marry you.
I'd leave it alone, and find someone new. LDR's are hard enough without there being ill-will on either side, especially if they have continued for 7 years.
Sounds like he was using you for a visa.
Find someone who wants you for you.
he claimed to love me and wanted to marry me%26gt; but like two weeks ago he just quit writing me after we had a chat session%26gt; after i told him i would not help him with geting a visa to the usa and i would not ask my family to help with this.
then he wrote to me again and somehow he had found a post where i had asked a question on yahoo. if anyone knew him%26gt; and he seen it and sent it to me.he then told me that was not his real name%26gt; he said think god you didnt know my real name.
i have tryed contacting him to just see if he would answer back
and he hasnt so for%26gt; i feel he has made a fool out of me after seven yrs%26gt; he has done this before and showed back up. and dum me let him by with it.i feel angery and hurt but%26gt; i feel like geting even with him%26gt; any advice would do on this please help?Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
Many men from poor developing countries are anxious to get away from the poverty back home.
Consequently, they get online and find a girl that's anxious to find a man. They pretend to fall in love and say sweet stuff to her.
She grins from ear to ear. Never has anyone treated her with such amazing kindness!
Then they promise to marry her. And treat her like a woman deserves to be treated . . . like a queen.
She's ecstatic!
Once they have won her confidence, they begin to make demands.
One of the demands they will make is that she should get them a visa to the U.S. or the country of her residence so they can get married.
Once she does that and they get to the U.S., they disappear.
You're lucky to have decided not participate in the marriage fraud attempt by this guy.
Should you hurt him?
Sounds like a good idea on the outside. But in the long run, you will be hurting yourself because you will end up spending valuable time on scheming his demise.
That won't make you eternally happy.
Read more about marriage fraud at . . .Nedd advice on a long distance relationship?
I am sorry to say it but long distance relationship usually dont work i know 1st hand. its tough but you have to let go.
Long distant relationships never work out. You never know what or who they are doing. Find someone local.
After seven years, you don't know his real name? x_X
I've heard of another incident where a woman left a man simply 'cause he wouldn't help her get a visa into the USA. =/
Getting even at him, won't do anything helpful. You might as well ask him if there's anything you can do to help him besides getting the visa. You must have a good reason to not help this man, right? Even if he said he wanted to marry you.
I'd leave it alone, and find someone new. LDR's are hard enough without there being ill-will on either side, especially if they have continued for 7 years.
Sounds like he was using you for a visa.
Find someone who wants you for you.
Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
i did it with a girl in china, but i can afford it. if you can trust each other and be faithfull and make arrangments to meet on occasion then of course it can work. both should get skype cams. phone calls would not cost you at all as well as emailing each other often. i married my china doll and is the best thing i ever did.Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
Distance really shouldn't be used as a measure of the likelihood of a relationship working or failing, because it isn't.
I suggest you talk as often as possible, try for at least every second day, and have good topics to discuss. You should discuss what happened in your days, etc. but you should also discuss other issues. Get a topic to discuss, e.g. a tv program you both enjoy, or a book you've both read. You should also aim to discuss more important issues, like your fears, desires and future plans. If you're in a normal relationship, this kind of discussion will come normal. If you're long distance, you have to focus to make it work.
The better your communication, the more you will trust each other, and the easier it will be for you to commit to each other. Communication, commitment and trust are the three pillars of a long distance relationship. Work on those 3 and you'll be fine.
You should still try and see each other as often as possible. I'm not going to give you a time limit like ';every four weeks';, etc. Figure out what you can afford to do and plan your life around it. Friends of mine only managed to see each other every 3 months for over a year, and it worked out fine for them. We personally tried for every 4-6 weeks (usually only for a weekend).Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
its nothing harm in long distance relationship, as long as you both are having good and proper understanding for eachother. Trust, love %26amp; carings are the main key features for this type of relations....
Its nothing harm at all........ You should carry on with this if u are involve with someone. Good luck %26amp; God bless you.
It's not impossible, but not advisable.
Long distant relations do not have physical contact and that is the downfall for most who try to challenge it.
its so boring am tellin you..no kisses,no hugs just empty memories of how happy you used to be.........
Distance really shouldn't be used as a measure of the likelihood of a relationship working or failing, because it isn't.
I suggest you talk as often as possible, try for at least every second day, and have good topics to discuss. You should discuss what happened in your days, etc. but you should also discuss other issues. Get a topic to discuss, e.g. a tv program you both enjoy, or a book you've both read. You should also aim to discuss more important issues, like your fears, desires and future plans. If you're in a normal relationship, this kind of discussion will come normal. If you're long distance, you have to focus to make it work.
The better your communication, the more you will trust each other, and the easier it will be for you to commit to each other. Communication, commitment and trust are the three pillars of a long distance relationship. Work on those 3 and you'll be fine.
You should still try and see each other as often as possible. I'm not going to give you a time limit like ';every four weeks';, etc. Figure out what you can afford to do and plan your life around it. Friends of mine only managed to see each other every 3 months for over a year, and it worked out fine for them. We personally tried for every 4-6 weeks (usually only for a weekend).Is a long distance relationship (1300 miles) possible mainly through e mails and phone calls? Any advice?
its nothing harm in long distance relationship, as long as you both are having good and proper understanding for eachother. Trust, love %26amp; carings are the main key features for this type of relations....
Its nothing harm at all........ You should carry on with this if u are involve with someone. Good luck %26amp; God bless you.
It's not impossible, but not advisable.
Long distant relations do not have physical contact and that is the downfall for most who try to challenge it.
its so boring am tellin you..no kisses,no hugs just empty memories of how happy you used to be.........
Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
my best friend introduced me to one of her closest cousins a few months ago. since then, he and i have clicked. we talk about life, love, relationships, anything to make the conversation going. he even wrote a love song for me, which is a first timer for him because he has never wrote a love song for anyone, even his exes. it was mostly based on breakups. even my best friend told me he's telling the truth because they talked about it a few times. i received a msg from him, asying that he wants to ask me an important question that he hopes would make both of us happy. some i asked have said he may ask me out, but the thing is, he lives about 300 miles from me, though we live in the same state. i want to go for it, but i'm scared of the outcome, knowing that i have fallen for him already. any advice? i can surely need it at this point.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
They can work, but they are really really hard. You both need to put 100% in it and fully realize that you need to trust each other. It is easy the first few months, but you wil lsee everyone around you with there partners and everything will remind you of him. It is going to make you bitter, mad, and jealous. The times you have together will be sweet, but going your seperate ways will be twice as hard.
If you love him and he loves you, then go for it. make it work for you.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
on;y way it can work is if you both have the resources to travel back and forth to see each other. without the ability to do that,your visits tend to be rare and that does not make for a good relationship. in order to have a healthy relationship you need to know each other in person
If you are younger than 16 I would just keep this guy as a conversational friend and not try to persue any other kind of relationship. Long distance is hard enough on people with jobs and driver's licenses - and even then they usually don't work out. If you and this guy really have a connection, just stay in touch and wait - you never know what conditions may change. Tying yourself down to someone who is far away can severely mess up your social life, and may cause you to miss out on things you will regret missing later on.
鈾?I think that if you both want it to work then it can. I was in a long distance relationship with my fiace before I moved a state away to be with her. It was hard, especially when I was upset or something happened in my family... but we got through it. She visited me as often as she possibly could and we burned up our cell phone %26amp; txt messaging bills, etc. You both have to sit down %26amp; decide which risks you are both willing to take... it can work but only if ya'll want it to. Good Luck!
honestly hun, follow your heart,
it does not matter what is right or what is wrong ok all you remember is
what would happen if you never followed your heart would you regret it!!!! i think you would
well i think it depends on how many times you see or talk to each other. well in my opinion don't do it.
Ok -- I'll be honest, my boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for 5 monthes now, and we live 35minutes away from one another - even then it's hard to see each other w| school, and work.. We've managed right now, but sometimes we go all wk without seeing one another. Sooo....going 300 miles would be a lot!
GOOD LUCK!~
yea
give it a shot and if it doesnt work ........
well at least you'll know.
It only works if the time apart is for a short while. If there is not a serious discussion relatively soon as to who will move (either you to him, or him to you), then let it go. Others will tell you different, and I am sure there are some rare stories of prolonged seperations where everything ends up ';magical'; in the end - But that is very rare.
Also, it depends on your age, both chronologically and your true mental age. If you are real young -let it go. Either way, it will all work out in the end -one way or another. Good luck.
They can definately work out as long as both of you put everything into it. I was in a long distance relationship for a long time and she ended up moving in with me and now we are engaged set to be married next year. There just needs to be 100% from both of you and everything will work out fine. And, move closer to each other soon, Don't make it long distance forever.
first know if both of you are in the right age and fully understand what love is, for the outcome still rely on both of your understanding's, neither do i'am in your kind a situation, what we do is we always keep in touch through what ever gadgets we have and trust... though its hard, we always come up to a way where we can set a schedule for us to meet in a place, doesn't matter weather i go to a country where she was or the place where i am...
honestly NO i dont think so because you neva know what that person is doing and being honest with u
my cousin has been dating a guy 2yrs long distance. She is in new york and he is in maryland. Things are great she says u get 2 know each other on a different level, and u get more creative. U never knoww till u try.
yes they can work. My sister has been in college in Kentucky for 4 years, while her fiance has been here in missouri. And they are going to get married when she graduates this summer. Its stressful, but you can do it. It takes ALOT of hard work, trust, commitment, patience, and a million other things. It wont be easy, but if you love this guy, and think your meant for eachother, then go for it! Everything happens for a reason, and whether positive or negative things have a way of working themselves out for the better in the long run. Good luck!
They can work, but they are really really hard. You both need to put 100% in it and fully realize that you need to trust each other. It is easy the first few months, but you wil lsee everyone around you with there partners and everything will remind you of him. It is going to make you bitter, mad, and jealous. The times you have together will be sweet, but going your seperate ways will be twice as hard.
If you love him and he loves you, then go for it. make it work for you.Can long distance relationships work? i'm in a situation where i don't know if i want to go for it. advice ?
on;y way it can work is if you both have the resources to travel back and forth to see each other. without the ability to do that,your visits tend to be rare and that does not make for a good relationship. in order to have a healthy relationship you need to know each other in person
If you are younger than 16 I would just keep this guy as a conversational friend and not try to persue any other kind of relationship. Long distance is hard enough on people with jobs and driver's licenses - and even then they usually don't work out. If you and this guy really have a connection, just stay in touch and wait - you never know what conditions may change. Tying yourself down to someone who is far away can severely mess up your social life, and may cause you to miss out on things you will regret missing later on.
鈾?I think that if you both want it to work then it can. I was in a long distance relationship with my fiace before I moved a state away to be with her. It was hard, especially when I was upset or something happened in my family... but we got through it. She visited me as often as she possibly could and we burned up our cell phone %26amp; txt messaging bills, etc. You both have to sit down %26amp; decide which risks you are both willing to take... it can work but only if ya'll want it to. Good Luck!
honestly hun, follow your heart,
it does not matter what is right or what is wrong ok all you remember is
what would happen if you never followed your heart would you regret it!!!! i think you would
well i think it depends on how many times you see or talk to each other. well in my opinion don't do it.
Ok -- I'll be honest, my boyfriend %26amp; I have been together for 5 monthes now, and we live 35minutes away from one another - even then it's hard to see each other w| school, and work.. We've managed right now, but sometimes we go all wk without seeing one another. Sooo....going 300 miles would be a lot!
GOOD LUCK!~
yea
give it a shot and if it doesnt work ........
well at least you'll know.
It only works if the time apart is for a short while. If there is not a serious discussion relatively soon as to who will move (either you to him, or him to you), then let it go. Others will tell you different, and I am sure there are some rare stories of prolonged seperations where everything ends up ';magical'; in the end - But that is very rare.
Also, it depends on your age, both chronologically and your true mental age. If you are real young -let it go. Either way, it will all work out in the end -one way or another. Good luck.
They can definately work out as long as both of you put everything into it. I was in a long distance relationship for a long time and she ended up moving in with me and now we are engaged set to be married next year. There just needs to be 100% from both of you and everything will work out fine. And, move closer to each other soon, Don't make it long distance forever.
first know if both of you are in the right age and fully understand what love is, for the outcome still rely on both of your understanding's, neither do i'am in your kind a situation, what we do is we always keep in touch through what ever gadgets we have and trust... though its hard, we always come up to a way where we can set a schedule for us to meet in a place, doesn't matter weather i go to a country where she was or the place where i am...
honestly NO i dont think so because you neva know what that person is doing and being honest with u
my cousin has been dating a guy 2yrs long distance. She is in new york and he is in maryland. Things are great she says u get 2 know each other on a different level, and u get more creative. U never knoww till u try.
yes they can work. My sister has been in college in Kentucky for 4 years, while her fiance has been here in missouri. And they are going to get married when she graduates this summer. Its stressful, but you can do it. It takes ALOT of hard work, trust, commitment, patience, and a million other things. It wont be easy, but if you love this guy, and think your meant for eachother, then go for it! Everything happens for a reason, and whether positive or negative things have a way of working themselves out for the better in the long run. Good luck!
What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
He said he'll write later , should I wait or send him an email if he hasn't write?
He's pretty busy, just came back from a business trip and he send me an email asking how I was, so I shortly replied and then he commented but said he was sorry for writing that short email but he was very busy and that'll write later.
well that was almost a week ago. Should I wait or write to him in a couple of days more?What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
ggive him a couple of days to write back
i know it kills me too to know about my love but i wait for him to write me.
that way he knows that he has his space.you don't wanna be too clingy and (no offense) writing him too much seems clingy.
if he doesnt write back in like 4 days then write him just casually don't bring up the old email or demand to know why he didn't write you.
just write something like
hey baby.what's up
something casual
hope i helped
%26lt;3Cesar's baby%26lt;3What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
Best of luck with your relationship! I hope it all goes really well for you! Iwould wait for him to mail. I agree with the person above, you don't want to sound too clingy, maybe you should give it a couple more days. But, he shouldn't really make excuses about being too busy because he should always find time for loved ones, even if it is at 4am...
Wait a while and in the mean time make yourself busy so that time goes quicker.. Patience is very hard, but I think that you should think it through why he's making you wait.. What kind of person he is finding excuses.. All the best! x
almost a week ago??girl, i am sure he has a couple minutes to check his e-mail and write you back no matter how busy he is..you should write him today not a couple of days its been almost a week there is nothing wrong with writing him now.
Long distance relationships never work. Besides its something more going on if he loved and cared about you he would call you before he goes to sleep. You're the last thing on his mind. Sorry but its true. You should end it now it will save you the heart break.
If he's really busy, give it another week. I agree though; long-distance relationships won't work, unless you're older and mature enough to wait. Go on with your life until you hear back from him.
Sump'm fishy goin' on, girl... I think he's found other ';pursuits.'; I'd say goodbye and find someone closer...
He's pretty busy, just came back from a business trip and he send me an email asking how I was, so I shortly replied and then he commented but said he was sorry for writing that short email but he was very busy and that'll write later.
well that was almost a week ago. Should I wait or write to him in a couple of days more?What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
ggive him a couple of days to write back
i know it kills me too to know about my love but i wait for him to write me.
that way he knows that he has his space.you don't wanna be too clingy and (no offense) writing him too much seems clingy.
if he doesnt write back in like 4 days then write him just casually don't bring up the old email or demand to know why he didn't write you.
just write something like
hey baby.what's up
something casual
hope i helped
%26lt;3Cesar's baby%26lt;3What do you think I should do, Long distance relationship question? Please advice!?
Best of luck with your relationship! I hope it all goes really well for you! Iwould wait for him to mail. I agree with the person above, you don't want to sound too clingy, maybe you should give it a couple more days. But, he shouldn't really make excuses about being too busy because he should always find time for loved ones, even if it is at 4am...
Wait a while and in the mean time make yourself busy so that time goes quicker.. Patience is very hard, but I think that you should think it through why he's making you wait.. What kind of person he is finding excuses.. All the best! x
almost a week ago??girl, i am sure he has a couple minutes to check his e-mail and write you back no matter how busy he is..you should write him today not a couple of days its been almost a week there is nothing wrong with writing him now.
Long distance relationships never work. Besides its something more going on if he loved and cared about you he would call you before he goes to sleep. You're the last thing on his mind. Sorry but its true. You should end it now it will save you the heart break.
If he's really busy, give it another week. I agree though; long-distance relationships won't work, unless you're older and mature enough to wait. Go on with your life until you hear back from him.
Sump'm fishy goin' on, girl... I think he's found other ';pursuits.'; I'd say goodbye and find someone closer...
Anyone have advice on making a long distance relationship work?
Me and my boyfriend broke-up two weeks a go because the stress of our long distance relationship was getting to us. neather of us want to break up, i think we just need to find a way to help manage our relationship.Anyone have advice on making a long distance relationship work?
communication is the biggest thing that you need to make it work.Anyone have advice on making a long distance relationship work?
I'm in a pretty much ldr too--COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE! as much as you can. Enjoy the time when you are together, don't get me started on trust and just try to stay sane. I get to missin my man sooo much but we talke everyday and that cheers me up.
Leave it as it is - long distance relationships seldom work.
My boyfriend and I made it through a long distance relationship no problem. You need to know you have to be willing to sacrifice your free time for him. Instead of going out with friends, all I wanted to do when I came home was talk to him. We both sacrificed for each other alot! And we both have faith in each other. No we weren't perfect, its not like we never fought. But we must have done something right, cause three years later we're living together and planning our wedding. It works if you both want it to.
ALSO. Cute little tips to put a smile on his face, start doing rituals. Like Id email my honey lots and at the bottom of our message we'd type one memory, one inside joke, or something we couldnt wait to do when we saw the other person!
Or Id send him dorky little cards out of the blue. Some were romantic, others were funny. Just to let him know that even at the drugstore i was thinking bout him.
Andddd on music.yahoo.com you can email videos to people. If we heard a great song that reminded us of one another, id send it to him.
Little things count!
The only thing that can make a long distance relationship work is one word TRUST!!!!!!!!
the only way that long distance works, is if one of you is will to move at certain point in time, if its open ended, it never works, if you cant say in 6months, 12 months, whatever, I will move there, it has no real chance.
I am in a long distance relationship right now and its totally working. Me and my boi have been together for 5 months now and you just have to know if you can totally trust each other. Talk whenever you can for as long as you can, see each other as often as you can...if its meant to be it will work out =)
I m in a long distance relationship..........and it's working..........but it depends what u want from the relationship............I want just someone with whom I can talk..........I can chat ........I can b friendly with...................but if u want to have sex or want to get married.............u will have to come closer to make it feasible
If you two are gonna be apart for awhile, say more than a year, then forget about it. You both are gonna start new lives and date other people.coupons moon drops
communication is the biggest thing that you need to make it work.Anyone have advice on making a long distance relationship work?
I'm in a pretty much ldr too--COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE! as much as you can. Enjoy the time when you are together, don't get me started on trust and just try to stay sane. I get to missin my man sooo much but we talke everyday and that cheers me up.
Leave it as it is - long distance relationships seldom work.
My boyfriend and I made it through a long distance relationship no problem. You need to know you have to be willing to sacrifice your free time for him. Instead of going out with friends, all I wanted to do when I came home was talk to him. We both sacrificed for each other alot! And we both have faith in each other. No we weren't perfect, its not like we never fought. But we must have done something right, cause three years later we're living together and planning our wedding. It works if you both want it to.
ALSO. Cute little tips to put a smile on his face, start doing rituals. Like Id email my honey lots and at the bottom of our message we'd type one memory, one inside joke, or something we couldnt wait to do when we saw the other person!
Or Id send him dorky little cards out of the blue. Some were romantic, others were funny. Just to let him know that even at the drugstore i was thinking bout him.
Andddd on music.yahoo.com you can email videos to people. If we heard a great song that reminded us of one another, id send it to him.
Little things count!
The only thing that can make a long distance relationship work is one word TRUST!!!!!!!!
the only way that long distance works, is if one of you is will to move at certain point in time, if its open ended, it never works, if you cant say in 6months, 12 months, whatever, I will move there, it has no real chance.
I am in a long distance relationship right now and its totally working. Me and my boi have been together for 5 months now and you just have to know if you can totally trust each other. Talk whenever you can for as long as you can, see each other as often as you can...if its meant to be it will work out =)
I m in a long distance relationship..........and it's working..........but it depends what u want from the relationship............I want just someone with whom I can talk..........I can chat ........I can b friendly with...................but if u want to have sex or want to get married.............u will have to come closer to make it feasible
If you two are gonna be apart for awhile, say more than a year, then forget about it. You both are gonna start new lives and date other people.
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